Salman

The Sublime Revelation (Al-Fath ar-Rabbani)

The Sublime Revelation (Al-Fath ar-Rabbani)

“Skills for Coping with Criticism Relax: criticism leads you to tense up, which makes it harder to come up with an adequate response. Avoid retaliation: don’t counterattack right away. Stay on their topic. Hold back: most of the time, the other person wants to upset you. Don’t give them this pleasure. Don’t demand perfection: don’t expect people to give you perfect feedback. Validate their perception and emotions: I see what you mean, I understand why you feel upset goes a long way. Agree in part Listen and wait Narrow and specify: people are often vague, ask exactly what didn’t go well. Explain without offering excuses: I’m sorry I missed the call is better than long excuses as they highlight a lack of confidence. Don’t try to change their mind Thank the critic Respond to the style: if the critic was kind, react this way. If it was aggressive, point that out. Ask for time: sometimes it is better to ask for some time before answering.”