Our Fostering Journey

Rue.

Open adoption is fucking wild.

But.

M was venting with one of them, and M said “trauma parenting is just so so hard.”

And she said.

“Well I mean you have to get to know every kid, it’s not really different than regular parenting.”

(Aurora moved on.)

I really think four kids is our sweet spot. We function best at that- we can do five, but it’s not my ideal.

“Mommy said just one night then she’ll come pick me up.”

Thanks, Mom. (I get why she’d say that but also. Come on.)

Mom said she takes a little bit of melatonin at night. Sent it with her. 10 mg.

Funny moment: while taking a bath she screeches “HEY! I LOVE JESUS!” 😂

We’re not on the open list currently. But we just got a call for a 3 year old girl.

Years fostering: 5

Year 1: Holly

Year 2: Dragon & Noodle; Bean Sprout & Juni

Year 3: Bean Sprout & Juni; Rue

Year 4: Bean Sprout & Juni; Holtzy

Year 5: Bean Sprout & Juni (finally adopted!); Holtzy; Baby (an emergency placement, just for a week in between his placements)

Year 6: Holtzy; Momo and Sassafrass; Baby Boy who needs a name!

Bean Sprout and Juni were in 1078 days.

Holtzy has been in 873 days.

Stupid insurance hasn’t kicked in yet so the doctor’s office is getting tetchy, and baby’s CW has never had a newborn before, only teens, so she doesn’t quite know how to go about speeding the process up. It would help if the NICU would send over the records to the pediatrician like they said they were going to the night of discharge 🙄 so someone can get mom’s info. In short, a lot of people we were irritated at today. Polite but firm phone calls were made. We are trying to be super sweet to the CW, who really does seem very nice. But she’s newer to the CW side of things and tends to ask a more experienced CW what to do, and sometimes the answers they give her are not exactly accurate.

Also we’re about to go over some heads for Holtzy’s adoption. The adoption worker has gone radio silent, and according to our worker that’s the case for another couple who have her assigned to them as well. Lady, you’re the only thing standing in the way of my baby being my baby. You don’t want to be there.

Pediatrician yesterday went really well, health department surprisingly did today as well. The initial court hearing was continued for two weeks out because parents didn’t show.

Baby boy is so perfect. The resilience of these little ones continues to amaze me. He loves to be snuggled and rocked. We go for a weight check at the peds tomorrow just to make sure he’s keeping steady.

So the baby Holtzy’s CW talked about didn’t end up coming to us. CW’s supervisor was friends with a family who isn’t done their homestudy yet but “wanted a baby they didn’t have to give back” and since that case is probably going to adoption, the supervisor overrode CW to give them what they wanted. Let me tell you ALL my feelings about THAT. Later.

Because.

CW this PM, after calling her twice: Well we’re not in a big hurry, he’s too little to get attached really so we’ll know something by Friday. Probably.

Me:

We won’t know for sure until next week what’s happening with the baby. But on our end-

We said yes.

Preemie, been out of the NICU a couple weeks. He’s almost two months old. Current foster mom isn’t adoptive and they want a preadoptive home. Birth parents are semi in the picture, potentially, but have already had rights terminated on five previous children and due to some birth circumstances they are pursuing the same for this babe.

Obviously anything could happen, we know that, but we’re committed to seeing it through regardless.