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(Photo from article in Psychology Today)

I really don’t want to write.

I really don’t want to talk about myself, my sex life, and what I think about sex because taking time to actually type something up is such a chore. I mean it means I have to write something, put words together, hope to God that they come together and make some damn senses, and then maybe (MAYBE) I won’t get laughed at by someone.

But the thing is I want to say something about sex. I want to have my say about how tired I am of the religious trying to shame and degrade me for loving and enjoying sex. I’m tired of ministers, rabbis, and Imans coming at humanity to tell us that the people we choose to be sexual with and the way we are sexual in the bedroom is somehow wrong. Yet, all these couples are forced by guilt and shame to either have sex in “the biblical sense” or it is wrong. Even if we are just sexual with ourselves till we climax in a wonderful bliss the religious sorts come in like some Monty Python skit ready to put us in some sort of torture chamber in hopes of forcing out any and all sexual thoughts out of our minds and hearts.

This year is the year I’ve said ENOUGH!

I think the thing that triggered it is the way the American Christian community gave a pass to Donald J. Trump’s sex life. It didn’t matter how many women he was with; it didn’t matter how he had (allegedly) children outside of his marriage. It doesn’t matter, we got the man we want in and so long as we make abortion illegal, contraceptives out of reach, and shame a generation for wanting to enjoy their sexuality and relationships in the way they want to then to hell with convention and conviction.

In the times we live in I am angry. I’m angry at a church system who find it easy to shame someone like me to the altar seeking mercy, forgiveness, and grace time and time again for having a sexual thought. I was made to seek out counseling, go through some sort of fasting from any sexual thoughts, and redouble my efforts to make sure the only sex I am having is my one true love from heaven. But what happens if that one true one hasn’t a clue to what makes her orgasm or know how to make her one true man satisfied sexually? To force good and earnest men and women in this prison of piety for the sake of sexual purity are both insane and mental.

And yet this jackass in chief is given a free pass!

That’s why this year no religious edict or rule will enter our bedroom again. I will have sex with whoever and however, I want to. I will not be shamed into feeling weak or deranged for being honest about my love for sex and being sexual with others. I feel it is my God given right to live honestly about my love for sex and not be put in the corner by anyone.

You know what? Right now sex is the best its been for me in a long while.

I have my primary love who I enjoy sex with immensely. I have two other women who I get to play with while their husbands play with my primary love. I enjoy the fun, the laughter, the tears, and the passion we share in the bedroom, living room, and (hell) even the garage. I think if I kept with that psychopathic thought the church and other religious institutions shove down our throat I’d go crazy.

Sure! ♥

I also had another anon ask for which ones don’t impede the groin area, so I asterisked* those

Simple Weave *

Horizon Harness *

Hip-cross Harness

Checkerboard Harness

Mirror Harness

Loves Me Knot Harness

Fishbone Bodysuit

Six Ring Harness

Spider String Bodysuit

Haze Harness *

Side-Hitch Harness

Weave Harness

Sidearm Harness

Coinbasket Harness

Lovers Harness

Consequence Collar & Cuffs

Consequence Rope Gag

Tortoise Shell Bodysuit

Half Turtle *

Harlot Harness

Samurai Tie

Dragonfly Sleeve

Hitachi Harness

Hip Harness *

Leg Ladder *

Versatile Ladder *

3 Sorts of Hand Ties *

Pearl Harness & Wrist Cuffs *

Corset Harness *

Hogtie *

Frog Tie *

How to Bundle Rope

So, these are the definitions I personally like for the two terms. 

Open relationship: any relationship, between any number of people, where everyone has agreed that it’s okay to seek beyond-platonic relationships outside of the dyad/group. Polyamorous: a relationship orientation that describes openness to having multiple sexual/romantic/intimate partners.

The distinction is that “open” describes a relationship, whereas “polyamorous” describes a person. In my case, what I am is polyamorous. And at any given time, I am in one or more open relationships. However, some polyamorous people are not in open relationships, either because they have chosen to be monogamous, or because they are in a closed multi-partner relationship (e.g. a closed triad or closed V), in which case they might describe themselves as polyfidelitous. 

Since I’m not polyfidelitous and have no intention to ever be, I want a way to explain that succinctly when I say that I’m polyamorous. Saying “I’m in an open relationship(s)” makes that easy. It doesn’t mean “I’m only after sex,” it just means “I’m available.”

Great day at the beach!!!