Before you DM me or send me an ask, let me save us both some time, okay?
If you came here just to call me a transphobe:
My standard answer is: âSure, kid whatever helps you sleep at night.â
Now, my position on this topic is simple, and Iâm willing to elaborate on it a little: we, as a society, need to stop believing that the treatment for suicidal thoughts is genderâaffirming care. Itâs not, and I cannot stress this enough.
Suicidal thoughts are not a symptom of gender dysphoria. Whoever told you that lied to you. They are a symptom of depression.
Yes, many people with gender dysphoria also experience depression. And while I strongly disagree with the Dutch protocol, Iâll acknowledge this: genderâaffirming care (even such a low quality one like the one proposed by the Dutch protocol) eases symptoms of dysphoria, but it does little if anything at all to treat the depression that actually drives suicidal thoughts and actions. Depression requires therapy, and in some cases, medication.
When youâre diabetic, you donât take Tylenol expecting it to replace insulin. The same logic applies here: treating gender dysphoria wonât automatically fix depression.
We live in a binary society where gender roles are rigidly enforced. A child raised as a girl who later transitions will likely feel lost navigating maleâdominated spaces not because of dysphoria, but because of social conditioning. That sense of alienation can worsen depression, not relieve it. And thatâs where therapy comes in.
Therapy gives people the tools to understand themselves and to separate their sense of worth from othersâ opinions. Surgery cannot do that. Thatâs internal work.
To be clear, Iâm not advocating for conversion therapy or anything remotely like it like you guys love to claim. Iâm saying we need to treat people as whole human beings not just send them to surgery and call it a day.
And no, I didnât pull this out of my ass. Research shows that genderâaffirming surgery often leads to little to no measurable improvement in mentalâhealth outcomes and in some cases depression worsens after surgery. What does that tell us? That surgery can help alleviate gender dysphoria, but doesnât necessarily improve overall mental health. People still need therapy and emotional support after surgery.
And before you ask: yes, I have sources. These are a few of the most wellâknown and recent studies on the topic:
- Lewis et al., 2024 â âExamining Gender-Specific Mental Health Risks After Gender-Affirming Surgery: A National Database Study.â
- Straub et al., 2024 â âRisk of Suicide and Self-Harm Following Gender-Affirmation Surgery.â
- Dhejne et al., 2011 â âLong-term follow-up of transsexual persons undergoing sex reassignment surgery
If youâre here to call me out on J.K. Rowlingâs beliefs:
Iâm not J.K. Rowling. Telling me how wrong she is changes absolutely nothing. Her thoughts, words, and actions are hers alone, I am not responsible for any of them. Honestly, the fact I even have to say this is almost funny if I didn't get shit like that on a regular basis.
The fact that I write gay Harry Potter fanfic does not give me any influence over her. And honestly couldnât care less about what J.K. Rowling says or does.
I believe in freedom of speech. I want to make bold claims on the Internet, and I think everyone should have the same right, yes everyone, even J.K. Rowling. I defend my right to be a jerk, and that means defending hers too. I do not believe we should censor anyone, so that includes her.
I also stand against violence. So no, I donât want to kill her. I donât want to hurt her in any way. Honestly, I think she gets far more attention than she deserves. The more you dwell on her and her actions the more power you give her over your life, she's tormenting your mind from all the way across the ocean think about it.
Now, about the boycott: Iâve been criticized for not discouraging people from profiting her I was even called âunethicalâ for it. Let me make this very clear: I donât care where you spend your money. Buy a life-size Ariana Grande statue if you want I couldnât care less. Your money, your choice. Want to buy Harry Potter merch? Sure, go ahead. I'm not your mother to tell you what to do or not to do.
Hereâs the truth: J.K. Rowling is filthy rich. Even if she didnât earn a single penny from Harry Potter royalties, sheâd still make ÂŁ45 million a year from her assets alone. Boycotting her does practically nothing to her bank account. Itâs the economic equivalent of âtalk to the handâ it might make you feel good, but it wonât actually affect her.
If you truly donât want your money going toward causes you disagree with, the only way to guarantee that is to opt out of the market entirely (meaning donât buy anything, ever, until the day you die) because the market is a complex web of transactions and the money you touch will, statically speaking, end up inevitable on the hands of people who supports causes you fight against.
Now do I buy Harry Potter merch? Kid, Iâm a 25-year-old man. I have a real job, I'm engaged, I will soon have a husband and then a mortgage to pay for do you really think Iâm spending my money on HP shit? Do you think I walk into my office job with a Slytherin scarf? Seriously? You do you, and Iâll do me. Okay?
Now, if youâre here to call me an Islamophobe or try to convince me that Allah is real
Please donât flatter yourself. I donât hate your religion specifically. I hate all religions equally. The one I hate the least is probably the Mormons. Why? Because when I attended my nephewâs whatever-that-thing-was (you know, when they dress the baby in white) everyone was polite and welcoming to me and my fiancĂ©, a girl even spoke his native tongue with him. In the fucking two hours we were there no one told me I was going to burn in hell. Thatâs all. Notice I donât like them, I just hate them the least.
Iâve read the Qurâan. Iâve read the Hadiths. Thatâs exactly why I would never revert. The Qurâan is full of contradictions and mistakes. The Hadiths portray Muhammad as a deeply flawed man, driven by sadistic tendencies and his own carnal desires. I could never abide by the rules he created because they go completely against my beliefs. Save yourself some time and headache and if you don't know how to refute simple claims without getting mad or claiming I don't understand because I'm not 'reading it in Arabic' then maybe Dawah isn't for you after all. Don't worry, if I were ever interested in joining a religion that tells me Iâm in eternal condemnation and will face Jahannam in the afterlife, Iâll let you know.
Now if you came here just to be nasty, call me a âcracker,â or wish death on me or my fiancĂ©
Let us first stablish a few things:
1. Iâm half Latino, so if youâre trying to offend me, at least do it right, Iâm not white.
2. Anything you say about my future husband? Doesnât stick. Heâs flawless. His only crime was waiting over a year to give me a chance.
3. And lastly, I reserve the right to either ignore you completely or throw that energy right back at you so donât be surprised if you donât get what you came for.















