Six Types of Unsatisfactory Men:
I think we've all had fantasies about married men, there can be something alluring about a man with a ring on his finger but know this, he's already made his choice and the woman he chose was not you. He's made himself a life with his wife and you should not intervene. Now, it takes two to tango but you can easily refuse to be his dancing partner. A relationship that begins with one partner who commits an act of infidelity will never truly last, if he cheated with you, you'll always have to worry if he's carrying on the cheating lifestyle whilst he's with you, that's if he even leaves his wife. If a man promises over and over that he'll leave his wife for you but never does, he was never going to leave her in the first place and, if he does leave his wife, you don't want to marry a man who's willing to leave his wife for a woman he cheated on with, history tends to repeat itself and it's not always pleasant.
This isn't Property Brothers and unless your man is Jonathan or Drew Scott, you don't want to waste your time renovating and remodelling him. I've said it once and I'll say it a million times, men will never truly be 'fixed' until they want to fix themselves. Don't take on a grown man as a fixer upper project because you can't fix the habits he's engrained in himself throughout his entire life, if he doesn't want to change for himself, he won't change for you. Imagine putting yourself in a position where you feel the need to attempt to fix someone to the point where you actually want to be with him. If you don't meet someone and immediately embrace them for who they are, move on. You shouldn't feel obligated to fix someone, there's someone out there who's perfect for you and there's someone weeks perfect for him. Move on and find that guy.
There's no difference to me when it comes down to being unable to hold down a job and simply not wanting to. There's no reason that your man shouldn't either be working at a job, working on themselves, working with your children, or working on school. You can't pull all the weight and do everything on your own. I hate this mindset that some men have that they're too good for some jobs, a real man and a truly good partner is willing to take whatever opportunity he's given and work as hard as he can until something better comes along. Be it working at Starbucks to alleviate some of your stress while he's in school or taking up a job as a garbage man, your man needs to be either steadily employed, working on himself, or contributing to your household in some other major way that benefits the both of you. I see woman after woman who's perfectly content to allow her partner to sit on his bum and do nothing while she works and takes care of their children, that sort of woman also tends to be the type to endlessly complain about her partner. Be the type of woman who sets down boundaries and doesn't allow herself to continue on in a completely one sided relationship that doesn't benefit her.
Yes, he's bilingual, he speaks English and you'll soon come to learn that he's also speaking to 13 other girls as well as you. Don't bother with The Player. If he's unwilling to commit to one woman and all of his relationships are dysfunctional, don't subject yourself to the entire process of mind games and hoops that you'll have to jump through to convince yourself that he's worth it. He's not. You don't want to be with a man who you have to beg to only be with you. That insecurity of knowing that he is taking to other girls and the wondering you'll do about him finding better than you can be easily alleviated, leave him and find a man who's not dysfunctional and can commit himself to one relationship and one woman. There's no need to stay with a man who leads you on with empty promises, it'll continue as long as he's willing to trying you along and it will never be on your terms. Leave him and end the games he's playing to show that you're capable of seeing through his smokescreens and find someone isn't all smoke and mirrors when it comes to dating.
He's able to manipulate any situation to his benefit, he'll make you think that you're absolutely off your rocker, he'll make you think that the people around you are out to get you, and he'll do anything in his power to make everything always benefit him. He's the King of Emotional Abuse, he'll berate you and them try to make you think that his actions and the words that came out of his mouth were your own fault, he'll do anything to feel power over you, and he needs to feel like everything that comes under his gaze or purview is completely under his influence and his control, he has an image to maintain and he won't let anything come in the way of what he believes is perfection. These types of men always have one thing in common, they always have extremely unhappy and unsatisfied wives and partners or they're just alone because no woman wants to deal with him and his antics. Once you begin to realise that he's an emotional abuser, flee and watch your life begin to improve once one of the elements of toxicity has been removed from it.
I call him the Older Dude because he's not really a man, he's an older guy who's in the middle of his midlife crisis or something and wants a hot young girlfriend to take his mind off of his rapidly approaching mortality. He's never been able to hold down a long lasting relationship with a woman his own age because they can see right through him and his childish antics and want nothing to do with him and so he settles for women much younger than him because he never truly emotionally matured past the age of 25. No matter how successful he may be, if he's in his forties and he's had a ton unsuccessful relationships with young girlfriends, he's never considered dating a woman his own age, and he's showing no sign of stopping to slow down and mature, you will never be able to make a relationship work with him and you shouldn't waste your time with a man double your age. You'll see it in a lot of older male celebrities (isn't it time DiCaprio settled down?) and you'll see it in a lot of wealthy men, they live their lifestyles fast and loose with women much younger than them and then they wonder why they don't have stability and why they haven't been able to build a proper family. They still need time to mature and they need to do that on their own time and on their own accord, without you guiding them through every step.
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