I'll pull you in for a kiss with my hand around your jaw in public. I'll lean down over your shoulder and blow sweet promises against your ear while making eye contact with someone who's been a little too friendly with you. I'll pull you into my lap in a crowded bar when we're enjoying the night with friends, and I'll place my hand just a bit too far up your thigh to still be appropriate. I'll make jokes towards our friends about how you've probably spent more time on your knees in our apartment than on your feet. I'll leave marks and bruises on your neck - and tell you to wear clothes that show that your neck is not the only place I've marked up. I'll remind you to "be nice" and "behave", and I'll throw you reminding glances when you step too far out of line. I'll put compromising pictures of you as my homescreen. I'll have us leave a public bathroom together with your hair disheveled, your lips swollen and your cheeks red and telling. I'll excuse us from an event, much earlier than socially acceptable, and make sure that everyone knows for what reason. I'll have you tied up in the bedroom with a vibrator tormenting you and a gag forcing you to stay quiet, while our guests are two rooms away and I tell them you're "occupied, but home" when they ask about you. I'll push people's hands away when they reach out to touch you without my permission. I'll let my hand brush over your ass when I feel like making sure your plug is still in place.

"This is an LGBT safe space. Of COURSE I fully support individuals who identify as transgender and their right to self-determination! I just think that transitioning is a very serious choice and should be heavily regulated. And there could be a lot of harm in exposing cis children to such topics, so we should be really careful about when it is appropriate to mention trans issues or have too much trans visibility."

apparently he (who through my drunken memory I remember only as Earl) liked some woman, and she told him that he wasn't cultured enough and needed to attend his first drag show (she also flaked on him)

Now I'm reasonably androgynous and was wearing makeup, a short leather skirt, and black heeled boots, but still when this guy came up to me when I was standing off alone and asked "So. Do you come here often?" with a very earnest expression, I thought. Surely not. This guy doesn't think I'm a straight woman does he????

Anyway I start talking with this guy and he has no idea what the fuck is going on but he is just a very kind and earnest dude and asked a lot of questions (while asking if it was alright if he asked those questions). I track down my husband and friends and I'm like y'all. We need to make sure that Earl has a Good Fucking Time tonight.

Man was completely out of his depth. At one point they put on a puppy auction to raise money for Pride, that started with a 6 ft drag queen in all her glory leading a leather pup out on a leash to the tune of that damned RSPCA "in the arms of the angels" song

We look at Earl. Nervous. He squints, laughs, and then goes "I was wondering why people were dressed like that!" He turned to me and asked "So they're like dogs?" And I said yeah pretty much. And he just chuckled and went "Yeah I thought so with the tails! Never seen this before!"

When the first drag king came out, Earl looked at me wide eyed and went "There's a dude version too?!" And I said yeah they're called drag kings. And he said, low, "Drag kings."

During one of the queens performances, he frowned, shook his head and told me, "Your legs are better than hers." in a tone that implied he thought there was some travesty taking place and I should also be getting paid

When he found out I was there with my husband (and that I am not a woman) he profusely apologized and said "I'm so sorry, it's dark in here and I thought you were a hot chick! I wouldn't have said nothing if I knew you had a husband, I'm so sorry about that."

When beemovie invited me to the dance floor with him later and I still had a drink in my hand, Earl said "Oh don't worry about that I can hold your drink, you get on out there and shake your ass with your husband!" Then before we left, Earl bought me drinks for "Putting up with me all night and answering everything. Y'all helped me have a great time tonight."

like. You gotta recognize there's going to people who have never had interacted outside of their of their own community. This includes you. And just because your community is familiar with all the right vocabulary and how to correctly say something, it doesn't mean they're actually going to support you. If someone like Earl shows up, confused and out of their depth but kind and curious and earnest, you gotta have patience and truck through the small things, so when he goes back to his friends and his coworkers and they snicker asking how the drag show was, he can genuinely talk about how included we tried to make him feel and that he had a great time

It’s a shirtless dude in a ickle little goofy leather doggy-woggy mask ooooooh terrifying how threatening how terrifying I am traumatised from even imagining it please help me Jesus!!! 😭

Subs who rub their entire face against said bulge, ignoring the fabric

Subs who beg you not to shower before they suck you off

Subs who can't stop getting themselves off while their mouth is on you

Subs who passionately sniff bulges and moan when the scent gets to their head

Subs who could spend hours just giving head and feeling full, heavy balls on their face

Whine. Squeak. Do not touch - hump.

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There's no shame in being exclusively a sub or exclusively a dom. It's also not "boring". Your preferences matter, they're very valid, and no one's worth ignoring your own comfort for.

Also, if you do enjoy domming or subbing and still prefer to call yourself only a sub or only a dom, that's very valid too. Labels should make you comfortable and not make you feel like you've stuffed yourself into a too tight box.