Hey I'm not so sure if this relates to my ADHD or not, however every time my parents ask me to do something right as im about to get up to do said thing, or am thinking about doing it, I respond aggressively and the smart part of me tries to tell me they cant read my mind and since i usually forget to do it the first 5 times.... Anyway I try to find words to tell them "I don't want you to remind me [to late] but I need you to sometimes but not right now how would you know that though h e l p"
;alksjf;asldasdsjdf a;slj god the number of times I’ve felt a spike of irritation because I’ve been thinking for the last 45 minutes ‘get up and do it. do it. do it. do it. do it’ and then somebody comes and says ‘hey can you do the thing’. you literally put it into words. how even. there it is. that’s exactly the feel
but just now as I’ve been typing this answer I’m thinking: what if we kind of … need a person to remind us to do the thing so that our brain can stop running in circles trying to force us to do the thing?
like - I could really do without the rejection sensitive dysphoria feeling that causes the immediate anger. in my case it’s definitely the part of my brain that’s like ‘wow I’m the worst because I didn’t do it until someone reminded me but it’s their fault because I didn’t need reminding in the first place’. but otoh, would I really have gotten up to do it without someone outside poking me? because I think - at least for me - I’ve been telling myself ‘i’m gonna get up and do it NOW’ for like an hour usually and so while I was ‘about to do it’ I don’t know if I would have actually … done it? I don’t knoooooww.
so maybe what we need is to explain this to our reminder person? like ‘hey, I want you to know that usually when you ‘remind’ me I’m actually thinking about getting up to do it but having a hard time actually getting up to do it. so can you phrase it some way that’s not as a reminder? but more like ‘hey, are you having a hard time getting up to do the thing? this is just me trying to help you to get up to do the thing’ or something.
this got long and maybe too hard to read! sorry :C but thanks for giving me thinky thoughts about this.
