a woman holding her boob should be considered a neutral pensive gesture like when a man scratches his beard

tumblr is the website for if you're just someone's weird sister

I promise you things will get so much better when you start processing people’s behavior as information rather than a verdict on your self-worth. If someone doesn’t text back, suddenly pulls away, whatever it may be, the solution isn’t to put on a tap dance for them and try to regain their approval. It’s not to crash out on them and try to force them to react a certain way. It’s just to take a step back, take a deep breath, and assess what this tells you. What’s this saying about them? What’s this saying about you??

i miss u so much (pre ai internet)

complimented a womans clear raincoat this morning and she said Well i feel like a sandwich

the other bennet sister goes hard actually, because never once did the show attempt to fundamentally change mary. instead, it allowed her to explore herself, providing as much room for regression as it did improvement, and it always did so with grace. mary is no smarter than your average girl, but she likes to pretend as such with all her books and pedantic remarks, because it's not like she can pretend to be beautiful instead. and yet, though it's a solid enough plan and her books are indeed things she enjoys, she is still pretending and she's only sadder for it, because all she ever had to be was her true self. growth only comes when she's provided genuine love and support from her peers, from people who find her quirks delightful, who don't equate her worth to her allegedly plain looks. she begins experimenting with fashion and the show doesn't give her a bombastic makeover. it keeps her glasses, it lets her wear the most garish thing ever and celebrates it completely, because she loves those colors and those fabrics and that's all that really matters. she makes friends, both female and male, something that is much too rare in period dramas. it's special to me that she rejects ryder, that she never fights over hayward with ann. mary is content to be a governess, but she still defends women who live to find a rich husband for themselves and their daughters, because she's painfully aware of the world they were born into and knows that even that isn't necessarily the easy way out. i don't mean to imply that this show is flawless, faaaar from it, but it manages to write a very powerful heroine using a trope that is usually cringy at best and harmful at worse. watching it felt like a breath of fresh air and for that it gets a hell yeah from me