Sugar Life

what does this mean? well many people when they enter the world of manifestation and spirituality think that they should do nothing or on the contrary be aware of their manifestation all the time and try to act.

the work that has to be done is a mental effort. i will give a simple example. if you are trying to manifest money and be an abundant person, it is useless to repeat those affirmations or do a meditation to connect with the energy of abundance when you are chatting with someone and you talk about it and you say that you don't have money, that everything is too expensive and things like that. this what you are doing is canceling the mental work that you have already done, but calm being aware of this you have to reconnect with the energy of abundance (or whatever you want to manifest in your life) and control your thoughts, do not tell yourself or anyone those negative things that do not reflect what you want.

inspired action will come at any time and that is when you will know what to do or how to do it.

everything is based on beliefs, if you have a deep rooted belief in your mind, either good or bad that is what will end up being projected in your life. that is why it is very important to change the beliefs when manifesting. you can connect with the vibration of that energy that you want to attract but if after that you continue with your same beliefs the energetic "work" is cancelled, as I have said before but I repeat it to be clear again.

how can you raise your vibration?

by doing activities that make you feel good, like walking, painting, dancing, listening to music.

eating healthy food, especially fruits and vegetables.

listening to high vibrational frequencies (on youtube you can find a lot of them)

meditating

and how to change limiting beliefs?

just by detecting them and changing that negative belief for what you want to manifest, even if it seems "impossible" at the beginning, everything is possible.

because think in the life of other people that have what you want, for them it is not impossible, maybe if they worked hard or had "the luck" to be born with it or to obtain it easily but that doesn't mean that you can't get it too. think about this every time you compare yourself with another person that has what you want.

and lastly buddha said:

"the mind is everything. you become what you believe in".

[I was like, adulting 101 but do I sound like an adult to yall lol]

Too many cooks spoil the broth.

"Joint savings-" SCAM. that's all I'll say.

You are single until there's a prenuptial on your table. Not a ring. Not until he decides it's exclusive. Not until you meet his mom. Not until you've written your vows- until there's a prenuptial on your table. You. Are. Single. He is on . Rotation

Human beings are animals before they are people. Read that again.

What you don't know you either fear or worship.

What you don't pay for in currency you pay for in your time & attention and that's ultimately more expensive. Money you can get back. Time gone is gone.

Anything that depreciates in value is a liability. The opposite is also true.

Anyone in your life that is not actively working to level up or better themselves is a liability. Crab mentality is a thing.

Experiences >> possessions. In fact experiences are all that life is about.

A job that steals you from your life is a problem. Whatever the pay is. You'd rather have a low paying job that's only 8 hours a day over a nine figure that's 13 hours a day.your job is supposed to facilitate your life, not steal it.

The grass is greener exactly where it's watered

What does not work for you you work for. What you do not control controls you.

Jack of all trades is a master of none but better than a master of one.

Many ways lead to Rome. There is more than one way to kill a rat.

There is no such thing as free thinking choose your influences carefully.

If it separates the wheat from the chaff let it be

Time you've enjoyed wasting is still time wasted

Competition is imaginary babe its you against you. Always. It's you you need to look out for

You can love a monster, it can even love you back & protect you from the other monsters- that doesn't change the fact that it's a monster. You do not lie with dogs and complain of fleas.

Neutrality is a lie either its for you or against you.

The girls that get it, get it. The girls that don't, find out.

I’ve touched on this before, but I’m going to go in to further detail. There’s a reason why some girls are more successful than others and it’s all in the mindset. A lot of the characteristics of a good sugar baby are generally not those of a polite person. As many of us grown up we were taught to be humble, not to be greedy, to only take a fair share, to be independent and do things for ourselves. Throw everything you’ve learned out the window and re-program your thoughts. That’s the only way you can make it.

1) Don’t feel guilt. He wants to spend time with you. You met on a site for arrangements. He has money. 2+2=4. If he wants to see you and it’s going to cost you $30 to get there, tell him you need $60. If he wants to take you away for a day and you’re going to miss out on $120 from your job, tell him you need $250. Catch my drift? Don’t ever go out of pocket to see a guy. If he wants to see you he’ll pay. 

2) Don’t be embarrassed to talk money. If someone wants to you to spend your precious time on them they better earn it. You go on 2 dates and you haven’t seen a dime? Make it clear before the third that you like him but your time is valuable and you could be spending it more efficiently (i.e. making money). Remind him where you met and how it wasn’t match.com. If he asks you how much you want, YOU TELL HIM. Don’t give him a lowball offer because you’re afraid he’ll say no. If anything, always ask for more.. the worst that could happen is he counters. Don’t like negotiating? The good news is you only really need to do it once with each guy. It quickly separates the salt from the sugar.

3) Be greedy. You deserve it. Ask for things on top of your allowance. If he likes you he will not say no. If he wants to take you somewhere fancy, guess what you need? A new outfit including shoes and a purse to match. If he wants to take you on a trip, guess what you need? scuba certification, passport costs, new luggage, whatever. It NEVER hurts to just ask. Think with his wallet instead of yours. $100 here and there isn’t breaking anyone’s bank and if it is he needs to re-evaluate being a sugar daddy.

4) If you’re a newbie, don’t be too afraid of the splenda. I know that some of you have set allowance goals you’d like to reach but realistically depending on location, and your level of experience you may not be able to get what you want off the bat. If someone is offering a little lower than you’d like.. Remember that you can always ask for a raise in allowance after a month or two (I would actually recommend this regardless) and in the meantime have him supplement it with gifts like I mentioned earlier. Sell the gifts if you need the cash. A lot of guys are uncomfortable committing to a larger number off the bat because they don’t know you yet. It’s not a wise investment for them. This will change once he sees how consistently charming and amazing you are. In the meantime, take that money and use it to do what you need to do to catch the bigger fish. Gym membership, better clothes, get your hair done, any other forms of self improvement. Flip splenda in to sugar.

1. Drink water with every meal, and between each meal. Hydration does wonders for your entire body. 2. Get yourself on a proper sleep schedule. Its easier to grind when you’re well rested. 3. Airspun translucent powder (Walgreens, $7) bakes ya makeup to the gods. Your shit won’t move for the entire day. Kiss ya fallout goodbye. 4. Brands like BH Cosmetics, Makeup Revolution, NYX, ELF, Essence, and Maybelline are all relatively cheap, good quality makeup brands for that last-all-night look 5. Dressing in neutrals like nudes, whites, blacks, and greys generally make your outfit choices easier to mix and match, without all the hustle of finding something to wear. Plus you’ll look like a fuckin baddie 6. Let your eyebrows grow, for the love of God. Castor oil and coconut make ya eyebrows and lashes grow thick and long, and ABH Brow Whiz is the shit for long lasting, natural looking brows. Seriously worth every penny. 7. Eat fresh fruit and stay away from processed sweets for a healthy, fresh smelling/tasting pussy 8. Roll non scented deodorant onto your pussy after you shave to avoid any razor bumps or ingrown hairs (DO NOT PUT NEAR YOUR ACTUAL VULVA, JUST THE OUTSIDE PORTION) 9. Make ya blowjobs wet, sloppy, and be sure to make eye contact as ya lick it. He’ll be putty in your hands 10. Coconut oil hoes👏👏👋 good for scars, stretch marks, cellulite, dry skin, you name it 11. Be sure to find your actual skin type, and look up ingredients in products that help according to your skin type. For example, skin products with salicylic acid help normal/oily skin, while glycolic acid helps dryer, aged skin. 12. Products and moisterizers with urea and ammonium lactate can help clear your keratosis pilaris (KP, the little bumps on your arms/legs/ass/cleavage) 13. Exercise regularly, and change up your workouts every couple of months to keep your body challenged 14. Never send your face in nudes. Make your nudes unidentifiable, in case you encounter a fuckboy who leaks them because hes an asshole. Protect yourself girl. 15. Always keep an extra change of clothes in your car, in case of an accident, dress code violation, or fashion emergency 16. Keep ya grades up, get a job, and make your own money so you don’t have to be financially dependent on some fuckboy. 17. Keep your cuticles moisturized for stronger, healthier nails (especially when wearing acrylics) 18. Take biotin pills to boost hair and nail growth, healthy skin, and kickstart metabolism. 19. Take selfies and nudes at all times to boost that body confidence. Snapchat has a password protected “My Eyes Only” option in Memories that you can hide these in if you’re shy. 20. Literally just worry about you babygirl stay unbothered

So I read a post the other day another sugar baby made in regards to seeing Tumblr absolutely oversaturated with tips and tricks on how to sugar but very little in regards to actual adventures, dates, or anything about our own SD’s. I agree that we should work to change this, not only to shed light on what the actual relationships with our SD’s are like… but to establish that not all of us are in it solely for the money. While I do care about the money of the men I date, I also have to grow to care about them as well or else it wouldn’t be a cohesive sugar relationship.

I feel like it’s all too easy to see posts of SB’s completely dehumanizing their SD, and while some cases it may call for it, at the end of the day, my ideal sugar relationship would be with someone I DIDN’T hate being around. A slightly lower allowance is worth it to me as I’d rather have someone I was legitimately attracted to, treated me with respect, and who I enjoyed looking forward to meeting every month.

Sugaring is not my only occupation. I’m a student, I have a job, and I work hard… and I’d rather value my time with my SD than resent it. While I’m guilty sometimes of only seeing dollar signs, the way sugaring is portrayed in the media is vastly different from reality. My relationships have been largely a positive experience, and when approached with safety can be very rewarding both fiscally and emotionally.

Cigar Lounges

Five Star Hotels

Michelin Star Restaurants 

Racing Clubs

Capitol Hill 

Golf Club 

Rooftops 

So I work in a pricey restaurant/lounge and I was just brought on as a new bartender and eventually cocktail when they expand upwards into the space they renovated, but the head chef took such a liking to me and it’s a bit of the slow season right now that he’s all for buying me the food, drinks, and more that I want.

And then he comes up behind me during work and starts asking,“Are you okay, financially? I know it’s slow but if you need anything at all… you let me know, I’ll take care of you.”

Sugaring is a JOB and let’s be real a pretty intensive one at that. At best it’s kind of fun, at worst it’s downright dangerous.

The more boring or risk-related a job is, the higher it pays. For example I work 2 days a week moving information from a website into a spreadsheet - that’s literally all I do, and I make $600 a week ($39.50 an hour). 

Why would you work a dangerous job for LESS than what you can earn doing a simple desk job? I make $2400 a month in my DESK JOB. When it comes to men I ask a minimum of $4k a month because I can already make $2.4k every month just working a desk job for 2 DAYS A WEEK. 

Most daddies demand far more of my time and energy than my desk job, and they come with far greater associated risks, why in the hell would I sugar for the same amount I get working 2 days a week in front of a computer? I wouldn’t. You shouldn’t either.