Saphfoe

Infighting via oppression Olympics telling other queer people under threat of political violence (or if they’re lucky, not) that they’re invalid because of their lack of marginalization or whatever is obscenely stupid. It’s the same thinking that results in any demographic supremacist ideology.

You are not better than anyone. Humans, assuming they’re not making an active choice to harm others, are all deserving of the same dignity and validation. Obviously, being a Black trans woman comes with more stigma and marginalization than being a white gay man in America by the government and by society. However, at the end of the day, your racial identity as a queer only delays the inevitable. Gay men were sent to death camps in Nazi Germany same as trans people, just later.

We have a common enemy that wants us both dead and criticizing people for being able to put off being affected by it is just idiotic. People don’t choose to be more or less marginalized just like we didn’t choose to be faggots. White cishet passing queers who understand that they need to stand up for their racialized and non-passing siblings and comrades are valuable. Those of us who are visibly trans, visibly gay, who can’t dodge on sight verbal or even physical violence, need to work with queers who can because it’s only a matter of time until they can’t either. If our most vulnerable go, we all go. We’re several lines into the “and then they came for” poem, and it’s not going to get better if we continue fighting each other instead of our common enemy: fascism, hate, bigotry, greed and capital.

In the UK, gay marriage is completely legal and changing your gender marker is entirely ceremonial granting no legal change to the person.

It was only recently in Cuba that trans people could update their gender without getting reassignment surgery.

they were contemporarily hated for just being these giant grey monoliths