I'm Spike!!

“You’re such a good girl”

I know there’s a lot of really heavy and intense things on Tumblr that reflect a fantasy world of BDSM. There’s a lot of people out there that will tell you that you have to obey without question. That you have to endure somebody treating you like shit because you’re a submissive. That you have to be an object.

I want to remind you that isn’t true. Most of the captions written on Tumblr would never be said in real life. I guarantee you that these people don’t have the balls to walk up to somebody and say that to them out of the blue. They thrive off of anonymity. It allows them to forget their Humanity.

Trust me, I understand there’s a time and a place for humiliation and degradation. But no human being deserves to be treated like that 24/7. We are social creatures. Our emotional and mental health needs affirmation at times.

Basically I’m trying to remind you that submission is a gift. To those of you that are new, you don’t have to put up with being treated poorly simply because somebody tells you that’s the way it is. It isn’t that way.

Call me pathetic, in hushed tones, with love in your eyes, while you run your hands along my body until I shiver

Tease me for how little effort it takes to make me whimper, to make me small and obedient

Tell me I’m stupid, but I make up for it cuz I’m pretty

Make me beg and then tease me for how desperate I am

Tell me dumb boytoys like me don’t need to think, I just need to be soft and make pretty noises for you and grab your shirt and do what you say

I’m your boy, throw me on the bed and hold me down because you know I’m soft and weak and of course, if you told me not to move I’d lay still as long as you wanted

Sometimes underfoot, always hungry! 🐾

🌸 so eager to learn your rules and commands or hand signs, so they do everything to learn and remember them really quick to satisfy you

🌸 the proud look on their face when they’ve just obeyed an order, and you know they really did it to please you, to earn that pat on their head or a gentle kiss on their mouth

🌸 “please, I want to be spanked, master”

🌸 that hectic, truly sorry apology when they did something they shouldn’t have

🌸 doing everything and anything to satisfy you

🌸 w o r s h i p

🌸 no need for training them in every session or even punish them at all because they really try to behave as well as they can

🌸 you can focus on more important things like helping them to endure more pain or difficult ideas

🌸 when they misbehave, you can enjoy that punishment so much and really let out your inner sadist because it just doesn’t happen as often

🌸 begging to be allowed to make you cum

🌸 begging to be allowed to cum themselves

🌸 “thank you so much for…”

🌸 doing the most humiliating things when you order them to, without any hesitation

🌸 rewarding them feels so good because you know they really, really want to be good and try their very hardest not to do anything to displease you

🌸 “Have I been naughty?” + a very honest look of discontentment on their face

🌸 you can literally reward them all the time because they’re so so so good

🌸 they love kneeling in front of you, it’s their greatest pleasure

🌸 the smile on their face when you give them a cute nickname (“yes, master, I’m good, I want to be good just for you”)

🌸 so fixated on you

In power exchange dynamics, punishment refers to an action the Dom takes, usually negative reinforcement, to deter the submissive from breaking rules or from forgetting expectations.

But… what do you to for punishments? Have no fear. I’ve compiled a list, broken down into non-physical and physical punishments, to use as inspiration for your dynamic.

PHYSICAL PUNISHMENTS

- Spanking

- Caning

- Bastinado

- Figging

- Paddling

- Predicament bondage

- Kneeling in rice

- Holding hands in ice water

- Holding ice

- Forced cold shower / bath

- Tickling

- Clips and clamps

- Nipple / genital weights

- Walking on rice, pebbles or leggos  

- Coconut rope

- Tightrope bondage

- Slapping

NON-PHYSICAL PUNISHMENTS

- Writing lines

- Lecture

- Corner time

- Time-out in room

- Loss of privileges (phone, internet, video games)

- Loss of privileges (bathroom, utensil or hand use)

- Writing essay related to the transgression

- Being gagged

- Mouth soaping

- Being reduced to human furniture

- Being made to hold an uncomfortable pose 

- Being ignored / loss of speaking privileges

- Being locked in a cage or closet 

- Orgasm denial

- Orgasm torture

- Using a chilled or heated dildo

- Being made to sleep on the floor 

- Loss of furniture use

- Wearing humiliating or ill-fitting clothing

- Humiliating body writing

- Holding tongue

- Boot-licking

- Household chores (laundry, cleaning, dishes)

- Earlier bedtime

- Being made to scrub bathroom with tongue or toothbrush

- Being forced to perform a boring task (counting marbles, picking up grains of rice) with no other stimulation

- Being blindfolded and forced to listen to hated music / movie / show

- Hold coins against the wall without letting them slip

- No junk food

- Food denial for a day

- Being forced to walk on tiptoes

- Being made to wear uncomfortable shoes

All punishments should be negotiated, and within the limits / boundaries of all parties involved.