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There's a certain level of trust between Yunho and his own fans that I currently find very interesting. Yunho didn't really ignore or pretend that everything was fine, but he also didn't make the live about what wasn't fine. He didn't bring up any negative subject at all, didn't force himself to sound overly cheerful nor did he ignore and deny that he was not feeling it. No, instead he let Atiny reaffirm their presence in his life and their continuity by his side, while he doubled down on doing the same.

This live was a checkpoint on whether things could return to the norm —whether Atiny/Hotteoks and Yunho could still walk down the imaginary aisle hand in hand, together and forever— and with the way Yunho handled it in his oh-so-gentle, kind, and patient manner, we can confidently surmise that yes it will. (I think ? u know what maybe its not that confident lol)

I was waiting for him to appear before the fan meeting because it's better for him and for Atiny to face this head-on now than to try to wait and piggyback on the excitement of the fan meeting, where the weight of the rumor might stain the enjoyment of the experience for some fans. And I'm glad he did appear ! He tried to make the interaction as close to his usual live structure as he could, and he succeeded for the most part, but there was also these brief instances of Yunho letting go and freely leaning on Atiny instead of the usual pillar of resilience and strength we get. He gave us his head for head pats (it was cuuuuuteeeee) and said, "Healing complete."

And I want to take a moment to untangle that, because that is a performance of mutual care and vulnerability , and part of what makes Yunho so good at managing his own lives and his relationship with Hotteoks. For a brief moment, he let Atiny take on the role of the one giving comfort wrapped, of course, in his usual humor and wordplay. That is a gift he gave freely, allowing and creating space for Atiny to care for him without it feeling heavy, without crossing his own boundaries, and in the way they all could within capacity (hi helllo this is virtual play). For a group of people that has been worrying about him for a full week (even a bit before, if you count themigraine), it gives everyone an outlet : "Pat Yunho's head and he will feel better; send him love and reassurance; shower him with positivity" that is the way to handle this difficult situation. "Healing complete" in turn, is a confirmation of reception; it's his way of saying that it worked, that he heard, saw and assimilated Atiny's care. And so it closes the loop to allow people to feel relief, not linger in their worry and eventually move on.

It's not the first time Yunho has done this. Yunho always leans into his positive rituals with Atiny : head pats are one of them, as well as Hatyus, his moments of gratefulness, kisses, photo times, choco chips, wordplays and puns... etc Those are all exchanges that he practiced and modeled enough when everything was good that Atiny was willing to pick some things up and mirror them back to him when things were allegedly not good. The compliments he heard and read from fans on the live : "I missed you," "I'm on your side," "Thank you for becoming an idol," "Thank you for being a singer," "I'll be a fan that suits you," "Because of you I can smile and be happy", are all variations of things that he said first to Atiny countless times over and over again. And the kicker again is that he's really well aware of this dynamic; he makes it known when he says that fans become like their idol and vice versa, that "we keep becoming more alike […] I think a singer and their fans naturally become synchronized in a way."

Gotta say, in a live a few months ago, Yunho described his and Atiny's relationship as a "healthy relationship". And the choice of adjective always had me perplexed, because I mean, fans have a tendency to become obsessive, entitled, cross boundaries and be straight-up disrespectful, if not borderline weird and creepy. Same for whenever he said, "You're mine and I'm yours" a part of me always wondered how he could say it so confidently. Wasn't he scared or worried that some people would take it the extreme way? And yet, the way Yunho spoke about and to Atiny always held nothing but fondness, love, and respect, and ahhhh—after yesterday's live, I think I understand what he might mean by healthy relationship.

Because when things did go to shit, his fans (am talking publicly, to his face, not behind anonymous Twitter accounts) came to him with nothing but an open heart and reassurance, a mirrored desire to keep walking forward together and a mutual wish for happiness. It makes sense, then, that he would view the relationship so positively despite any potential outliers. It's as much preventive as it is a commentary on what the relationship is and what he wants it to continue being.