I think amatonormativity got everyone a little fucked up. Like the people who have endured awful relationships because they thought it was better than being alone. The people who have given up everything for "love", maybe their careers, maybe their friends, who knows, because they thought it'd make them happier.
There's probably more examples of this but I wanted to emphasize how this is not just a problem for aromantics, how it affects everyone including allos
Look, itβs me. Iβm one of those allos.
I recently got diagnosed with bpd, which explains why I will go to such great lengths to avoid abandonment, but it wasnβt until even more recently that I began to realise how much my motherβs worldview has shaped me as well. She truly seems to believe that thereβs no happiness without a romantic relationship, and thatβs the idea sheβs been feeding me my entire life. Iβm not going to plague you with details on my motherβs bullshit and the things sheβs said and done, but I will say that discovering the aro community on tumblr has really helped me reshape my own worldview and improve my mental health.
So, big thanks from this allo. I know Iβm not your primary target group, but I still appreciate it.











