ONYX (she/they)

pan is not transphobic; pan does not other trans people or say they aren’t their gender. transphobic individuals in a community doesn’t mean the identity itself is transphobic.

pan is not biphobic; pan is not trying to be better than or replace bi. it is not saying that bi is bad or unneeded. biphobic individuals in a community doesn’t mean the identity itself is biphobic.

pan isn’t transphobic/biphobic in origin; actual trans and non-binary people who lived through and helped pan come about have said it was in direct response to the transphobia in the bi community at the time and served as a way to create a safe space for trans people. how is trans people creating a safe space for themselves transphobic? how is a movement in response to a very real issue in the bi community biphobic?

pan is not an unnecessary label: pan has a history and importance to people that can’t just be thrown away. and definition wise, some people prefer more specific terms and some people just relate to pan in a way they don’t with bi. that alone means it IS a necessary label.

bi is not transphobic; bi does not exclude trans people. transphobic individuals in a community doesn’t mean the identity itself is transphobic

bi is not binary; bi is not limited to men and women, or specifically cis men and women. it does not exclude anyone.

bi is not outdated; bi is not and never will be an outdated term. it is a very historic identity with a whole lot of history and no amount of other specific terms or embracing fluidity or umbrella terms or anything else will ever erase the importance and relevance of it.

not only are the claims against at both identities sometimes very ahistorical, but they’re also just garbage at this point and I’m tired of seeing people continue to throw them around and contributing to this hateful and unhelpful narrative

pan is attraction to people of all gender identities/lack thereof

bi is attraction to people of two or more gender identities/lack thereof

both labels/communities are not competing and can coexist

pan trans and pan non-binary people exist. bi trans and bi non-binary people exist; stop erasing trans and non-binary people’s existence and experiences in order to use them as a mere argument point in your narrative against another identity

people who identify as both pan and bi exist; stop the “this or that” framing that erases people who identify as both or fluctuate between the two

all in all

pan and bi are not bigoted identities

they are very valid and important identities

neither is more legitimate or better than the other

it starts with yuri talking about a girl, but he’s also talking about victor, who showed up and dropped everything just for yuri, who has tried endlessly to get him to open up but failed, every time, because yuri can’t see the love his friends and family have for him. yet. 

that’s true of victor, too. he refuses to talk to him, spend time with him, even though victor has tried over and over again to meet him where he is. yuri knows that. this is an apology. 

fucking. unconditional. what can i be for you? a father figure, a friend, a brother? love, for victor, is showing up. he showed up, and he has not stopped since. he would mold himself into anybody for yuri, regardless of his own feelings. 

this is why this scene is everything. yuri doesn’t want victor to play a role, to be someone besides who he already is. and that- that’s love for victor, to just be himself with someone who already knows who he is. 

he always has, and he always will. victor would travel halfway across the country to meet you where you are, yuri. he’ll meet you where you are, as a brother, a coach, a friend, a husband. wherever you are, he will meet you. 

❝We call everything on the ice, ‘love’....❞

“It is absurd to divide people into good and bad. People are either charming or tedious.”