i don't know what to say

coming to realize for me growing up is just more and more growing into the understanding and compassion to leave people be. nothing is about you. everyone is communicating their own projections and working through things and coming into their own understanding. it’s a projection and you can extend your own grace to people to work through and grow at their own pace and just mindfully accept them where they’re at just like you’d want other people to do for you. it has nothing to do with you. you don’t have to always make it a fight, because it’s not an attack. their outlook says nothing about you and there’s no reason to be defensive. you can be secure and grounded in yourself. get to point where you can trust in your own self and the people around and that you care about to understand as well. it’s letting go. giving up the struggle because you’re solid in your self. turning away from the instinct to project.