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Like how do I know if something is affecting my "performance." How do I know what kind of discomfort is "mild" and what is "severe." genuinely it makes no sense.

saying narc abuse isnt real does not mean narcissists cannot abuse people i think a lot of people who think narc abuse is a thing think thats what people mean. narc abuse isnt real means that the kind of abuse perpetrated by a narcissist (or someone youre assuming is a narcissist) isnt some kind of special other kind of abuse. its just emotional abuse, its not anything other than that. obviously “autistic abuse” isnt a thing despite the fact autistic people can in fact be abusive. this is because people know autistic people dont perpetrate a special kind of abuse only autistic people can do. so why is narcissism different? does every narcissist have a special ability to perpetrate a special kind of abuse only narcissists can do? this is word vomit i know but this bothers me so bad

When people realise that I will act like the disorder I was diagnosed with.

idk who needs to hear this but it’s healthier for you to just accept that you’re gonna be kinda fat than it is to live the rest of your life miserably trying to monitor yourself to maintain a skinny weight your body doesn’t want to hold onto

a lot of this is my approach to comics

8/8/2026

me giving relationship advice: communicate or end it

like, i genuinely believe most problems in the average relationship can be dealt with if the people involved just had an honest, open conversation with each other. it doesn’t have to reach a resolution or be peaceable or anything, just hash things out. air out dirty laundry. all parties have a responsibility. one person can’t be doing all the work while the other just stonewalls, indefinitely. work your shit out, no matter how long it takes and how messy it is, bc that’s the test of love/friendship. you fail it if you end things prematurely, and you fail it if you unilaterally fashion yourself as the victim/wronged party and the other as the perpetrator/aggressor. a relationship should be 50/50, and that means taking on the share of the work it takes to mend and maintain relations when the going gets tough. relationships require effort, and a lot of it is just conflict mediation & resolution, which requires all parties to play their part. easier said than done, obviously, but that’s all the more reason to work at it

this is why i always get angry when people come to me asking for relationship advice and then blatantly say that they don’t want to talk about the problem with their partner/friend. you cannot work through a problem if you aren’t willing to admit it exists. this is why my first piece of advice is “talk about it” because literally nothing will happen if you don’t talk, and i don’t care how much you don’t want to, because i can pretty safely bet that you want to keep the relationship more than you want to avoid talking, so communicate.

does anyone have advice on how to build a life with AvPD instead of hiding from literally everything and disappearing bit by bit

they should invent a heart that doesn't try to break out of your ribcage when you attempt to talk to anyone

@funnier-with-avoidantpd

going from a child who adores romance and dreamed of finding true love to an asexual adult who knows nobody will ever love them purely because they wont give up their body

whether or not men benefit from feminism has no bearing on whether feminism is worthwhile

put another way. i dont care about how men are impacted by feminism

already have people mad about this. okay here's another take. men should be feminists for no benefit.