do you wanna see this or not?

(purple=me, red=transmasc friend of mine)

sometimes it is genuinely sobering to be confronted with how little the average transmasc knows or thinks about the transmisogyny present in scociety and especially in systems that have power over us.

I don't say this to dunk on or insult my transmasc friend, he's a genuiniely wonderful person, I'm just baffled by the ignorance at play here.

he describes himself as an actuvist for trans rights. he didn't know about v-coding, or about trans women being denied access to domestic and sexual abuse help services for women, he didn't know how fucking bad the state of femenizing healthcare is because like many others, he heard "testosterone is a controlled substance and estrogen isn't" and concluded from that that getting on E must be easier, no further research needed.

but the most important part? when I pointed this out to him, he admitted his bias and promised to do better. he recognized how he had been ignorant of transfem's specific struggles because of his own marginalized status and reaffirmed his support.

I am so used to being met with hostility when discussing transmisogyny that this(the bare fucking minimum) was a genuine positive surprise to me in the moment.

I beg y’all please help or share 🙏🏿 Lost my job June 16 alongside 2 Black employees and I’m currently facing an urgent utility hardship. My electricity has been disconnected since June 24, leaving me without refrigeration, cooking access, or laundry.

I’ve been surviving on peanut butter sandwiches since I can’t store food, and I can’t run a fan or AC in this heat. A friend has been bringing me a charged portable charger daily so I can keep my phone on and apply for jobs. I’ve honestly been bawling my eyes out trying to get through this and figure things out.

Electric Bill: $664/$1,934.80

Venmo: Queenloki89

⚡ $949/$1,934.80

Cash App: $Queenloki89

⚡ $999/$1,934.80

Cash App: $Queenloki89

Doctors are to black women what police officers are to black men. That may seem controversial but I believe it to be true and I speak from personal experience.

If you've seen this TikTok you know that a 2016 study showed that 50% of medical students and residents thought that black people couldn't feel pain the same as white people.

And we learned from this video that because of a 1999 study, to this day, there's a black correction factor for the creatinin levels in black people's kidneys, meaning we're less likely to recieve a kidney transplant if needed.

So if you go to a doctor, feel you aren't getting proper treatment or they refuse the treatment you've requested, say to them the following:

If you weren’t already going to spread this advice because black women are at risk, then spread it because it’s applicable to everyone else as well, including you reading this.

One of the "Former TERF" Transmascs who came up with Transandrophobia theory has dropped the former part, detransitioned, and is also now an avowed Nazi. Followers of the ideology claim that this is a non-issue on how they view the ideology.

Two separate transmascs and one cis woman "ally" made videos lolcowing "acceptable target" transfems.

One of the most prominent serial harassers of Trans women on this site was outed as a Kiwifarms user and fully bought into the Pizza-gate conspiracy. Many people who participated in the campaigns they ran are saying "Well I'm certain they were right about the ones I harassed."

Tumblr Staff's Rate of banning trans women reached a mass so noticeable that it made news. Tumblr claims that this was in error, but has continued to ban at the same rate, and hopes everyone forgets that they were previously sued (and settled) for anti-LGBTQ bias in its moderation, confessed to having moderators taking bribes to ban targeted users, and its own CEO stalked a trans woman across multiple social media sites.

Someone asked F1nn why it was that on her larger branded social media accounts she still listed herself as a femboy in some places while in more intracommunity spaces she more readily and comfortably identified as transfem.

Now, depending on who you ask that kind of question to you'll probably get a meandering answer on the complexities of how one defines their own identity. But instead F1nn gave a very quick and simple answer.

If you non-black, reblog this when you see it and if you only see one or two additions on the stack, check comments to see if you can reblog a longer version. Pretty much all my shit is free to read/listen to, so send your money to other Black folks in the reblogs instead and help boost their art.

Writing:

Weaving the Stories, poetry compilation

Chasing Uncertainty, poetry compilation/Transfeminist Womanism theory

General longer-form theory can be found at my site, anons.ee

Audio:

Last week I had a bigoted asshole be absolutely racist and vile in my dms and since then I've been terrified of losing my 12+ yo blog, here is a link to my archive in case you all need proof I've been here for more than a decade.

Our last post so you can back track and learn more about our situation.

I can't avoid asking for help anymore, if it were just me I would just let myself due but our kids, my partner, our cats and my in-laws do not deserve to go hungry.

We have kids and elderly, we have 4 diabetics at home, the insulin went bad after a blackout and the replacement we got is not enough.

We need help affording groceries, bills and my meds.

Our eldest son is still suicidal with dysphoria and we missed his second appointment at the trans clinic due to lack of money. We want to get back on track.

My healthcare renewal is this january 20th or I will lose it and I can't lose it.

$50/$950

I can't keep going without my meds, every time is a bet of how long until I end up at the hospital again

Like ok, you’re transfemme. You have hella bad experiences with non-transfemmes doing transmisogyny to you so you end up interacting almost exclusively with other transfemmes.

But you’re also Black, and you hope that also being marginalized will help cut out the antiblackness and transmisogynoir from non-Black transfemmes, but it turns out they still gonna do that shit to you, so you retreat to just other Black transfemmes.

And then you get hit with long covid or literally any other disability, can’t work anymore because of it and become reliant on mutual aid to survive. Surely, you think, the double whammy of being Black and transfemme means they’ll understand ableism too. Maybe mask so you can be with them safely without getting even more disabled.

And then they don’t, so you try to find other disabled Black transfemmes, a sliver of a sliver of a sliver, but they’re all ALSO broke and isolated and surviving on mutual aid and luck and they tell you your options are to accept everything being done to you so that you have a chance of surviving via mutual aid and community resources, or simply give up.

So you go back to the larger community to have a chance of surviving, because the average lifespan for Black transfemmes is mid-30s and you’d like to beat the average at least, and you prepare to suffer again, to survive.

Last year, two of the best known/loved cis Black women who were disability advocates on Twitter died due to lack of mutual aid. One couldn’t raise funds for her chemo, the other couldn’t raise funds for a rideshare to the hospital the day she died and knew that an ambulance would ruin her financially.

I look at them, two well known and loved disabled Black women who put so much effort into helping their community only to die due to lack of help, and then I look at the other disabled Black trans folks I know surviving off of mutual aid and I wonder how much longer it’ll be until it’s them, because they damn sure don’t got the same amount of people that even know who they are.

Her PP is @ogpink, and you can bring her asks on bluesky at bsky.app/profile/pinktrannypants.bsky.social / http://pinktrannypants.bsky.social

Shira is a Turkish trans woman who was the victim of attempted murder by a man on the street who realized she was transfemme. After he stabbed her, dozens of people walked by her on the sidewalk until a teenager stopped and helped her.

Shira is now in the hospital in critical condition. She’s undergone emergency surgery and will need multiple operations and long-term care to recover—physically and emotionally.

Shira has no close family nearby, is not accepted by public organizations in Turkey because she is trans, and she’s unable to work while she heals. Her friends are raising funds to cover her medical bills, therapy, and basic living expenses during this painful time.

As of me posting this, the fundraiser has €125 out of a €12k goal. If you can’t give anything to help a trans woman survive a horrific attack, please at least reblog this, set it on your queue, whatever you need to do to make sure others can see and help. Thank you.

With the help of our community and your donations Shira has been able to stay in the hospital. She now needs to be operated on as soon as possible, we need to get to our first goal of 4000€ urgently. Please share this and consider giving what you can if you haven't already.

Currently we're at €2994/4000

We can do this guys!

I've heard from her close friends that the surgeries were a complete success! Thank you, everyone who donated!

All that's left is to pay off the bills for her stay at the hospital. We're close, folks! Just need to push a bit more for a little while longer!

"I would like to sincerely thank everyone who has contributed to our decision to raise this amount. As I mentioned before, the hospital expenses are increasing every single day. We are now very close to reaching our goal — only €600 remain. We hope the surgery can take place very soon. I truly hope you will not grow weary of supporting us, and I kindly ask you to share this post as much as you can. Every single day truly makes a difference for us."

"After everything we have been through, we finally have some uplifting news. We are deeply grateful to share that Shira’s surgery was successful. Her condition is now stable, and according to the doctor, she will be discharged from the hospital within the next two days.

Our priority now is to ensure she has a safe place to recover. The area where she was living before is no longer safe for her, as it is the same place where the incident happened. For this reason, we are trying to secure a safe apartment for her, and we will cover the rent, the deposit, as well as food and basic needs for at least one month until she regains her strength.

The estimated cost for this is around €900, which includes one month’s rent, the landlord’s required deposit, and basic living expenses. We sincerely hope we can gather this amount to guarantee her a safe environment where she can heal.

Thank you from the bottom of our hearts for your support, kindness, and prayers during this difficult time."

She has been issued a hospital discharge and is ready to leave, but unfortunately there is no safe and suitable place for her during the recovery period. We are in urgent need of 300 euros within the next 24 hours, please

January update:

Shira has been out of the hospital for a few months, and thanks to generous donations has been able to afford an appartment. However, she's still unable to work due to her injuries. Currently all her money is going towards staying housed, and there's not enough left for food and medicine.

In her own words from her January 12th update:

I’m truly in a difficult situation right now. All the money I managed to raise went toward paying my rent so I can make it through the rest of this month. At the moment, I still need to buy my medications and continue my treatment—on top of the healthy food I’m supposed to eat to support my healing. The amount I urgently need is around €500. I swear I currently have only €3 left, and I honestly don’t know how I’m going to get through the rest of the month. Please help me if you can. I’m in desperate need of support. If you’re not able to donate, sharing my fundraiser would mean a lot to me. Thank you so much.

Please everyone. She hasn't received a single donation in over 2 weeks.