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Ways to Tease Him

Tease Your slave to get him to the point where he’ll “Do Anything to please You”

Make him strip naked while You keep Your clothes on.

Have him kneel before You and kiss Your feet.

Have him address You as ‘Mistress’

Have him kiss Your ass…make him beg to kiss Your ass.

Tie his hands and have him undress You with his mouth/teeth.

Don’t let him masturbate or touch his cock without Your permission at any time.

Tie his hands behind his back. Have him kneel with knees spread naked in front of You while You read or watch TV, occasionally nudging his balls or penis with Your shoes.

Either order him to stay erect, or don’t give him permission to have a hard on… either way, punish him if he fails!

Use some strong string (kite string), tie a slip noose in the end and tighten it around the head of the penis, tug on it, pull it shake it, lead him with it, whatever You please.

Show Your slave Your panty crotch, make him smell it, but no touching without permission.

Tie Your slave spread eagle to the bed and tease him for hours. Make sure he has a big hard on, but once he does only touch it when he needs just a little more encouragement, don’t let him cum.

Put on his favorite lingerie and tease him with Your beauty.

Scratch him with Your finger nails.Tickle him. Pinch his nipples.

Sit on his chest and find out what he would do to be allowed to kiss Your nipple. Let him almost kiss it but pull away, make him beg.

Take a break, put some worn panties over his face and leave the room for a while and let him think about what else You might do.

Squat above his face, make him reach with his tongue to taste the crotch of Your panties…get more promises

Blindfold him and make him lick You to several orgasms. Take a break, cum back and do it all again.

Rub his face against Your pussy or sit on his face, but gag him with Your panties or a gag so that he can’t lick You.

Tie his balls off to something behind him so he has to tug on them to smell Your panties or kiss Your ass…stay just out of reach.

Masturbate in front of him. Use a dildo or a vibrator.

Put the base of the dildo in his mouth and make him satisfy You with it. Do it so his nose presses between Your ass cheeks. He’ll be Your little brown noser and love it.

Make him lick the dildo clean.

Tie him down to the bed and tie his hands to his penis but do not give him permission to cum with harsh punishments for disobedience.

Put Your worn panties over his head so he can smell your odor.

Make him wear a cock ring (a watch strap or cat collar works well)

Ways to Humiliate Him

Make him wear Your panties or lingerie, dress him up as a little girl or a French maid.

Make him do housework naked or dressed in women’s clothes.

Have him pamper You, have him:

give You a foot/back/full body massage

give You a pedicure/manicure,

paint Your finger/toe nails.

bathe You/shave your legs.

cook and serve You a nice dinner.

Make him hand wash Your panties and lingerie.

Make him polish Your shoes with his tongue.

Make him wear a collar and lead him around with a leash, like a dog.

Attach a leash to his balls or cock ring, and lead him around with that.

Tie it off in front of the sink while he does the dishes.

Ride him around as Your pony boy…spurs? a riding crop?

Dress him up like the slut that he is, wear a strap-on dildo and make him beg to suck it. fuck him. (don’t forget the fuck-me red lipstick!)

Make him wear Your panties or lingerie under his regular clothes when he goes out or goes to work so that he will think of his Mistress constantly.

Make him masturbate for You, make him beg for permission to cum, don’t let him, punish him if he does.

Make him screw himself with a dildo.

Make him earn his rewards; for example:

Allow him to kiss Your ass after the dishes are done.

1 minute of pleasure for him for 10 minutes of Yours. 5 minutes of pleasure for him after he makes You cum 5 times. Spank him 10 times for each minute it takes him to make You cum.

If You think he’s earned an orgasm, make him cum on Your feet or Your ass and then make him lick You clean.

Order him to bring himself to the edge of orgasm and stay there until You give him permission. When You give the command he must cum within 5 seconds or he will be punished and/or not allowed to cum at all. (keep him that way for 30 minutes, an hour…or as long as You want)

If he’s really horny and bothering You, You may want to curb his interest by ordering him to jerk off 5 or 6 times in a row. Use it as skin conditioner… 3 times on each foot, have him spread it around and lick them clean after each time.

Always make him lick You clean after sex.

When You go out, order him to tie himself up, be naked or dressed up as a girl and be kneeling at the door for when You arrive.

Lock a padlock on his balls.

Give him a golden shower.

Make him think of a new way for You to humiliate him. Punish him if You don’t think it’s good enough. Make him post it to the net (and send it to me to add to the list)

Ways to Discipline and Punish and Torment Him

Spank or whip him. (wooden spoon, hair brush, belt, ruler, ping pong paddle, riding crop, switch, cat-o-nine tails…)

Tie him in an uncomfortable position.

Tie his ankles together and attach his balls to them.

Hog tied. (wrists and ankles tied together)

Hanging from the ceiling by his wrists.

In a chair with his knees pulled up to his shoulders – good for spanking and everything is exposed and vulnerable.

Tie up his balls and cock with a long leather thong, clothes line, or boot lace. Use a long piece, and wrap the base and balls repeatedly. Do each ball separately. Tie tight loops around his shaft from base to tip then tie the end off back between his legs and up to a belt or to his handcuffs.

Make him wear a chastity belt or cock cage.

Attach clothes pins or nipple clips to his nipples, balls, cock or wherever.

Put a butt plug in his ass. Or get out the strap-on.

Enema.

Double up on his domestic chores, make them more difficult: tie his hands; make him use a toothbrush to clean the toilet, tie his ankles with a short chain and make him wear extra high heels.

Deny him orgasms for a long period of time.

Have him lick You clean after you pee.

Put Ben-gay or icy-hot on his penis and nipples.

Drip candle wax on him.

Make him do exercises (jumping jacks, leg spreads, squats, aerobics, yoga…)

Golden Rules for the husband

Dear women

Print this out, give it to your husband and let him sign it:

Draft: “On Spanking the husband”

I spank my husband because it is my right. The sting on his skin is the mark of my hand, the proof that he belongs to me.

A smack is not cruelty, it is order.

When I bring my palm down, I remind him who leads and who follows. His body jumps, his breath breaks, but he stays in place. That is discipline.

I spank him when he resists. I spank him when he hesitates. I spank him when I want to see him bend and take it. The red glow on his backside is my signature, a sign that he is trained and obedient.

There is an old saying which is ‘A woman’s work is never done’. And in this female lead marriage this is clearly true, there will always be a reason to spank her naughty husband and many different implements to correct his behaviour.

I have news for you. You’ve been lied to. Femdom is not what all the hateful jaded women and self-loathing sissies out there try to make it out to be.

Female Domination, at least to me, is about a culture of Strong and Wise Women taking the lead and asserting their power in personal relationships and in society.

It is about women taking charge of their men in and out of the bedroom to get what they want and to train men to submit to female guidance at large. It is about teaching and leading a man to be a better person. It is about focusing his mind on giving rather than receiving. And it is about making him into a stronger man. There is absolutely no contradiction in a hyper-masculine Alpha Male completely submitting to a DOMINANT WOMAN.

It is NOT about humiliating and belittling men, treating them as worthless and acting as if they are inferior creatures made to lick the dirt off womens’ feet. This is just online idiocy. Perhaps you are simply a beta-type guy, but if you think this means wearing diapers or emasculating yourself every second of the day or begging a woman to treat you like shit, you need to wake up and get some help. Sure, everyone has their odd fetishes, but in real life, any woman who wants to be with a man just to treat him like scum is simply angry, pathetic, mental and low-rent. It is in no way a healthy form of kinky masochism. It is just sad. And always a fleeting waste of time and life. A submissive male should seek out a Dominant Female in order to make himself better, not worse.

Femdom is about a Woman asserting her power over a man because she wants to be in control. She believes she was born to be in charge and she believes she has earned the right to be in charge. She believes her guidance is superior because she knows intuitively that her inner strength and her inner wisdom is superior to that of a man’s. Sexually, it is about the eroticizing of power and the transformation of personal identity. She fucks. He gets fucked. Even if this means her wanting him to fuck her rough and hard, she is ultimately deciding how things go.

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MY bottom clenched when she threw on that leglock. You knew she was going to light his backside on *fire*.

1. Keeps her sub on their toes metaphorically, sometimes literally.

2. Knows that you don’t have to be cold, cruel, or bitchy to be dominant, but may decide to play that role sometimes.

3. Doesn’t need to be wearing black leather and high heels to feel powerful, but might wear them occasionally when the mood strikes.

4. Can be strict and controlling but also sweet and loving, all at the same time.

5. Understands the importance of aftercare, and that includes for herself as well.

6. Is trustworthy, and tries to instill a deep level of trust in her sub. Shows them that safety and preservation of reputation are paramount.

7. Adds intimacy to the relationship by creating a culture of ‘doing things for each other’, instead of just looking out for themselves.

8. Teaches her sub that there is no shame in their submission to her.

9. Uses her words to project power, not the volume of her voice.

10. Knows how to be classy, graceful, and elegant to command respect.

11. Makes her sub feel loved and wanted the most when they’re at their weakest.

12. Doesn’t hesitate to enforce discipline when required, and won’t feel the least bit guilty for doing it.

13. Loves herself and is confident and comfortable about who she is.

14. Understands that Dommes are human too, and she won’t be put off or discouraged by the mistakes she will make while leading the relationship.

15. When she inevitably does make a mistake, she will own up to it once, apologize if needed, learn from it, and move on without dwelling on it further.

16. Knows that Female Led Relationships are about her wants an needs first, but for a relationship to work, both need to be happy and a little compromise is required. She sets aside time where they can meet as equals to voice concerns and negotiate solutions to problems as they arise.

17. Believes in safe-words and safe-gestures and ensures her sub knows how to use them properly.

18. Doesn’t believe in equal relationships and tries to avoid them. To be truly happy, she knows that she needs to be in control and will choose a mate that is amenable.

19. Hunts down and kills the male ego for sport and then teaches him to feel pride in his submission to her.

20. Is introspective of her needs and knows what she wants from a relationship, so when she meets her sub, she is ready to guide them from the beginning.

21. Understands that speech control can be a powerful way to control her sub and uses it to her greatest advantage.

22. Knows her subs deepest, darkest, and dirtiest secrets, kinks and fetishes, but believes in their right to privacy and will take that information with her to the grave.

23. Takes the time and effort to learn what words will humiliate her sub in a good way, and what words to avoid because they will be harmful to her subs state of mind.

24. Prefers to do the driving, in the car, and in the bedroom.

25. Teaches her sub that, in her eyes, one of their greatest strengths is their ability to be weak for her.

26. She can be incredibly selfish with regards to sexual pleasure, but very selfless in her love and devotion for her sub.

27. Makes the rules that will guide them through their life together, and enforces them through discipline.

28. Knows the difference between when her sub wants an orgasm, and when they really need one. She practices orgasm control to regulate them to their greatest benefit.

29. Never threatens her sub, but she may make certain promises they won’t like to hear.

30. May make her sub suffer many humiliations and indignities in private, but ferociously defends their honor in public.

31. Her rules and instructions are always clear, concise and unambiguous, and they never conflict with each other.

32. She knows that calm, calculated words whispered into a subs ear will be more effective than shouting at them hysterically.

33. Her sub may feel unworthy of her but she will often remind them that they are what she wants in her life.

34. Maintains a level of inequality in the relationship to make the dominance and submission more genuine, and has overcome any guilt she may feel about it being unfair to her sub.

35. Knows that her subs favorite kinks and fetishes will be much more enjoyable for them if she forces her sub to experience them, instead of just allowing them to happen.

36. Through tease and denial, uses her subs own lust against them to train them to become obsessed with her.

37  She likes to keeps her sub guessing by withholding certain plans or information and then springing surprises on them.

38. Knows how to motivate her sub to do the most mundane of tasks by creating an erotic atmosphere filled with sexual tension surrounding it.

39. She knows that she doesn’t have to imitate a man to be a powerful force to be reckoned with.

1. Allows her to her decide who will drive, whether on the road, or in the bedroom.

2. A clean home and good personal hygiene are high priorities for him.

3. Is very respectful towards all women, but only worships his Domme, putting her above all others.

4. Doesn’t expect his Domme to be a fetish dispenser for his kinks.

5. Can cook delicious, healthy meals and is always willing to try new recipes.

6. Tries to remain electronically available to his Domme at all times and physically available, job permitting.

7. Fiercely defends his Domme’s honor if someone talks about her behind her back.

8. Makes her feel worshipped, loved, and wanted the most when she is at her worst.

9. Allows her to make the rules for their relationship and fully accepts the consequences for breaking them.

10. Expresses his desire for her but never expects her to have sex with him.

11. Would rather lay around and fantasize about his Domme than ever watch porn.

12. Is eager to learn how to pleasure his Domme better instead of assuming his technique is good enough.

13. He keeps no secrets from her, informing her of his thoughts, his actions, and his feelings regularly.

14. Knows that his Domme will need aftercare too, and ensures she gets it.

15. Isn’t too proud to beg and grovel, and will do so if he knows that she enjoys it.

16. Understands his own need to submit and is comfortable remaining in a submissive role.

17. Is content being entirely sexually dependant on her while accepting her right to sexual independance.

18. Appreciates her dressing sexy for him but never expects it. His submission to her doesn’t change with her clothing choices.

19. Understands the male ego can be a detriment to her authority and accepts whatever steps she takes to diminish it in a harmless way(loving humiliation).

20. Informs her once of his kinks and desires then lets her decide if these should be included in their relationship. He never pushes them on her.

21. He is service oriented and one of his main goals in life is to make his Domme’s life easier. He allows her to decide the division of labor in the household.

22. Reassures his Domme often that her authority is accepted, respected, and wanted.

23. He helps her build and strengthen her dominance. He knows that acting bratty too often can make his Domme question her authority over him which detracts from their female-led relationship.

24. Allows her to speak for the couple and lead their conversations in public. He never contradicts her, projecting to all others a strong, united front on any subject. If he disagrees about something, it will be discussed later in private.

25. Remains sober at parties to be the designated driver so that his Domme may indulge herself.

26. Once absolute trust is established between them, he accepts her physical restraints or confinements without question or hesitation.

27. Gives her his complete, undivided attention with eyes on her whenever she speaks, unless it is unsafe to do so (while driving).

28. Knows his worth and doesn’t need constant reassurance to feel secure in the relationship.

29.  Accepts her discipline amiably when she decides he needs it and thanks her afterwards for teaching him to be a better sub.  

30. Knows how to use his safe-words and safe-gestures confidently so that his Domme doesn’t have to worry constantly about pushing him too far. He knows and expresses his hard-limits.

31. He isn’t ashamed to cry or show emotion while alone with her.  

32. Accepts her teasing and humiliations genially as long as it isn’t harmful to his long term self image.

33. Does chores the way his Domme wants them done, even if it isn’t the best or most efficient way.    

34. Never uses sarcasm when he speaks to anyone, ever.

35. He knows that his Domme is human too, and will make mistakes while leading their relationship. He will respectfully accept her apologies and never hold them against her, assuming she learned from her mistakes.

36. If something in the relationship is really bothering him, he will ask for a meeting on equal terms and discuss the issue with his Domme in a calm, respectful manner, instead of keeping it to himself and secretly resenting her for it.

37. Knows that masturbation is bad for their relationship as it diminishes his desire for her and tries to curb it himself. He accepts any measures she takes to ensure it can’t happen (chastity).

38. Would happily forgo penetrative sex so that she wouldn’t have to remain on birth control if that is what’s best for her.

39. Always puts his Domme’s wants and needs first, but graciously   accepts when she decides the opposite.

For the new Dommes out there who just don’t know where to start, or have trouble thinking of ways to project dominance, here are some fairly tame ideas you can use to get things going, and have him submit to you. As the Domme, you set the pace, so take your time and keep it fun.

Start out with a few that you like and see how he responds to them. When you feel comfortable proceeding, add others and come up with your own ideas. If you really enjoy any of them and want them to continue, make it into  a rule.

1. Order him to massage your feet with foot lotion, anytime you please.

2. You decide when it’s time for him to get a haircut. He never gets one without your permission.

3. Whenever going out together, you decide who drives.

4. Sneak up to him randomly and slip a blindfold, or a hood on him. It stays on until you remove it.

5. As your sub, he should be pleasing to the eye. Any clothing he wears must be approved by you. Make him give to charity anything that you don’t approve of or cut them up into dust rags.

6. Protect him from any critisism from others. As his domme, only you are allowed to critisize him.

7. Randomly order him to stay in his pyjamas for the entire day. Everybody likes to stay in their pyjamas all day once in a while when nothing’s going on but it’s a little different if your are forbidden to get dressed. Make him your pyjama boy for a day.

8. Teach him that you value his input when making decisions, but final decisions are yours to make, alone.

9. He is to greet you at the door everytime you come home to him. Anything you purchased, he will fetch from the vehicle. You only carry your purse into the house, or make him carry it in as well.

10. Make it a habit to grab a handfull of his hair and gently tug it whenever you kiss him.

11. Teach him to always communicate with you in a submissive manner. He never interrupts you whenever you speak. However, you may interrupt him anytime you please, and he must be quiet instantly and listen whenever you do. Never allow him to use sarcasm, ever. He follows all conversation and never tries to change the subject. He never raises his voice at you for any reason. Keep a ballgag handy to punish any improper communication.

12. Have him go down on you, anytime, anywhere you please.

13. Create a no standing rule for urination in your home. If at any time you decide that a toilet isn’t clean enough for your standards, he must scrub it immediately, anytime day or night.

14. Whenever he enters your vehicle, he needs your permission to exit it. He doesn’t ask. If you leave the vehicle he just sits and waits unless you tell him “come along dear’ or something similar.

15. Randomly order him to get naked immediately, and he will need your permission to get dressed again.

16. Are there any words that annoy you? Tell him to never use that word, ever again. Make him keep a list of them and anytime you hear him say a word you don’t like, make him add it to the list. You can make him choose another word to replace it, or you can insist he uses a specific word.

17. Only you may initiate mouth kissing. If he wants to kiss you, make him kiss your hand, or foot. You decide if it leads to mouth kissing.

18. As his Domme, you deserve to have his complete undivided attention, so make him keep his eyes on you whenever you speak. If he looks away, stop what you are saying, grab his chin and turn his face back towards yourself and say “EYES ON ME WHEN I’M SPEAKING” in a firm but gentle voice, and pick up the discussion where you left off.  

If you ever feel he hasn’t been listening properly, make him repeat back to you what was said, and if he gets it wrong, make him stand with his nose in the corner to punish him. If he won’t give you his undivided attention, you shouldn’t give him any attention. This will teach him to respect you, as a proper sub never only half listens to his Domme.

19. Have him sit at your feet often. If he wants to sit beside you on the sofa, he should ask your permission. You decide if he sits beside you or at your feet.

20. When you want to do something dominant to him but can’t think of anything, just grab a chain and two padlocks and chain him to something, give him a passionate kiss, and walk away without saying a word. Ignore him (unless he is in distress) while you do whatever you want. He will feel very owned and controlled.

21. Expect him to come to you immediately when called. He shouldn’t run, but he should show a sense of urgency when approaching you. Only accept excuses if he was doing something time sensitive, for example, if he was making supper, and the food would be overcooked if he came to you immediately.

22. Use his hand as a leash in public. When you hold his hand to lead him around, he isn’t allowed to let go of your hand. If you lead him up to an object and put his hand on it, he is parked in place and isn’t allowed to let go of that object until you come back, grab his hand, and lead him away. Leading him around by the hand in public is a very subtle way to display your dominance without anybody realizing it.

23. Teach him to ask permission to be excused and explain why anytime he wants to leave your presence. Occasionally refuse permission.

24. Be physically forceful. Grab him by the throat and force him against the wall in a passionate kiss. Grab a handful of hair and pull him to where you want him. Grab his earlobe and drag him down to a kneeling position at your feet.  Come up with your own ways to physically dominate him..

25. With the exception of gas, food, and gifts for you, any buying or selling will require your approval.

26. One of a submissive males greatest traits is the ability to wait patiently. Teach him by making him wait for you in various circumstances. Also teach him that keeping you waiting without a very good reason is unacceptable and punishable.

27. Write your signature on his shoulder blade or buttocks with an indelible marker. The more you train him, the more he becomes your work of art, so sign him like a painting.

28. Whether as a punishment or randomly, make him get down on the floor and give you 20 pushups.

29. Randomly lock his wrists behind his back while he is relaxing around the house. Tell him that his hands are tools to serve you, and if he isn’t using them for that purpose, they should be put away. Padded leather ones are best, especially if you plan to keep him in them for a while. Fistmitts make a great alternative and are more comfortable.

30. Teach him to do specific things(eg. housework), exactly the way you want it done, so that you can command him to do it anytime in the future. Your way is always the correct way, even if it’s not the most efficient way.

31. Whenever you plan to purchase something, have him research the best brands for price, reliability, quality, and features, giving you a list of the best top 5 to purchase. Have him give a short presentation while kneeling before you on what he’s learned.

32. Bend him over your lap and spank him whenever you like. You don’t have to hurt him. Just the act of being put over your lap will humble him, and make you feel powerful.

33. Teach him a command, or hand gesture, or both to silence him instantly. Teach him another one that lets him speak again.

34. Never allow him to eat his favorite treat (eg. chocolate) unless it comes directly from your hand. Tell him if he wants it bad enough, he may beg for it and you’ll give it to him, most times.

35. Random buttplugging. Whenever he is at home you can randomly approach him with a prelubed buttplug, and he has to bend over immediately to accept it. He’s not allowed to remove it himself.

36. Forbid him to ever say “I” or “me” when referring to himself while speaking to you in private.

37. Randomly, gently slap his face once in a while just to remind him who’s in charge. A gentle backhand is all that’s needed. It shouldn’t hurt, just humble him. Have him kiss the hand that slaps him to display his submission.

38. Make him ask permission before having an orgasm.

39. Make him ask permission before leaving home. If you aren’t home when he wants to leave, he must text you for permission. If you live apart, this applies to leaving his home as well as yours.

40. Maintenance Tickling. They say laughter is the best medicine, so medicate him with a tickle session occasionally. Tie him in place so that he is totally helpless and under your complete control. Start tickling. Your task is to keep him smiling, laughing or giggling for at least half an hour. Give him breaks between short tickling sessions, but he has to keep a smile on his face.

41. Paint his toenails. You can make him do it himself, but I guarantee it will have more of an impact on him if you grab his feet, remove his socks, and paint them yourself. After you’re done, tell him how pretty his toes are now and tell him you like the new look you have picked for him and if he removes it, he will be sorry. Make him walk around the house barefoot and show them off to you.

By doing this, you are asserting the right to control his body. It will give you a feeling of power everytime you see his painted toes, because you made it happen, and make it continue to happen. He in turn will feel submissive, because he knows you are in control of his body, moreso than him.

42. Instant Puppy. Pick a command word and a counter command word for this. Whenever you say the command word, he has to go silent immediately and get down on his hands and knees. Until you say the counter command word, he has to remain silent and keep one hand touching the floor or the ground at all times.

43. If he sleeps in your bed, he has to be chained to it. Ankle chain to the bedframe is best.

44. Control his alcohol intake. Every drink containing alcohol he consumes will have consequences. For instance, a half hour of cornertime or bent over your lap and 5 swats on the butt per drink consumed.

45. Step on his head with one foot pressing it to the floor while forcing the toes of your other foot into his mouth.

46. Lock something on his body that he can’t remove himself. It can be a collar, wristcuffs, an anklet, or just wrap a chain around his waist and padlock it there. I bought 2 ‘ring of steel’ types cuffs off of the internet and like to lock both of them on one of his wrists. The sound and feel of them rattling together as he does things around home are a constant reminder that someone else has more control over his body than he does.

47. If he doesn’t eat enough vegetables, make him eat one meal a week containing only cut up vegetables, from a bowl on the floor, without using his hands.

48. Have him suckle your breasts anytime and for as long as you wish. It feels great, and is a lovely way to bond with him.

49. Electronic leash. Use tracking software on his phone so that you know exactly where he is at all times. To ensure his phone is with him all the time, Set your own phone up to send scheduled texts that he must answer within 10 minutes.

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