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im finishing a cover letter tn for a job i really really want send me strength

#ive been so exhausted i havent been able to focus to finish it #all i do is sleep w my current job i need. a new one i cannot anymoreee

respectissexy

Since I'm therapist-posting recently:

Legitimately self-compassion is the biggest mental health life hack of all time. I'm NOT talking about self-esteem. You do NOT have to like yourself one bit. You don't have to believe that you're a good person who deserves good things. You just have to believe that you're a person who deserves the things all people deserve.

You can't get from "I'm the Worst" to "I'm a worthy and lovable person" without passing through "I'm just a regular fuckup like everybody else."

Try it on. If you're really addicted to being mean to yourself, you can start by framing it as I'm Not Special. Embrace being a regular fuckup like everybody else.

sawed-on-shotgun

going on hormones and starting to pass as a man is a mixed bag. obviously that is The Goal. but like

pros: yay! i finally look like a guy! people think im a man!

cons: im only noticing that people perceive me as male because of misogyny 90% of the time

sawed-on-shotgun

it's shit i didn't even register before transitioning too. i went out with my friends to a diner yesterday, one is a girl and the other gets clocked as a girl, and when we went in and they asked for the name of the table they asked Me specifically. like looked dead in my eyes and asked Me. i was addressed when it orders and payment first as well. like. Damn. Okay. Shit

sawed-on-shotgun

being trans in any direction gives you this but with like a multiplier effect

wetheurban

Sending love to everyone who is just... tired. Life is a lot, and sometimes the answer to it all is to just be still and silent for a while. Give yourself space and grace.

Whether it’s decision fatigue, anxiety fatigue, information fatigue, routine fatigue, getting life back together fatigue, career fatigue, social fatigue, financial fatigue, or physical fatigue: take a moment to breathe and recharge. You deserve it.

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genderkoolaid

its not fucking "food noise" it is HUNGER!!!! you are HUNGRY!!!!!!! like a ANIMAL gets when its body NEEDS FOOD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

genderkoolaid

your ancestors did not resist starvation for thousands of generations for you to take a medication meant to stabilize blood sugar in people with diabetes, because you have been gaslit by the diet industry into thinking that feeling hungry is some unnatural dangerous force you need to "quiet down" in the death march towards eternally increasing thinness.

mrs-tired-kittycat

I understand what this post is getting at, but food noise is a specific term used by doctors and registered dietitians to describe constant intrusive thoughts in the context of eating disorders. It's not at all about suppressing hunger cues. Quieting food noise is an important part of eating disorder recovery and is used to help people gain weight and get more comfortable with eating. There are plenty of diet culture buzzwords to hate, but this isn't one of them.

genderkoolaid

unfortunately diet culture very much has been using this word regardless of its origins or how it is used in the context of eating disorders. i have seen an influencer who is literally getting paid to be in ads for a company that gets people GLP-1 subscriptions, talking about how GLP-1s are so normal basically everyone is on them and if you "need something to quiet the food noise and suppress your appetite" you should use the service she's shilling to "feel good about yourself" and get on GLP-1s.

its good to know the actual context of the term! but in this case people literally are using "food noise" to describe being hungry and using it to encourage fatphobic and disordered eating behaviors.

genderkoolaid

also like look. on a general level i do not care if You Personally want to lose weight, or even if you want to lose weight through drugs, or hell! even through straight up disordered eating! i mean i care in the sense i care about people in general, but i am generally very pro-bodily autonomy, pro-harm reduction, and i really like Emi Koyama's writing on self harm and disordered eating and respecting them as coping mechanisms, if harmful ones, and respecting people's right to cope with our fucked up society how it works for them personally while also staying committed to societal and political change. i made this post while i was angry at having seen this ad for the millionth time so i did not make my point in the best way possible.

that being said. GLP-1s are being pushed because society is fundamentally fatphobic and causes the deaths of fat people (and people of other sizes chasing thinness) and there are people who are disgustingly rich off promoting fatphobia. the rise of skinny obsessiveness can be DIRECTLY tied with authoritarianism and fascism. & like, i think people should be allowed to do heroin if they want but that doesn't mean i need to give a lick of respect to Purdue Pharma or its sales reps and doctors who lied about the addictiveness of opiates to make bank off of people with chronic pain.

please get your fucking head on straight and understand why it is so disturbing to see Trisha Fucking Paytas telling people its so cute and trendy and easy to take drugs to kill their sense of hunger and get skinny by giving money to yet ANOTHER CORPORATION PROFITING OFF OF FATPHOBIA. "doing xyz will make you stop feeling hungry, so you can lose weight without dealing with the discomfort of starving yourself!" is a CLASSIC part of disordered eating, this is not unique to GLP-1s, and god forgive me for being a little pissed off this way of thinking is being encouraged by a popular Youtuber on every other fucking ad break i see. i know Your situation is different and Your situation perfectly justifies all of this, but can we for just a moment think about fatphobia on an systemic societal level? perhaps?

crushed-sugar

Signs of abuse, neglect, or mental health issues in younger people often get turned into a joke or a stereotype and I think that’s worth talking about.

The depressed teen that hates their parents has been a trope for years. Saying someone has daddy issues or that their behavior is fatherless is an insult. People call kids “ipad babies” and make fun of their short attention span.

It’s dismissive. Dare I say victim blame-y?

hyperlexichypatia

IDK I think if cis men are being told that being fat will lower their testosterone and make them Insufficiently Masculine, and cis women are being told that being fat will raise their testosterone and make them Excessively Masculine, and fat trans people are being denied the right to medically transition if they're fat, and thin trans people are warned against HRT because it will make them fat (and this is said about both testosterone and estrogen HRT), and androgynous-presenting people are told that only thin people count as androgynous...

Then maybe...

Maybe...

Maybe the weight loss industry is just using Gender to enforce fatphobia.

lesvegas

passing in public makes me feel like white shrek

lesvegas

literally how it feels

welpnotagain

beaft

the phrase "but i didn't mean to!" in the context of causing harm is kind of redundant to me, because almost nobody means to cause harm. most of us just want to do the right thing. and i don't mean that in a wishy-washy "oh, we're all good deep down" way, i mean that even people who regularly do the most heinous shit imaginable will have a way of justifying it to themselves. the world is not populated by hollywood sadists and psychopaths.

beaft

actually i have been thinking about this some more and i want to add on to it:

abuse in caregiving professions (like teaching or nursing) is not solely a result of power dynamics. it's also because people who go into those professions often have a idea of themselves as Good People, and are consequently incapable of recognising or acknowledging when they've hurt someone else. instead, they mentally put 'people who have inconvenienced me' into the Bad People box so they can freely abuse them while maintaining their moral high ground.

i read ross greene a lot when i was working with "difficult" or "behaviourally challenged" children. his refrain is "kids do well if they can" - meaning, in short, that most kids act out only when the demands of a situation exceed their capabilities. punishing them for this is not only cruel but also completely pointless, because they also don't want to be doing what they are doing.

a teacher who believes that there are two categories of people - Good People who Mean Well, and Bad People who Cause Problems on Purpose - is not going to see it that way. they're gonna put themselves in the first category, and the misbehaving kid in the second category. and once they have effectively depersoned the child and placed themselves on a pedestal, the world becomes simple again. because abuse is something that only Bad People do.

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catmask

by the way. it never is too late to decide you want to be happy. the woman who helped me get hormones didnt start hers until she was 70, and i met her at 73, beautiful and smiling - and told me that the last three years of her life had been her favorite. your favorites might be ahead of you too. why not hang around and find out?

katyscartoons

Next time transphobes call trans healthcare "experimental" you can show them this

alexseanchai

penicillin was first discovered in 1928; vaginoplasty is less experimental

ibuprofen was first discovered in 1961; phalloplasty and HRT are less experimental

Adderall was first applied as an ADHD treatment in 1994; puberty blockers are less experimental

crabussy

I don't understand how cis people obsessed with gender norms think trans people are the weird ones. they're going around believing that your name has to correlate to your genitals. your fashion has to correlate to your genitals. your behaviours have to correlate to your genitals. your hobbies have to correlate to your genitals. who you date has to correlate to your genitals. whether you can put sparkles on your eyelids or not has to correlate to your genitals. and then people like me go "hmm. I might not do that. maybe I'll just do what feels fun and okay instead" and they LOSE their MINDS

junglejim4322

I live a very balanced life of noticing things nobody else does and not noticing the things that literally everybody notices

ok. this shit is neverending 👍 im going to sleep

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yeehawpim

keep going

hel7l7

if I keep going like this I'll lose everything

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