Sappy Pathetic Little Me

There was a woman whose car broke down, and she was in a pretty shoddy area, looked poor and run down.

She called her parents for help saying she was scared.

Eventually a group of men, 3 of them stopped and said they would help her fix her car.

2 of the men kidnapped her and tried to rape her in alley while the other one stood and watched.

Them because of all the commotion another group of men hear and basically run off an fight the 3 men who tried to rape her.

Sounds good right? Wait for it...

These new men then offer to get her help and they walk with her, unbeknownst to the woman they were leading her to this abandoned dumpster area that was secluded.

Where the 3 men then brutally raped her and then through her unconscious bodie in the dumpster.

They set her on fire while she was alive.

Her family by now worried go to the police and tell them my daughter is missing.

The police say to the family your daughter is probably hoeing around.

It was a week before someone passing by smelled what was like rotting flesh and decided to look in the dumpster.

They were able to id her.

The type of fucking cruelty that men display can only specifically be found in their sex.

I can not think of any story of women lying to help a man then tricking him to then rape and set him on fire...

And apparently its not even the worst one. There was another story about jumper cables that went viral it reached even hear.

Women are expected to reject their “women privilege” (free drinks, attention, etc.) they receive as women.

However, Women are still expected to maintain the reasons they experience this women privilege: being beautiful, doing their hair, working out, being charming, etc.

Women are expected to perform the “feminine burdens” but still reject the corresponding “women privilege”

To make matters worse, Women are then expected to uptake some of the “masculine burdens”: paying for dates, high earning jobs, working long hours, etc.

BUT Women are then still denied the corresponding “male privilege” of professional respect, higher salaries, voice heard, etc.

Women are now expected to perform more “masculine burdens” but without any corresponding “male privilege”

Women are expected to reject their “women privilege” (free drinks, attention, etc.) they receive as women.

However, Women are still expected to maintain the reasons they experience this women privilege: being beautiful, doing their hair, working out, being charming, etc.

Women are expected to perform the “feminine burdens” but still reject the corresponding “women privilege”

To make matters worse, Women are then expected to uptake some of the “masculine burdens”: paying for dates, high earning jobs, working long hours, etc.

BUT Women are then still denied the corresponding “male privilege” of professional respect, higher salaries, voice heard, etc.

Women are now expected to perform more “masculine burdens” but without any corresponding “male privilege”

When I was in high school, a man who I’d thought was the parent of a school friend followed me out to the grocery store parking lot greenhouse where I worked. It was dark, and late, and it was me, alone, in a chain link enclosure with one exit and a register full of cash. He called me up to the fence and asked if I wanted to get dinner, or go dancing. I was scared and shaking and told him no several times, and he only left when I falsely said I had a boyfriend. I was very aware that if he were to come over the fence, or just wait at the exit until I eventually had to leave, I could do nothing about it.

When my hair was very short, a hairdresser sent me to the barber’s side of the store so they could get the back of my head with clippers. The barber followed me out to my car to ask me out afterwards. I was very aware that we were the only people in the parking lot when it happened, and that the lot itself was tucked behind the building with no clear visibility to the road.

Today, a man I’ve met once made it very clear he knows where I live, and used that knowledge to express a romantic interest. If he ever decides that he’s unhappy with how I responded, he knows where I live. He knows what my car looks like. It is impossibly easy for him to determine when I’m home alone, and now I have to live with that knowledge.

Every woman I know has at least one story like this. My roommate had to be escorted to her car every night when she was a waitress, in case some man was waiting for her or a coworker’s shift to end.

If the person you want to ask out cannot physically run away from you when you are asking, YOU CANNOT ASK THEM OUT. You cannot ask someone out if they are at work. You cannot ask someone out if you’ve followed them to a remote/unoccupied/enclosed area. You cannot GO TO SOMEONE’S HOME UNINVITED to ask them out. You are not being romantic. You are not “taking initiative”. You are terrifying the person you want to woo. If they say yes, it is not because they want to, it is because they are terrified of what might happen if they say no.