I live in an alternate universe

made a woman the ceo of his fortune 500 company

turned to helen cho, an asian woman doctor, for help on medical and scientific advances that he didn’t understand, and explicitly said her ideas to leave his iron man suits in the dust is the plan for the future

like @one-piece-of-harry said, has been in a committed relationship with the same woman since 2010 and is about to marry her

when natasha asked for his impression, instead of physically objectifying her, analyzed her personality and said she had a quiet reserve and an old soul, didn’t say anything about her looks

called maya hansen one of the most gifted women he’s ever met after she told him about her research. when the “glitch” happened with the plant and caused the explosion, he never said anything condescending, just made suggestions on how to improve instead (before happy tackled him to the bed)

And before anyone brings up ~prima nocta~ it was a joke – and one written by Joss “I’m a Feminist” Whedon – it was obvious Tony was bringing up something he would never do. And if people are still slamming Tony for one joke written by Whedon I better see people dragging Loki for “mewling quim” just as much (because that’s about as close Whedon could get Loki to saying “whiny cunt” with the censors).

Some of ya “Thor the feminist would hate Tonky Stork” are hypocritical as fuck cuz you like to completely forget Thor threw himself into a bloody fight because a Frost Giant called him “princess.” Characters learn and grow and become better. None of them are perfect angel babies and stop pretending they are.

1. Tony consistently trusts women over men. Not just because “women are more trustworthy” but truly trusts their expertise and advise.             - Vol 3, wouldn’t listen to Scott Lang for shit but Jane Foster says the same thing and Tony 100% changes his tune             - Vol 3, opened a WOMAN’S SHELTER FOR ABUSED WOMEN AND TEENS PICKED UP PROSTITUTES, PAID THEM FOR TWO HOURS SO THEY COULD TALK WITH A BLACK FEMALE THERAPIST HE PUT IN CHARGE OF SAID SHELTER AND HE FUCKING LEFT             - Vol 3, felt like a CREEPER for checking out Rumiko while she was wind surfing, he didn’t even say anything he was just “Oh look at that pretty woman being all awesome” and then fucking felt like a creeper when she spotted him             - Vol 1, when Carol Danvers (as a reporter) said Stark Industries didn’t have enough women he volunteered that he was piloting a program to get more women involved

2. Tony puts women in charge whenever he can             - West Coast Avengers, Tony appointed Wanda. Yeah, he did some dick things but Wanda didn’t let him get away with it              - Avengers Initiative, Tony appointed Carol deliberately because he not only trusted her expertise as a leader but also knew she would never let him cross a line              - Continually left/leaves Pepper in charge of the company that he deems his personal legacy and responsibility for the world.

3. Tony will side with women over men. IN A GODDAMN HEARTBEAT             - Avengers Disassembled, rebuttaled Stephen Strange when Strange suggested Wanda needed to be killed

4. Tony is literally the epitome of “Chivalry” like ya’ll think Steve Rogers is because he’s from the 40s??? Tony frickin’ went to all boys boarding school where they TEACH CLASSES on proper etiquette, and would ditch class to read King Arthur. And you wanna come into my house, MY HOUSE, suggesting little Tony reading King Arthur did not LOVE Guinevere???? And does not carry those idealistic morals into his adulthood??? HAVE YOU NOT SEEN HIS AESTHETIC???

5. Tony almost married someone named Indries Moomji, she used and abused him and broke his heart but guess what guys. When she did it, he came in all excited to see the woman he thought he loved and was affectionately pawing at her and she told him to stop and HE STOPPED. He LOOKED LIKE A HURT PUPPY BUT HE STOPPED. He didn’t shit talk, he didn’t play stupid ass games, he stopped and when she told him she was done with him he LEFT AND GOT DRUNK AND RHODEY HAD TO TAKE HIM TO HIS MOTHER’S HOUSE

6. Tony’s advise to Vision about women was to stop reading dumbfuck magazines and just enjoy getting to know her as a person and that the adventure in getting to know someone is the FUN PART

7. Tony Stark is a helpless hopeless romantic who has been abused as a child from his father, had a mother that defended him which left him believing in the power and trust of women. Has had nothing but fierce women in his life both romantically and platonically that DO. NOT. PUT. UP. WITH. HIS. SHIT. But he’s been broken beyond that and so hides under sarcasm and flirtatious banter to move through a society that requires it’s top echelon males to act a certain way, and yet STILL is a leader both professionally and personally in the proper way to treat HUMAN BEINGS IN GENERAL but ESPECIALLY WOMEN and not just white women either. Black women, Asian Women, Middle Eastern Women. Women from all backgrounds and all colors.

8. The best part about ALL of this, is even in canon people talk like this about Tony Stark, and you know what he does? He goes around supporting young women like RiRi, he gives Kamala hugs and reassurance, he keeps in touch with Carol to keep him grounded and support her in ways no one else understands, he keeps Natasha in touch with reality (and Natasha will CUT A BITCH over Tony Stark), and he was trying to impress an MIT research doctor with FEMALE THOR. 

Tony Stark is the feminist we need but don’t deserve, you know why? Because he’s REAL. He treats women as PEOPLE, not as objects to be saved and yet at the same time he treats them as GODDESSES to be worshipped. 

 Frollo and Quasimodo

Mother Gothel and Rapunzel

Frollo and Mother Gothel convince Quasimodo and Rapunzel that their lives are dependent on them. The two villains claim the outside world is a terrible place even though they know this is not true. They also constantly emotionally abuse their victims by implying their worthlessness and destroying their self-esteems. Quasimodo and Rapunzel sympathize with their captors and even believe their captors are protecting them and treating them with kindness. However, both captors are merely using and manipulating their victims for their own selfish purposes.

NOT:

The Beast and Belle

 Belle does not sympathize with the Beast when she is treated poorly. She becomes angry and leaves the castle, only returning by her own wish so that the Beast (who saves her) does not freeze to death. She does not respond nicely towards the Beast until he treats her with respect. In this situation, Belle has control and is not manipulated into feeling for the Beast, nor does the Beast treat her disrespectfully after the first night. While the Beast does have an underlying motive as to keeping Belle in his castle, he abandons this idea and sets her free to make her happy. If anything, this story is a case of Lima Syndrome where the captor starts to sympathize with the victim.

toddler, quietly, waving hands around: [incomprehensible]

mom: what?

toddler, even quieter: [incomprehensible]

dad: you gotta speak up, bud