This oneβs a pretty big deal.Β Β βDid you come?βΒ Β
No, but it still felt great
Yes, and it felt really great
Yes, but coming isnβt that big a deal for me
No, do you want to watch me get myself off?
Yes, but donβt get a big head about it β I come so easily it doesnβt matter whatΒ you do.
No, but I bet I can get you up again
Yes, but Iβd rather keep edging because I always get a huge drop after coming and it really puts me off sex for a while
No, thank you, orgasm denial leaves me deliciously horny for days
No, and Iβm really frustrated, letβs brainstorm how to change that
All of these are fucking awesome answers.Β Including the last one.Β Theyβre also 100% legitimate answers.Β Including the last one.
Only the last one is even a little bitΒ βnegative,β and, really, how bad, arrogant, or egocentric a lover do you have to be that youβd rather not know when your partner saysΒ βhere are some great ways to help me come next time, lover?β
If on the other hand youβre going to panic or be unhappy about that last answer then youβre not a bad lover (no shame either way) but your sex life will be less workable.Β With the result that youβll continue having, well, the same result.
To be honest, whether you or your partner comes isnβt the most important thing about sex.Β Itβs whether youβre both satisfiedΒ afterwards.Β The only trick being thatΒ
You get to decide whatΒ βsatisfiedβ means for you
You donβt get to decide whatΒ βsatisfiedβ means for your partner(s.)Β Β
AskingΒ βdid you comeβ isnβt really the right question.Β Β βDoes this work for youβ is way healthier.Β ThatβsΒ the culture we want to look for and encourage.
P.S. Your partner isnβt a video game.Β His or her orgasms arenβt a boss fight.Β The question you want to ask isnβtΒ βdid I beat the previous high scoreβ butΒ βwould you like to play again.β
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