Hereβs the thing that some people donβt seem to understand about sex & kink. You have to respect boundaries before you get to push them. You have to show people theyβre safe before you get to make them feel scared. You have to respect people before you get to degrade them. You have to be normal with people before you get to be dirty with them. You canβt be skipping steps. Treating them like a person always comes before treating them like a toy.















