Once during a restrictive-behavior relapse I was told, “No man is going to want you looking like that!”.

Here are my responses:

 The motivation behind an eating disorder is not to become attractive to men. The eating disorder shows up often as a self-destructive coping mechanism. It’s not hot, I’ll promise you that much.

 Telling a person to recover in order to be found attractive is a clear objectification of their body. This further rejects the recovery principle of bodily autonomy. 

Not everyone with an eating disorder is attracted to straight cis-men.

Not everyone with an eating disorder is a woman.

Not everyone with an eating disorder loses weight.

Not everyone with an eating disorder desires to lose weight.

An eating disorder is not a weight disorder. A person in recovery is constantly restructuring their relationships with food and self-worth. This is a warrior-like process.

3.  Beasts of No Nation 2.  Pacific Rim 1.  this macklemore video