Reminder that abusers can be abusive by accident.
Reminder that abusers can genuinely, wholeheartedly believe that they are doing you a favor by abusing you.
Reminder that some abusers never apologize because they genuinely, wholeheartedly believe their abuse was for the better.
You’re allowed to know and acknowledge this and still be upset!
Explanation is not an excuse.
Some people abuse purely to cause a victim pain.
Others abuse for more complicated reasons.
But that doesn’t negate the fact that they abused you.
Even if there were aggravating circumstances, you are still allowed to still be mad at your abuser. You were not in control of their circumstances in their life and it was unfair you had to suffer the consequences.
Abuse is abuse, no matter the circumstances.
















