Picture Your Purpose NLP & Coaching

8 Tips to Get Un-stuck in Your Career

Introduction:

Feeling stuck in life or your career is a common experience that many of us face at some point. It can be frustrating and disheartening, but the good news is that you have the power to break free from the rut and create positive change. As a life coach, I have helped individuals navigate through such challenges and discover their true potential.  Here are 8 tips to get un-stuck in your career that I have learned to help you embark on a fulfilling journey of personal and professional growth.

Tip # 1:  Define your goals and values

The first step towards getting unstuck is gaining clarity about what you truly want. Take the time to reflect on your values, passions, and aspirations. Set specific, realistic goals that align with your values. This process will help you regain focus and direction, enabling you to make meaningful progress.

Tip # 2:  Break it down

Overwhelming goals can often hinder progress. Break down your larger goals into smaller, manageable tasks. This way, you can tackle them one step at a time, celebrating small victories along the way. Each accomplishment will boost your confidence and motivate you to keep moving forward.

Tip # 3:  Embrace a growth mindset

Cultivate a growth mindset that thrives on challenges and sees failures as opportunities for learning. Embrace the belief that you can develop and improve your skills through effort and perseverance. This mindset shift will empower you to take risks, explore new avenues, and embrace change with resilience.

Tip # 4:  Seek guidance and support

Don’t hesitate to seek support from others who can provide guidance and accountability. Consider working with a mentor, coach, or trusted friend who can offer fresh perspectives and valuable insights. They can help you identify blind spots, challenge self-limiting beliefs, and provide the encouragement you need during challenging times.

Tip # 5:  Embrace continuous learning

Invest in your personal and professional development by seeking out learning opportunities. Attend workshops, seminars, or online courses relevant to your field or interests. Engage in reading books, listening to podcasts, or joining communities that foster growth and knowledge sharing. Expanding your skill set and knowledge base will open doors to new possibilities and help you stay relevant in a rapidly evolving world.

Tip # 6: Take calculated risks

Fear of failure often holds us back from taking necessary risks. Understand that failure is a natural part of growth and view it as a stepping stone towards success. Embrace calculated risks by evaluating potential outcomes and weighing the pros and cons. Embracing new experiences and pushing your boundaries will expand your comfort zone and fuel personal and professional growth.

Tip # 7:  Practice self-care

Remember to take care of yourself amidst the hustle and bustle of life. Nurture your physical, mental, and emotional well-being. Incorporate activities such as exercise, meditation, hobbies, and spending time with loved ones into your routine. Prioritising self-care will help you maintain balance, reduce stress, and stay motivated on your journey.

Tip # 8:  Embrace adaptability

Change is inevitable, and being adaptable is key to overcoming challenges and getting unstuck. Embrace flexibility in your plans and be open to adjusting your course when necessary. Adapting to new circumstances and being willing to explore alternative paths can lead to unexpected opportunities and breakthroughs.

Conclusion:

Getting unstuck in your career requires intention, effort, and a commitment to personal growth. By defining your goals, embracing a growth mindset, seeking support, continuously learning, taking calculated risks, practicing self-care, and embracing adaptability, you can break free from the confines of stagnation and unlock your true potential. Remember, your journey is unique, and progress may not always be linear. Embrace the ups and downs, learn from every experience, and celebrate your growth along the way. Your future is waiting!

Working with a life coach can make the process of getting un-stuck in your career easier.  Book an appointment today at https://www.caromelnick.com/book-appointment/

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Hello, friends! One of the things I struggled with in an office environment was managing distractions. Are you struggling to stay focused and get things done in your work environment?

Distractions can make the difference between being super productive and missing a deadline. Here are some tips that I have used to manage and eliminate distractions to create a super productive work environment. Let's dive in!

Tip #1: Identify Your Distractions

First things first, take a moment to pinpoint the main culprits stealing your attention. Is it the constant pinging of your phone? Endless notifications? Chatty co-workers? Knowing your distractions is the first step towards taming them.

Tip #2: Set Clear Goals and Priorities

Creating a roadmap for your tasks can be a game-changer. Set specific, achievable goals for the day and prioritize them. This will not only give you a sense of direction but also help you stay on track when temptations arise.

Tip #3: Curate Your Workspace

Your work environment can significantly impact your productivity. Declutter your desk, add some green plants, and personalize your space to make it inviting. A neat and organized workspace sets the tone for a focused mind.

Tip #4: Digital Detox

It's time for a digital detox! Limit your social media usage and turn off non-essential notifications during work hours. Trust me, those adorable cat videos can wait until later!

Tip #5: Communicate Boundaries

If you work in a shared space, it's crucial to communicate your boundaries. Let your co-workers know when you need uninterrupted focus time and when it's okay to approach you for a quick chat.

Tip #6: Time Blocking Technique

Try the time-blocking technique to manage your day efficiently. Set aside specific time blocks for focused work, breaks, and even for checking emails. This way, you'll maintain a healthy work-life balance.

Tip #7: Take Regular Breaks

Yes, breaks are essential too! Incorporate short breaks in your schedule to recharge and refocus. Take a stroll outside, do some stretches, or meditate for a few minutes. You'll return to your tasks with renewed energy!

Remember that creating a distraction-free and productive work environment is all about finding what works best for you. Implement these tips one step at a time and witness the positive changes in your productivity and overall well-being.

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Keeping Your Cool: Managing Your Reactions to Stress

The television is blaring…the phone is ringing…and someone has just arrived at the door.  You are under stress—big-time.  As a result, you may feel a loss of control.  If it’s a particularly bad day, you might even feel as if there is no way out.  You feel overwhelmed and ill-equipped to deal with the stress you’re under.

What you may not realize is that it is entirely within your power to manage stress in a healthier way.  You may not have control over what happens in your life—but you can control your reaction to various stressors.   All it takes is a little advanced planning on your part.

TIPS TO MANAGE YOUR STRESS IN A HEALTHY WAY

Of course, a knee-jerk reaction to stress is to try to remove the stress entirely from your life.  But this is not always possible and, in some cases, it may not be the best approach.

What you might consider limiting your contact with a certain stressor.  In other words, if you’re really feeling overwhelmed, can you take a break from the action?  Just a few minutes outside can help clear your head, enabling you to better handle stress in the long run.

Another effective strategy is to consider delayed gratification.  For instance, say you enjoy a frappuccino in the morning, but you hate the commute to get to the coffee shop.  Perhaps you can make the frappuccino a one-day-a-week treat instead of an everyday affair.

STRESSOR 1:  ALL-OR-NOTHING THINKING

Another habit that can make stress more difficult than it needs to be is all-or-nothing thinking.  For instance, if you’re having trouble studying for a test, do you assume that you are going to fail?  If you have a disagreement with your spouse, do you think that he or she will eventually leave you?  If your mother is ill, do you begin worrying that she will die soon?  Such disaster-oriented thinking can make a difficult situation even more trying, even more stressful.  By adopting a more realistic approach to problems, you can limit your emotional reaction to stress.

STRESSOR 2:  PERFECTIONISM

Perfectionism may also be at the root of your stress.  If you think that you have to be perfect in the office and at home, you can never really relax.  In other words, you are putting yourself under unnecessary stress.  If you begin to focus on performing tasks well rather than perfectly, you can establish more realistic expectations for your life.  This new-and-improved thinking can enable you to face challenges with more confidence.

STRESSOR 3:  WINNER-TAKE-ALL PHILOSOPHY     

Another mode of thinking that can lead to greater stress is a winner-take-all philosophy.  If you feel as if you always have to win, you set yourself up for cut-throat competition.  This can be extremely destructive, especially to your interpersonal relationships.

It is much better to adopt an “everybody wins” philosophy.  According to this viewpoint, the critical thing is to perform those tasks that will do the most good.  Following this philosophy, you are far more likely to be able to take stress in stride.

STRESSOR 4:  LOSING YOUR TEMPER

Losing your temper can also cause you unnecessary stress.  If you are feeling as if you are about to explode, think of something calming, such as an ocean or a tree.  Don’t give in to the temptation to self-destruct.  Getting angry will not solve your problem and could, in fact, create additional problems.

If you feel as if your blood is about to boil, stay cool, take a step back, and re-assess your options.  With a clear head, you may be able to find the solution to your problem relatively quickly.  Your stress level should also drop.

TAKE A BREATH AND TAKE A BREAK

It should be said that it is not easy to control your reactions to stress.  It takes a great deal of time, patience, and emotional effort.  If you tend to react quickly to stress, you might have to teach yourself to slow your reactions.  You will have to learn to make controlling your reactions to stress a habit.  It is well worth the work involved.  Otherwise, you could find yourself battling a stress-related illness.

This morning my husband was busy making coffee in the kitchen and he went to the fridge to get the milk.  Next thing I hear “Honey, where’s the milk? I swear we opened a new one yesterday.  Surely we didn’t go through a whole liter in one day?”.

I quickly went to the kitchen to rescue the situation, opened the fridge and there the milk was, staring right back at me.  I quickly grabbed it and gave it to him “Here you go”.

Husband:  “Where did you find it?”

Me:  “In the fridge, top shelf, right in front”.

Husband:  (looks at me in total disbelief).

I’m sure I’m not the only one that this has happened to.  Sound familiar?

Many times, we cannot see the things that are staring right at us – the solution to a problem, an opportunity we’ve been waiting for, etc. Why is this?

One could use the old adage “too close to the project”.  Yes, that’s true – but there’s so much more to consider.

Reason 1 – You’re way too stressed

It’s amazing the effect that stress has on you.  It causes sleeping and eating pattern changes, loss of focus, physiological effects, etc.

What this means is that you may struggle to focus and you will miss the opportunities that may lie in front of your eyes because you’re too focused on the source of your stress.

Lesson:  learn to manage your stress levels so that they don’t affect your progress in life.

Reason 2 – There’s too much going on

Modern life is really really busy and the pandemic has not helped at all.  Most of us who have jobs are doing more than one person’s work and those of us who do not have jobs have so much going on just trying to survive.

It is a well-known fact that we are exposed to more information in one day than our grandparents were in their entire lives.  And our “FOMO” (fear of missing out) drives us to know as much as possible just in case we might need that tidbit of information at a later stage.

Lesson:  de-clutter your activities and stop being busy being busy

Reason 3 – You’re way too distracted

There are so many things that can distract us in modern life.   That series on Netflix, that pesky game on your mobile phone.  Oh, and don’t forget social media.

Take a step back – do you really need all that distraction in your life?  I doubt it.  I’m not saying cut it out all together – rather, pay attention to how much time you spend on these activities and trim it down so that you have more time to do something productive.

Lesson:  limit your time on digital distraction and be disciplined about it.

Reason 4 – You don’t believe that there is a solution

You have no idea how common this is.  Most people can’t see the opportunities that lie in front of them because they don’t believe that they deserve them and they don’t believe that they can find a solution to improve their lives.

Limiting beliefs are holding people back from achieving amazing things!  We are all filled with inner magic and most of us cannot see our own potential.

Lesson:  work on eradicating your limiting beliefs.

CONCLUSION

Make a commitment to yourself today to work on the lessons learnt from this article.  You are amazing!  If you clear your mind from the clutter, de-stress, eliminate distraction and work on your limiting beliefs, you can accomplish amazing things and will find the solutions you are looking for.

Go for it – what are you waiting for?

Here’s something to think about:

3 Steps to Discover the Purpose of Your Life

One of the things that people ponder the most in life is “what is my purpose?” and “why am I here?”.  We tend to view our purpose as the reason for our existence, which is directly linked to our perception of the value we bring to this world.

Not knowing our purpose in life can lead to feelings of worthlessness lead and a feeling of an unfulfilled life.  If you have felt this way, I am sure you have asked yourself the question “How can I discover my purpose in life?”

This can be one of the hardest questions that we as humans must try to answer. In this article we will be going through a step by step process, exploring your feelings and options.  By the end, you should have a fairly solid tool you can immediately apply in your life, to help give it a meaningful direction!

Let’s have a look at the three steps to the process of discovering the purpose of your life:

Understanding the principle of choice

Creating your “underlying principle”

Aligning your life with this underlying principle

STEP 1: Understanding the Principle of Choice

Norman Vincent Peale has this to say about the power of choice. “The greatest power we have is the power of choice. It is an actual fact, that if you have been groping under unhappiness, you can choose to be joyous, instead. And, by effort, lift yourself into joy. If you tend to be fearful, you can overcome that misery by choosing to have courage. The whole trend and the quality of anyone’s life is determined by the choices that are made”.

“Choosing” is the most important activity of your mind, because by making a choice, you are proclaiming your desires to your subconscious mind. Once the subconscious mind gets to know your desires, it is going to do anything to manifest them in your life. The choices you make in your life become your goal. And, if you are sincere in pursuing them, there is no reason why you should not accomplish them.

Indecision, on the other hand, not only creates frustration and anxiety, but can also confuse the subconscious mind about what you want.

It is important that the choices you make are made by you, in accordance with your true desires, purposes and aptitude. A lot of us let others make choices for us, or make our choices according to what we think is ‘correct’, even if that means that we go against our wishes. What is right for someone else may not be right for you, and the way to know this is listening to what your heart says.

So, to begin with, make a list of things which interest you; things which you have always enjoyed, which make you feel better, which inspire you to surge ahead, no matter what obstacles you face. Do you like doing something creative, or something artistic? Do you enjoy nature? Do you like the sea? Do you enjoy helping others? Do you get pleasure out of making a difference in other people’s life?

Whatever it is that interests you, write it down and answer these questions:

What thing do you love to do?

What specifically is it that you love about this and why?

How could you make a living out of doing this?

STEP 2: Create Your Underlying Principle

The next step is to examine the list you just made and find out if there is a recurring theme. Maybe, it is the contribution that keeps coming up, or an effect to seek or give love, or helping your parents cope with old age. Whatever it is, try to identify the central theme of the things you love to do, and try to put it in a short and precise statement. This will be your ‘Mission Statement’. It may even be a quote by a famous person, or a philosophy that has influenced you. Of course, as you grow, this statement could evolve, but its soul will remain the same. Now, write down your Mission Statement.

STEP 3: Aligning Your LIFE With Your Underlying Principle

The final step in this journey is to map your path to your ultimate purpose and to begin implementing changes that help to align your daily life with your underlying purpose. By making these little changes in your lifestyle, you will start to be able to begin living this principle out each and every day.

It might take a few days, but by becoming aware and intentional of this underlying principle of your life, you will certainly start to feel the difference in your enthusiasm for life as a whole. If you realize that you love being in nature, plan out your holiday. Maybe an outing with your children could be enough to recoup your energy. If you discover that you enjoy helping those in need, start to look for opportunities to volunteer in your community. On the other hand, you might even want to change your job, or start a new business that is more in line with your mission.

So there you have it! By following the steps outlined above, you will be on your way to finding and living out your purpose. And, as you go through this process, just remember: