finally lost feelings for a crush i had since they basically ignored me for two weeks. not sure how to tell them I don't have feelings for them anymore politely?
they're known for not responding to messages at all, we just aren't in school together anymore cuz summer so i couldn't bug them otherwise, so I'm not mad about the ignoring, but it is what made me lose feelings because it registers as a lack of reliability.
just not sure how to say "oh yeah btw i don't have feelings for you anymore" because i need to for my own closure but i don't wanna make it sound super rude and passive aggressive, yknow? cuz they're gonna ask why and i don't know how to play off the fact that they didn't respond to my messages, since that's literally always been how they are and i just don't register it during the school year cuz i can bug them at school whenever i needed something, wanted to hang out, or wanted to discuss our fav games.
we're going for dinner with some other friends tonight to celebrate graduation and I'm picking them up first so I'll have ample time to do so without anyone else around. avoiding doing it over text because i don't want my tone to be misconstrued, and also because i may see them in person for the first time in a few weeks and suddenly the feelings flare up again.
somewhat time sensitive, don't feel like you need to rush it or anything just letting you know that by the time you get to this the time may have passed and i may have already just gone with the plan of being blunt but sorta laughing about it so they know it's lighthearted. sending this around noon (12:00) my time, picking them up around 4:30pm (16:30) tonight. again, please do not feel any rush to respond!! I'm more venting it out than anything else lol. always grateful for this blog and your occasional advice 🫶
So while I understand you don't want to be rude if that's your reasoning then that's your reasoning and then deserve to know the truth. Being known for not responding is fine and dandy but I for one find that disrespectful and maybe if they know it's affected you that way then maybe they'll do better at keeping in contact. Also feelings just change for no reason sometimes so you can just say that if you really don't want to offend them. Ash x