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Things don’t need to be perfect. They just need to be real.

Like a ghost wishes for breath, or midnight wishes for dawn. Futile. Necessary.

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Find a lover who says “I see your trauma, and I know you are so much more than your experiences.” That kind of love and support that helps you heal, grow, thrive.

Stop waiting to feel ready. Ready is not a feeling, it’s a decision.

Idk this my first time living this life too

You don't have to force yourself to bounce back so quickly. I read something recently that said "when you come in from a rainstorm, you don't expect yourself to be dry and warm right away", and it really resonated with me. It's okay to take time to dry off and warm up. Take the time you need to process what happened to you.

Start looking at arguing with someone as a privilege because it really says that they’re important enough to you that you’re willing to take it there. That they’re worth you raising your cortisol, wrecking your nervous system, getting emotional over etc. It shows you care enough to invest your time and energy into them despite all these reasons that negatively affect you. Not everyone earns that kind of attention & honestly, not every situation is worth the emotional energy. Communication is very powerful and in a healthy dynamic, arguments aren’t always necessary, especially not frequent ones

& you know what it actually IS lifechanging to smile at strangers & say please & thank you & goodmorning & compliment someones outfit & help someone in need & be more accepting of loving other people just because they are other people!!!