Paradigm Pudding

I try not to fall into the "I never liked their work anyway" ditch when an artist/creator reveals themself to be a terrible person

#such a good summation of this actually#because yeah there’s usually things that were always present#but which were easy to overlook or give the benefit of the doubt#that suddenly become relevant after a revelation about the creator#and it’s really not the same thing as the self-defensive “’I never liked it anyway’

"my life isn't a crime, I'm not one of those people -"

And if you truly cannot imagine this, if you're convinced that it will never happen to you, consider this one thing.

Okay, story time! I had this friend that seemed really cool and we aligned on a lot of things. They were hella anti military, which is super fucking valid, but it was to the point where they told me if I wanted to stay friends with them, I needed to force my husband to cut off his mom because she teaches first aid and swim lessons on a base. Being anti us military is an incredibly valid stance, but to try and force me to force another person to cut off their only family because they work on a base? His mom isn’t even a soldier, she’s fucking red cross and is working with the military to teach first aid and water safety lessons! The things he was saying legit felt like talking to a fed that was trying to sow division. It would’ve been bad enough to set that line and try to force me to cut off my family, but that’s not even MY mom! I have zero say in whether someone else chooses to cut off their family, that is not a decision me or anyone else can make for someone! It was just such a wild ultimatum to get from someone I considered a friend and I essentially told them, “hey, i agree with a lot of your points about the military, but it isn’t my place to force someone to cut off their only family and it sure as hell isn’t yours”

This is HUGE.

i've been on this side for so long and it still surprises me how many people have not come around to it. to me, the ideal remake was Battlestar Galactica. a few years ago, i revisited the original 70s version, which i hadn't seen since i was a child, and i've bever seen a series start out so strong, with solid ideas, and squander it all so quickly. Good bones on that show, dogshit execution. The 2004 remake found all those solid foundations, stripped away the bullshit, and built something far better out of it. If we must do reboots, that's what we need more of.

I love how crazy things are going to happen on colleges.

Controversial opinion maybe but you don't actually have to come out to anyone if you don't want to. No one is entitled to that information. If you want to keep your identity to yourself, whether that's for comfort or safety or just because you feel like it, then that's your decision and your decision alone.

It actually blows me away how little compassion people have for anyone who chooses to stay closeted, even from the people closest to them. We can recognize how many people throughout history never told anyone about their identities, even their partners, for a lot of different reasons but we forget that those reasons still exist. So many queer people are living their truths in their heads and will never share that with anyone else and we will likely never know and that's fine. It's fine.