Frankie

Asexual Awareness Week, Day Two.

A mini-list of words, items, or symbols you might find in asexual atmospheres: (____ can be substituted with -sexuality or -romanticism)

Aces - As in, from a deck of cards. Used as a basic symbol, especially the ace of spades.

Abro____ - Attraction that changes and fluxuates

Aceflux -  Sexual attraction that changes and fluxuates

Aroflux -  Romantic attraction that changes and fluxuates

Alloace - Shorthand for Alloromantic Asexual

Aroace - Shorthand for Aromantic Asexual

Autochoris____ - Attraction with a disconnect between oneself and the source of arousal, with little to no desire to participate

Allosexual/Zedsexual - Someone who feels sexual attraction

Alloromantic/Zedromantic - Someone who feels romantic attraction

Black Ring -  A black ring is most commonly worn on the right middle finger to signify asexuality

Celibate -  Someone who does not engage in sexual activity. Separate from sexual orientation.

Cupio____ - No attraction is felt, but there is a desire for a relationship

Demi_____ - Attraction that only develops after already having another kind of bond

Fray____ - Attraction that is initially strong, but tends to fade after forming a bond

Grey____ - Attraction that falls on the spectrum between Allo____ and A____

Hyposexual - Low sex drive

Litho____ - Attraction with no desire for reciprocation

Queerplatonic Relationship -  A non-romantic relationship based on platonic love that is stronger than friendship

Sex-Neutral/Sex-Indifferent -  Someone who is sex-neutral/indifferent may participate in sex for others benefit, but don’t really get anything out of it

Sex-Positive/Sex-Favorable -  Someone who is sex-positive enjoys sex

Sex-Repulsed/Sex-Averse -  Someone who is sex-repulsed is put off by the very idea of sex, grossed out, or plainly just doesnt like sex

Squish -  An aromantic crush, a desire for a platonic relationship with someone

Varioriented - When your sexual orientation and romantic orientation aren’t the same, i.e. Aromantic pansexual, heteroromantic asexual, or biromantic homosexual. etc.

Volit____ - Attraction directed at no one in particular

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So for my fellow Northern hemisphere dwellers, it’s nearly summer. That means it is probably starting to get hot. Skirt season! Hot damn!

But YE GODS, THE THIGH CHAFING. Sweat plus friction equals pain, redness, and extremely unhappy legs. If you have experienced the dreaded ‘chub rub’, you know how much it fucking sucks.

Not anymore, bitches.

Slap on a pair of Bandelettes. They come in black, white, red, beige, and brown if you want lace – and trust me, you want lace – or black and beige if you want a solid fabric like the ones pictured above. But the lace is sexy as fuck. Trust me. Go with the lace. It isn’t the horrible and itchy stuff, it’s nice.

So what you do is you measure your thigh right at where the chafing happens, right at the thickest part of your leg. You compare that to the Bandelettes sizing chart, you pick your size, and you’re off. I bought a pair (Beige Onyx, size C) and they don’t move around on me. No slipping. But also, no digging in! I can wear these for hours and they’re still very comfy.

You slide them up into position and they just… stay there. And they protect your gorgeous thighs from the ravages of summer rubbin’. 

They’re lightweight, so you don’t feel like you’re wearing a ton of extra fabric. They’re washable – handwash and hang dry, but still washable! Did I mention they’re sexy as fuck? 

SEXY. AS. FUCK.

I take police reports for a living. The number of people who will happily tell someone “Well officer, this fight started because I smoked crack cocaine earlier,” is astounding and also not at all illegal. The criminal charge is for Possession of a Controlled Substance. If you don’t possess any at the time, there’s no crime. The only thing you can get dinged for is if you’re actively on a drug and driving, in which case - DUI.

Some EMTs are fantastic. Some are wannabe cops. Either way, we legally cannot fuck you over because HIPAA is a thing. And I promise you, you’re almost definitely not gonna be the first intoxicated person we see on a shift.

at christmas he asked me about politics and we had a calm and fun discussion. he was honestly just curious and when i brought up points about lgbt+ rights or healthcare his response was often “oh really? how does that work with __? or never thought about that before!”

he was just honestly curious and was hearing ideas and facts he had never heard before and he loved it!! he just wanted to get informed on politics and the only prior sources he had had had all been super conservative. he wanted to hear all the facts before choosing his own policies!

then his dad interrupted us and started yelling at me about trump being great and to my cousin’s credit he thought it was just as embarrassing and ignorant as i did even though his dad is a big influence in his life (he’s a very overbearing father)

he picked up “trigger” jokes from the internet and i explained to him why they’re shitty and he was like “oh!!! that’s…. a real jerk move to make a joke about? sorry! i’ll make sure not to do it again”

“drinking more water” won’t cure you, but water is still good for your body and necessary for survival

“sleeping on a regular schedule” won’t cure you, but regular sleep is a natural mood stabilizer and will only help you

“going out in nature” won’t cure you, but the fresh air and exercise can often help your body feel more energized and give you a distraction from the day to day suffering

“going for a run” won’t cure you, but even if you can’t run, walk, letting your blood flow through your body is a good thing

“doing yoga” won’t cure you, but it could help you learn new ways of healthy coping and finding some peace in a scary whirlwind of mental illness