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I want to be fragile and small

1. A degree which allows her to be financially independent.

2. Independent Real estate - it doesn't matter if the start is just a small (barely there) house. A place of your own is your sanctuary. Start with small steps but keep your eyes on the prize.

3. A deep sense of spirituality in a way that matters to her (no, not an organised religion, but a practice, a homecoming)

Explore art:

Tap into your creative side with painting, drawing, or sculpting. Art is not only therapeutic but also a fantastic way to express yourself and even decorate your space.

Reading:

Join a book club or set a personal reading challenge. From classic literature to modern thrillers, reading can expand your horizons and provide endless inspiration.

Get into gardening:

Whether you have a big backyard or just a small apartment balcony, gardening can be a relaxing and fulfilling hobby.Grow your own herbs, flowers, or vegetables!

Experiment with cooking:

Take on new recipes and cooking techniques. From baking bread to mastering the art of sushi, cooking can be both a practical skill and a creative outlet.

Try photography:

Capture the beauty around you and tell your story through the lens. Experiment with different styles, like portrait or landscape photography, and maybe even start a photo blog.

Practice yoga or meditation:

Incorporate mindfulness into your routine to reduce stress and enhance your overall well-being.

Learn to code:

Dive into the world of programming and build your own apps or websites. Coding is a valuable skill that can open up career opportunities and enhance your problem-solving abilities.

Challenge yourself with puzzles:

Engage your brain with jigsaw puzzles, crosswords, or brain teasers. It's a great way to relax and keep your mind sharp.

Try acting or improv:

Step out of your comfort zone and explore your theatrical side. Acting classes or improv groups can boost your confidence and creativity.

Travel and explore:

If possible, travel to new places, even if it's just a nearby town.Experiencing new cultures and environments can broaden your perspective and inspire new passions.

Try pottery:

Get your hands dirty and create beautiful, functional pieces with pottery. It's a relaxing and creative way to express yourself, and you'll end up with unique, handmade items.

Play games:

Board games,video games, or strategy games can be a great way to unwind and bond with friends.

Learn a new language:

Expand your horizons by learning a new language.It opens up opportunities for travel, cultural exchange, and even new career prospects. Plus, it's a fun and challenging way to keep your brain active.

Start a YouTube Channel or blog:

got this idea from the lovely @prettieinpink 💗

Advice & Lessons

Allow people to be people. Don’t keep them trapped under these expectations you have for them, it will only hurt you in the end. Allow yourself to be okay with people changing.

Kindness will make you confident. Idk but when I shifted the way I think to “I’m going to be kind to other people.“ that’s when I started feeling so much better & happier about myself.

Just because another person cannot see your value doesn’t mean it’s not there. Another person’s lack of awareness of your worth does not mean that it does not exist. They simply do not have the capability to fully comprehend the love you have in yourself.

It’s none of ya business! How other people treat you/ what they say about you is not about you & is none of your business. What is your responsibility however is to make sure that such low quality behaviour should not make you feel any worse about yourself. If you can’t do that, then it is your job to remove yourself from that situation.

Look for a good time, not a long time. I know we all want those long lasting 10 year+ friendships/ relationships, but that strong desperation you have for it is just self sabotaging yourself from the amazing memories you could make! When you meet a new person, go with the mindset that “I hope we have a good time today” and not “I want to find a best friend” because the other person cannot feel that desperation and it’s just unattractive. If you do make a really strong connection & become bffs, great! What’s meant to be will come easily once you take your obsession off it.

Always look at what’s good, and you’ll find that there’s more good in your life than you thought. Gratitude!! The more thankful you are for the things you have, the more the universe will send your way.

The peace I’ve experienced with being alone. I’m actually gonna create a post about this because I never actually realised how much I enjoy being on my own

Achievements!

Getting over 3000 followers on here in less than a year!!💗

Went for my first run! Felt sooo self conscious as if people were looking at me

Learning how to crochet (on my own only from yt tutorials! I’m so proud of myself for not giving up!!) I crocheted a hibiscus bag, pink heart pillow, headbands and so much more!

I look in the mirror and no matter how I look, I love myself so much.

Traccye Love used hair relaxers for years and believes the chemicals in those hair products are related to her uterine fibroids. Love, of Oak Park, had a hysterectomy two years ago and is one of thousands of women who have filed suit against the hair care companies.

Growing up in Chicago’s Chatham neighborhood in the late 1990s, Traccye Love wished for the long, smooth tresses of pop star Aaliyah.

“That was the look then — smooth and straight,” said Love, of Oak Park. “My mom would press it (with a hot comb), but I wanted it to stay straight.”

Love wasn’t allowed to get her first chemical hair relaxer until she turned 18. For most of the women in her close-knit, predominantly Black community, the rite of passage of using relaxers to straighten their naturally kinky, thick hair had come much younger. Love’s mother worried about the dangers of using a relaxer: chemical burns or brittle hair caused by lye and similar chemicals in hair-straightening products.

Throughout college, and well into her 30s, Love slathered on chemicals from home straightening kits every six weeks or so. Then, in her late 30s, she began to feel knee-buckling abdominal pain during her menstrual cycles — on her worst days each month, Love downed five 200-milligram tablets of ibuprofen every four hours.

“It felt like someone was taking my ovary and twisting it like a balloon,” Love said.

After several years and trips to three different doctors, tests revealed Love had multiple, golf ball-sized fibroid tumors in her uterus. In 2022, at the age of 38, she had a hysterectomy. She was still using hair relaxers until her husband spotted a social media post about lawsuits targeting the manufacturers. She now thinks the relaxers caused her tumors.

“It had never occurred to me that there was serious risk to using relaxers,” Love said. “I thought the risk was getting scalp burns.”

In October 2022, the first of several thousand lawsuits was filed at the Dirksen Federal Courthouse in the Loop by a woman from St. Louis claiming that chemicals in hair relaxer products she used — such as Soft Sheen, Just for Me and Dark & Lovely — caused her cancer.