Ex mullet haver

We are doing something. We’re rejecting allonormative ideals and that’s a massive thing to do. We’re actively fighting not just to help other aspecs, but to help everyone, because amatonormativity (and allonormativity as a whole) hurt everyone. Single people who want to find a partner but can’t also deserve to be able to exist.

There are so many issues with the expectation of marriage, including:

A single income isn't enough to get by anymore

Having a spouse is almost necessary under the current medical system

Society shames and pressures people who are single to get into relationships constantly

Rejecting allonormativity means fighting against these things that hurt everyone.

To Eryka: I am so fucking sorry that this world is so horrible towards us. You didnt deserve this

Rest in Pride 💗

Links to posts with examples:

[link 1] - I was asked whether I was TME or TMA. To be clear, I fucking hate that terminology and find it generally shitty. But like, why would they ask an open trans man whether they were TME or TMA unless they thought there was a chance I was actually transfem.

[link 2] - I was asked why I'm transmasc instead of transfem when I have a penis. The answer is because I'm intersex and that has made my experience more complicated, but clearly there's some disappointment in the fact that I'm transitioning towards masculinity instead of femininity.

[link 3] - An asker was saying that you can't be transmasc if you were amab/rmab/camab, without even understanding what rmab and camab mean. They have never been in my shoes and do not know my experiences as a transmasculine person. If I'm trans, and as they said, "not born female," then I should be transitioning to female, right?

And there's about a million more irl examples of this.