Traditionally Feminine

📌 Home cooked meals are a necessity. If you are a homemaker you should not be ordering food in or picking up take-out.

📌 Your husband’s career goals are now your goals as well. You may have to put your own career aspirations on the back burner until your children are in school full time or no longer living in the house.

📌 Your husband has the final say in household/familial issues and your obedience is key.

📌 Always respond “yes” or “okay” when your husband asks something of you. This displays respect.

📌 Your tone will either foster communication or set it back; in essence your tone sets the tempo of the relationship. Be cognizant of the manner in which you speak to your husband. Aggressive and nagging speech can negatively affect your marriage.

📌 Your husband should always be sexually satiated…if he is not it is up to you to reevaluate how you can better please him. Your pleasure should be derived from pleasing him.

1. Homecooked meals are good and everyone loves them but there is nothing wrong with food that is frozen or takeout, especially in our current economy. If you have the ability to make a new dish everyday that's amazing but I grew up in a household where we made one dish on Sunday and that lasted us the entire week until Thursday and then Friday was pizza night which was awesome. If you can't cook everyday that is okay. It is an important skill to have but everyday is not a requirement.

2. My future husband's career goals are indeed not mine. They are his. His accomplishments are his and I will celebrate them of course but they are not mine to have and I don't have to put anything on the back burner for him. As the provider it is his job to build up his own career. And for me to assume that duty is to see him as inept and that is highly disrespectful.

3. If you and your husband choose the dynamic that his last word goes, then of course that is after a discussion is had. If you have made the discussion and you want him to have the final say then that is what it will be. But the obedience is key thing? We are not dogs and it is okay to have disagreements. That's the point of being human. You don't have to listen to a man who's giving you terrible advice or is doing things that isn't for the well-being of your family. Submissiveness is earned. a woman will not feel comfortable letting a man lead if he is shown to be inept. And in that moment she will have to go back to her masculine because if he can't take care of the family then she will.

4. Anytime someone asks you to do something or if you ask them to do something then you are supposed to give a confirmation that you heard what they said that's a given. And as a southern girly we always say yes ma'am no ma'am, yes sir no sir that's just being respectful. If you tell your husband to do something then he should also respond in kind.

5. This goes for both men and women. Men should not be raising their voices and yelling at women and women shouldn't nag a man you tell him a good one or two times and if he doesn't do the action that you need him to do, then there is another man who will. But also listen to his reasoning And listen to her reasoning. But if it's gone for months and months and that item still isn't fixed or task isn't finished. Then I would say bring someone else in to do it if he won't do it. Another man will and that's disappointing for him but you can't let your home go into disarray because he doesn't want to do something.

6. When it comes to marital relations, a woman's pleasure does not come just from the satisfaction she gives her husband. It is a mutual thing. When a man and woman are married, they become one flesh. You give yourself to your husband and your husband gives himself to you. It is mutual. And this honestly sounds very disrespectful to men because they are not dogs. They're not wild beasts that have to be tamed. Continued coupling is important because it builds the relationship and keeps your bond alive. But if there are circumstances where that can't happen then that is okay. We are human at the end of the day.

7. I have no arguments on the last part. It is very important to keep a household tidy. Your home is where you are most comfortable. And so it is everyone's job in that home to keep it tidy. Once a woman has cleaned then everything else is maintaining it. That means that the husband isn't throwing his laundry on the ground because the ground has already been cleaned and thus needs to be maintained. That means the husband isn't putting his dirty dishes filling up the sink. Instead they will go in the dishwasher. Why? To maintain a clean area. Once you use it, put it back where it was or clean it up. If you use something and that will maintain the home and keep things clean. If a woman has to deep clean her house everyday then there's a problem.