I appreciate your tags but like, please donβt do this.
Cis women being transphobic to trans men isnβt Just Transphobiaβ’. Cis women target trans men specifically, because they know they can get away with it in more spaces.
A cis woman being transphobic toward trans women, or trans people in general, is going to be seen as a transphobe. Theyβll likely, and rightfully be criticized and/or ostracized from certain spaces because of it- especially in most feminist circles. If they want to be a part of mainstream, non-TERFy feminism, theyβre gonna have to meet some bare minimum behavior expectations where thatβs concerned.
But when cis women are transphobic to trans men, most people wonβt even notice itβs transphobia at all. Plenty of people will even cheer them on:
Trans men get acne and oily skin on T? Men are so nasty! Trans men have bottom dysphoria? Lol, just like a man to be insecure about his penis! Trans men are sexually abused at higher rates than any other gender and weβd like that addressed? Men are so whiny and fragile! Fight the patriarchy!
Theyβre women! Theyβre feminists! when they say horrible, violent, stomach-churning, bigoted shit about trans men, theyβre just railing against their own oppressors. Itβs justice!
There are so many more insidious forms of this, too.
Cis women who infantilize us and try to revoke our autonomy are seen as βalliesβ, because theyβre only trying to protect us!
Cis women who fetishize us as small, soft, effeminite versions of βreal menβ are still seen as βtrans alliesβ. It sounds so positive; who wouldnβt want to be seen as inherently sweet, safe, and pretty? Who wouldnβt want to be grossly othered and fetishized for qualities we are stereotyped to have? Surely not the men who already have to fight tooth and nail to define our own relationships with masculinity and manhood.
Cis women who quietly refuse to use make reproductive healthcare more inclusive, who go on making that fight about Womenβs Bodies, who continue to say things like βmen canβt understand misogynyβ and include trans men in their βkill all menβ jokesβ¦ well, theyβre just affirming your gender!
Why would trans men want equal access to healthcare? Why would trans men want our suffering acknowledged? Why would trans men, the group with about a 50% rate of attempted suicide, not want to be told that everyone else would prefer we were dead?
This isnβt even touching on the very intentional predation of trans men by cis women. Trans men and transmascs are targeted by cis lesbians in particular for corrective rape, and by abusive cis women as βeasy targetsβ due to the lack of support networks, resources, and community for trans men and transmascs.
These things are said and done by cis women who tout themselves as βtrans alliesβ. These are women who share those βshare to make a TERF madβ posts and call themselves βTERF destroyersβ. These are women who say βtrans women are womenβ. These are women in your spaces, and in your community; people you follow and admire. Theyβre even people I follow and admire; women Iβve followed for years have called me a misogynist for pointing out the problems in things like βmen canβt know what itβs like to be expected to have childrenβ.
Itβs not just a transphobia problem. Itβs not just a cis people problem. And itβs hilariously symbolic that you erased that meaning from my post, because the erasure of trans men and the silencing of our voices is exactly why this shit continues to happen.
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