postponed distress

Not all toxic people are cruel and uncaring. Some of them love us dearly. Many of them have good intentions. Most are toxic to our being simply because their needs and way of existing in the world force us to compromise ourselves and our happiness. They aren’t inherently bad people, but they aren’t the right people for us. And as hard as it is, we have to let them go. Life is hard enough without being around people who bring you down, and as much as you care, you can’t destroy yourself for the sake of someone else. You have to make your wellbeing a priority. Whether that means breaking up with someone you care about, loving a family member from a distance, letting go of a friend, or removing yourself from a situation that feels painful — you have every right to leave and create a safer space for yourself.

does someone ever say something to you and you can just feel the

this is not based on my personal experience, just on observation, but i think it’s really important for people to realize that you can be in an unhealthy relationship with somebody that’s a good person. you can be in an unhealthy relationship with a person you really like and love. some people just bring out the worst in each other, or sometimes people just…have shit they gotta work out and it causes the relationship to be bad for one or both people.

I need to know that it’s possible to salvage my now toxic relationship; things used to be so healthy and beautiful, but we’ve lost a lot of trust and stability. I keep telling myself that things will be better again some day as long as we both strive to communicate with each other and better ourselves.