Emery

[ID: a five striped flag in the order: black, hot pink, light pink, hot pink and black. /end ID.]

respect our pronouns and do not assume that our pronouns are always she/her

respect our partners, no matter what they look like or what pronouns they use (trans butches and nonbinary lesbians exist and enrich our community)

not assume that we're secretly bi because we dated a man in the past

respect butch/femme identities as lesbian genders, identities, and important parts of our history and the ways in which we interact and present ourselves to other women

do not hypersexualize or desexualize us

do not treat butches like men and femmes like straight women

do not generalize butches as aggressive and domineering or femmes as soft and pliable

respect stud, stemme, and ag/agg as black lesbian genders and identities exclusively

do not generalize lesbians as exclusionary and mean

do not treat the word lesbian as a word that contains wiggle room for attraction to men

be aware of the fact that comphet is a very real thing for us and doesn't make us any less lesbian

RESPECT TRANS LESBIANS!!!!!

do not become suspicious of people who have lesbian flags in their profile pictures, the word "lesbian" in their usernames, the word "dyke" in their usernames, or just because they're lesbians of being TERFs or biphobes based off of those things alone

do NOT let the word dyke pass your lips if you're not a lesbian

call out your friends if you catch them being lesbophobic

don't out us

don't get defensive when someone tells you that you're bring or have said something lesbophobic

don't make any broad generalizations of us at all

do not assume that lesbians of color (especially black lesbians) are inherently aggressive or demure

realize that we are the smallest sexual minority and that we need other folks to listen to and stand up for us as well

don't treat our attraction to women as predatory or inherently sexually charged

keep lesbian children safe, especially from fetishization

do not allow us to be fetishized by men

be there for your lesbian friends because it's very lonely for us a lot of the time

don't assume that all trans lesbians are femme or have to perform any level of femininity for your comfort

use the word lesbian when talking about us and don't treat it like a dirty or harsh word

spread our donation posts and support organizations that help us

support our art and writing

advocate for positive lesbian representation

“I won’t be available.”

Imagine you’re at work and your boss asks you to come in on Saturday. Saturday is usually your day off–coming in Saturdays is not an obligation to keep your job. Maybe you were going to watch a movie with a friend, or maybe you were just going to lie in bed and eat ice cream for eight hours, but either way you really, really don’t want to give up your day off.

If you consider yourself a millennial you’ve probably been raised to believe you need to justify not being constantly at work. And if you’re a gen-Z kid you’re likely getting the same toxic messages that we did. So in a situation like that, you might be inclined to do one of three things:

Tell your boss you’d rather not give up your day off. Cave when they pressure you to come in anyway, since you’re not doing anything important.

Tell your boss you’d rather not give up your day off. Over-apologize and worry that you looked bad/unprofessional.

Lie and say you’ve got a doctor’s appointment or some other activity that feels like an adequate justification for not working.

The fact is, it doesn’t matter to your boss whether you’re having open heart surgery or watching anime in your underwear on Saturday. The only thing that affects them is the fact that you won’t be at work. So telling them why you won’t be at work only gives them reason to try and pressure you to come in anyway.

If you say “I won’t be available,” giving no further information, you’d be surprised how often that’s enough. Be polite and sympathetic in your tone, maybe even say “sorry, but I won’t be available.” But don’t make an excuse. If your boss is a professional individual, they’ll accept that as a ‘no’ and try to find someone else. 

But bosses aren’t always professional. Sometimes they’re whiny little tyrants. So, what if they pressure you further? The answer is–politely and sympathetically give them no further information.

“Are you sure you’re not available?” “Sorry, but yes.”

“Why won’t you be available?” “I have a prior commitment.” (Which you do, even if it’s only to yourself.)

“What’s your prior commitment?” “Sorry, but that’s kind of personal.”

“Can you reschedule it?” “I’m afraid not. Maybe someone else can come in?”

Your queerness does not absolve your racism.

beaugender

a gender related to beau from animal crossing!

it is a nonbinary gender that feels as if youre surrounded by trees and nature!

it is comforting in the sense that one does not feel the need to fit inside of the binary. instead, they walk through beautiful forests forever but love every aspect of what they experience.

beau/beaus/beauself

uhhh thinking of new term pls send names ahh

a gender that changes based on surroundings, mood, and influenced by ones hyperactivity. this gender is ONLY to be used by ppl w type 2 or type 3 adhd.

a person that identifies with this xenogender will often switch between other xenogenders all throughout the day.

Hey jsyk it’s 2018 and if you’re still drawing characters with big lips like THIS, even if they’re pale/not black, it’s fucking racist. Stop doing it.

No excuses. “It’s a stylistic choice!” It’s a RACIST stylistic choice.

“Idk how else to draw big lips!” That’s because you relied on racist caricatures and are a bad artist. Teach yourself. Learn. If you’re not willing to do that, then you are a bad, racist artist.

“But it’s part of the character design!” Yeah, and it’s racist. If it’s your OC, then change it. If it’s not your OC, make the right choice and draw them with normal looking bigger lips instead of this racist monstrosity.

And if this post makes you uncomfortable because it’s calling you out for stuff you’ve done, good. Fix it. Own up to it. Grow.