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“If one day… you have someone that you like please tell me. Alright?”

the social realist irony of sun jing's father listing out qualities that are specifically associated with women's gender construct in a casual conversation vs. how these boxes of activities sun jing is allowed to perform, hence as her father narrates desirable qualities in a woman (with the repetition of "my daughter" echoing throughout chapter 189) casually reflects how, even subliminally, gender performance is dictated by the patriarchal narrative. it's also that if a woman were to live freely, it would still be under the determinism of heteropatriarchy; if she were to eschew from it, she would be at fault for having agency: even when her agency is an illusion of boxes to walk on like an arcade game. for sun jing's father to put standards for her before she was born symbolizes how womanhood is predetermined by those who live outside it; cementing this illusion of women's relationship with femininity inherent. i think the emphasis on assault in tamen de gushi also represents how asian women are disproportionately trafficked and fetishized under male gaze, even though this chapter emphasizes on an issue that leans toward constructs of white femininity, these aren't divorceable factors affecting each other.