Peg Flicker

The Game Of Thrones women Meets Fairytale women series!

The Star Wars Saga

Mr Darcy’s only crime was falling in love with a heartless monster *cries*

And Shiba Inus:

Which  are really cool and cute Japanese dog breeds. Let me introduce you to these other cool and cute Japanese dogs, which I think deserve equal attention.

The Kishu Inu:

The Hokkaido Ken:

The Kai Ken:

The Shikoku Inu:

and by that I don’t mean japanese people that have the ability to presume the shape of dogs, I mean “why do they look like exactly dogs one would only expect from that part of the world”

If you were a child who grew up fearing that you’re boring everybody by talking, then it more than likely stemmed from invalidation as a child.

Sometimes as children we find a topic we enjoy, and talk endlessly about it. Most parents might not be wildly enthusiastic on the inside, but they will show interest for the child to validate them. Mine were different, they showed absolutley no interest whatsoever, no matter what the subject of interest was. They behaved as if I was boring them, or they said they were tired, busy or had a headache. Constant invalidation or uninterest was rampant in our house.

To make matters worse, they were fascinated if my brother brought up the same subject, and to this day they both deny their obvious favouritism. And on the rare occassions they did show interest, I found myself questioning the sincerity of their supposed interest. And then it happened. “We’re doing it to be polite”. Those words angrily buzzed like startled wasps in my brain. I was so surprised and hurt that they could lie, after screaming and calling me names for some sneaky lies (“no, I didn’t do anything wrong”). I stopped talking to them about things I liked altogether, not just to them, to everyone.

Just because they feed you, doesn’t mean they’re not abusive.

Just because they changed you as a baby, doesn’t mean they’re not abusive.

Just because they keep the roof over your head, doesn’t mean they’re not abusive.

Just because they pay for your food/ medical care, doesn’t mean they’re not abusive.

If your parents use the most basic necessary childcare against you in order to claim some fictious moral highground that exempts them from behaving in an abusive way, that itself is abuse.

If they throw what they do in your face as an attempt to force you to feel guilty about your own unchosen exsistence, that’s abuse.

If they invalidate you, but also convince you that their opinion is the only one that matters because they’re assuming a position of authority, that’s abuse.