HYPER HEART

I have a tendency to be negative towards myself sometimes – I think a lot of women deal with that. Like, I look so fat in this outfit; my hair is so bad today; I’m late again, I’m the worst, oh my god, etc. Lately, whenever I catch myself doing that, I’ve been trying to imagine myself saying whatever it is to my best friend. Riiiight to her face. Like, “That shirt makes you look awful, you are ugly, why are you even trying?” And I’m horrified. Like, I would never say those things to my best friend! Ever! They’re negative, and untrue, and hurtful. So…why on earth am I saying things like that to myself? Basically, I’m trying to be my own best friend, in my brain. Instead of tearing myself down, I’m trying to say things that lift me up

Young people in relationships tend to give negative things too much weight and underrate the positives. Negatives often get three times the weight of positives. But look at married couples in their eighties. Their little annoyances are often all they talk and joke about. “Oh, Miriam always says this…” “Oh, Herb always does that…” The little annoyances are acknowledged, accepted and part of the fabric of their relationship. They try act like they’re driving each other crazy but they really can’t live with out each other. Annoyances aren’t a deal killer. They’re a natural part of a long, happy marriage.