DancingInMyMelanin

"A marriage ending isn't a failure at all. I spent eleven years with her. We were so in love that we couldn't image life apart from each other. We got our own place, adopted a dog, and supported each other through school. I thought if tow people loved each other enough the rest would fall into place, except... love isn't everything.

And I didn't want to believe that, but we were sitting in counseling one day, talking about our future and I realized we were describing two completely different lives. Where we'd live, what kind of life we wanted, what made us happy. And it hit me that- I love this woman and this woman loved me. And after eleven years of loss, grief, career changes, we were so deeply in love... but we weren't aligned. And I kept thinking 'We just need to try harder. We can find some compromise to make this work,' because that's what you're supposed to do when you love someone, right?

But the reality was, we had just become different people. Her trade school took her in one direction, my graduate degree in another and trying to force us back into who we were five years ago wasn't coming from a place of love. It was coming from a place of fear. Fear that, if this ended, it meant we wasted eleven years. But sitting there across from her, I realized: That's not how love works.

Those eleven years happened. They were real. The dog, our home, showing up for each other through grad school and trade school. I wouldn't change a single thing because loving someone doesn't mean you're meant to stay with them forever. And letting go doesn't erase what you had. We measure marriage by whether it lasts forever or not, but what if we measured it by whether it mattered?

What if we measured it by the love we gave, the life we built, and the people we became? Because love's job isn't to last forever, it's to help you become fully completely yourself, and sometimes the most loving thing you can do is give each other permission to be yourselves, separately. But the dog doesn't know were' divorced. He just gets two Christmases now."

“To a love unbound by gender, standing resolute against the tides of time.” 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈

Because you're a tsundere little idiot who needs to be better to his boyfriend who is far more insecure than he lets on.

❤️🧡💛💚💙💜

Bonus RAINBOWS!

Thank You

Thee: Mueng

Arrived? I’m parked

At the restaurant

I’ll order first

but you pay, okay?

silent

Driving?

Are you coming? Don’t tell me you won’t come

Ai’P’Phop! He’s super upset right now

Almost here? Another day?

Wishing Upon the Shooting Stars // Finale

And that message has been the heart of everything. That was what he learned from being forgotten... how much he was loved. Because he genuinely never knew he was loved. He spent a lifetime rejecting all the love he was shown because he never believed they could love him until he was shown through another person's eyes and now he has to accept, fully, how loved he is.

And this! THIS. The absolute agony of remembering forgetting the most important person in your life and knowing it hurt them and knowing that you never wanted to hurt them, that so much of your life was trying desperately to find a way to stop hurting him? Oh, these two.