The setting that prevents your work being used to train AI models is turned off by default! I had no idea about this until now! Artists, go to your settings, click “visibility”, and turn on this setting! Protect your work!

I need every single person to understand how horrible tumblr’s tagging system is

I go into the tag for epilepsy and its all flashing lights. We can’t use our own tag because people without epilepsy fill it up with improper warnings.

Use ‘flashing’ in place of ‘epilepsy’ in your tags. You aren’t warning people of epileptics, you’re warning us of flashing lights. Please please tag properly. Epileptics say this endlessly and constantly and it’s ignored. You are risking lives by doing this.

Here’s proof of what I mean:

do yourself a favor and fucking block them.

they're not willing to engage with you.

they don't know what they're doing.

either emotionally or physically, you. will. get. hurt. (and NOT in the fun way)

if they're abrasive and nudging boundaries right out the gate, they're not deserving of your time.

they like to take banter (or explicit expression of limits) as bratting off.

they do this because they know in your heart, you're obedient, and being accused of DISobeying feels like it hurts worse than any punishment they serve to you over dm.

the misreading of your messages is intentional. you know you're obedient. this random ass, lame ass man's opinion of you is self-serving at best and manipulative at worst.

they won't get better. they wont treat you better.

If you're planning to bite hard, you should not only brush your teeth beforehand (I hope you do anyway) but use an antiseptic mouth wash to reduce the amount of harmful bacteria in your mouth.

This will NOT reduce the risk of infection to 0, it will help reduce the exposure to harmful bacteria.

If your partner(s) are immune compromised, you should NOT engage in play that breaks the skin.

If a bite breaks the skin, "clean it properly" means using antiseptic like benzalkonium chloride, not just washing it with soap and water.

U.S. suicide hotline: call or text 988 (available 24 hours)

U.S. trans lifeline: (877) 565-8860 (when you call, you’ll speak to a trans/nonbinary peer operator. full anonymity and confidentiality)

Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA) National Helpline: 1-800-662-HELP (4357) – provides 24/7 confidential support and referrals for individuals and families facing mental health and substance use disorders, including panic attacks and anxiety.

LGBT National Help Center: (888) 843-4564

Trevor Project: Call (866) 488-7386, text START to 678-678, or chat online.

Ask who else they have previously or are currently playing/chatting with.

Ask what they *think* their previous/current partners would say about them - even if just kinky, non committal chats.

Get screen name/handles/user names

Ask them questions like: do y’all still talk? Why or why not? What was the extent of your involvement? (Also explain why you’re asking to start with)

Here are some 🚩🚩

1. They are all ‘crazy bitches’ from the start and the potential dom doesn’t want you contacting them

2. Cannot give references easily (gee, they have so much experience and cannot name one person they have been contact with?)

3. “Everyone wants them and will be jealous if…”

hi anon,

thank you dildo-smith Matt for chiming in, and while we're at it let's actually just go through the whole tl;dr pros/cons of the different families of lube!

water-based:

pros: easy to wash off/clean up, safe for use with any toy material.

cons: dries up quick and needs to be replenished often during sex.

silicone-based:

pros: long last. extremely long lasting.

cons: can be a pain in the ass to clean up, and not good for silicone toys as noted above.

oil-based:

pros: long-lasting, and often the best choice for folks with allergies/sensitive skin triggered by other lubricants.