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josh ritter: change of time // connor mcdavid & mcdrai webweave

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ptactwo

i still find it so genuinely Weird when i think about the fact that fat people irl are a rather common occurrence. your family, your friends, your coworkers, people on the bus, random passerbys - there are fat people there. usually often. but when you look at Any form of media - movies, tv shows, video games, books are more complicated as not a visual medium but there too, fat people are almost nonexistent. one fat person for the whole movie. one fat person in the background of your fictional city. this is so insanely unrealistic but at the same time nobody comments on this and "we" accept it as normal!! and then people even think their own fatness makes them into some rare failure instead of one of the incredibly common body situations. crazy

junglejim4322

People really underestimate the power of just telling someone you like them. romantically obviously but hell even just platonically too. You can admit you enjoy peoples presence it doesn’t have to be mind games it’s okay to just be sincere and true with your thoughts and intentions btw

lovely-lavender-sunshine

I’m so sick of signaling. I’m not nonchalant. I’m not built for moderation or subtlety. If you like me, tell me. If you enjoy my company, tell me. If you want to hangout more, tell me. If I brighten your day, tell me. If you have a crush on me, tell me. If you are thinking about me, TELL ME. And allow me to do the same. We desperately need to go back to people being PEOPLE. Love and friendship and community are not a burden. They’re a blessing. They’re human and being a human with feelings and connections is always going to be a little messy and inconvenient. Let it. Embrace it. Live loudly, love louder.

#!!!!!

bauliya

“stop traumadumping to your friends tell this to your therapist” my god they paywalled human connection

big-edies-sun-hat

“If a friend of mine gave a feast, and did not invite me to it, I should not mind a bit. but if a friend of mine had a sorrow and refused to allow me to share it, I should feel it most bitterly. If he shut the doors of the house of mourning against me, I would move back again and again and beg to be admitted so that I might share in what I was entitled to share. If he thought me unworthy, unfit to weep with him, I should feel it as the most poignant humiliation.”

Oscar Wilde

gayyyboykissrr

Im gonna explain the difference between traumadumping, talking to friends and a therapist as someone who's been on post sides of the conversation

Going to therapy: having a designated space to talk about negative emotions and trauma with someone who has the skills to not be easily triggered and can provide coping mechanisms/a listening ear

Telling friends about your problems: having a space to talk about negative emotions and trauma while recognizing your friend may not always be in the space to listen or may get triggered. Both friends take turns listening and venting. Friend can occasionally provide coping skills

Trauma dumping: Talking about negative emotions and trauma for the majority of the relationship while not acknowledging the other friend's triggers or own feelings.

Not everything is trauma dumping but your friends are allowed ti have boundaries

just-an-enby-lemon

Yeah. I fully agree that a friend that refuses to listen to anyone's problems and emphasize is no friend at all but also a lot of people on the notes are fully going on about how therapy is either unnecessary or that is a service that shouldn't be compensated and it being compensated is an evil of capitalism.

And as both a friend who listens to my friends vent a lot (and who himself vents enough to be amazed and thankfull everytime they listen to me) and a licensed therapist: it's different. For once the connection you have with a friend often can be detrimental to good therapy work (but not to good friendship). When a friend of mine is hurting my first instintic isn't to use my knowledge to help them find and create ways to get better and deal better with future pain/not get in the situation they got hurt. I care too much for them to think long term. My instinct is to listen to their vent and try whatever I can to make the imidiate pain go away. And the two things are important but not the same. I've said things to venting friends that if I had said to a patient I would freely hand my license (I can be very moved by a friend's anger and will hate someone with them no questions asked).

Venting is important and is horrible that so many people seem to be misusing pop psychilogy lingo to stop human conection.

But also and I think is the thing for a lot of people in the notes - sometimes is not even the traumadumpoing - venting, even usual venting has to mutual and also not the only aspect of a friendship. Like if the only conversations you have with your friends are to vent that is also detrimental to human conection. Unlike a therapist a friend has their own venting to do right back and a friend is also someone to share all your feelings with. Negative and positive.

My point is that I agree with the idea behind the ppst but a lot of people are reading it as "therapy shouldn't exist cause is just payed friendship" that implies therapy is not a real job or even "therapy should exist but therapists are evil for wanting money" that puts on the worker the burden of capitalism.

I don't like to consider myself more than a baby comunist cause despite agreing whole hearted with all I know of it, I've only fully read The Comunist Manifesto, some writings by Engels and Vygotsky texts on education that were writen in soviet russian and are very much inspired by comunism ideology. And I'm an anxious perfectionist (that is in therapy about it and many other things) and I think terms - specially tittles I respect - come with agreement and knowledge, and I have a lot of agreement but need more knowledge. But I do understand that the two central basis of comunism is "private property is inherently theft" and "worker's liberation". Under the last one I do think even in a post capitalism society people should be compensated for their job. Yes, it would be better if it was by the state and yes I do believe therapists should be cheaper but also as a therapist working for a private company let me tell you a secret (if your therapist is part of a clinic or hospital and not an independent worker [wich is the case very often because rent for a home is already too high even more to an office + home they are getring paid way way less than you guys are being charged with.

#a lot of good points in this post

hikes-and-moans

UNPOPULAR OPINION: A lot of "mental health issues" disappear when bills are paid, rent is secure, and the fridge is full. Peace is expensive. And pretending money doesn't affect mental health is privilege.

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subaru-copilot

im so sorry that you're doomed by the narrative but i really need you to answer my message on Microsoft Teams

#i feel like this is kes with specifically one co-worker

philcollinsenjoyer

i think there's nothing in the world easier than to not be in the new harry potter series. like wow i know so many people who are not in it because of how easy it is to not be in it

pokecheck77

I feel like Nathan MacKinnon is perpetually 10 seconds away from asking Sidney Crosby to put a cigarette out on him

theweirdwideweb

Hey check your titties for any lumps

gunsandfireandshit

And ur balls if applicable

theweirdwideweb

And your balls

ailithnight

Assess the orbs for irregularities.

betweentimes

Das Team + Start in den Tag ☕️

#me as adam rn #awake and hateful abt it

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spaetzchenultra

Esther & Adam parallels

hab die Idee fürs Intro bei @inconsistent-gecko gesehen!

#the CANONICAL Lesbian paralleling with Adam #beautiful #going through my likes

treibholz-des-universums

The team going through it (außer Adam)

#lmao <3 #spatort #tatort saarbrücken

nightfeverfever

murder isn't okay however sometimes your friends have REALLY bad parents

#leo hölzer core tbh

#it's hard to talk about how exhausting work is without sounding like i am begging for a pat on the head for working in health care #it's also hard to talk about the shitty things I experience at work without feeling like I'm seeking for validation etc #bc the solution isn't to quit #it's trying to find a balance #I love my job so much but it's just really tough sometimes #anyway. i woke up at 6am grinding and clenching my teeth and with my neck still stiff and sore #bc I have so much on my plate #and some shifts/situations still stick with me #ugh.#i miss my therapist

haveyoureadth1s

Hat Esthers Bruder Adam gerade (auf eine sehr sehr homophobe Weise) gay genannt? 👀

#calling adam evil 🥲#when his entire life he's hated himself so deliciously bc his father instilled that in him #and the only one who always believed he was everything BUT evil is Leo #god #anyway that ep was very 👀#going through my likes

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