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The main flaw of my piece "The Gospel of Ascension" was to assume that ascension required some kind of metaphysical “pure feminine validation” (which even sex-having normies apparently don’t experience, “chad-only”). But ascension isn’t fundamentally about external female desire (a deeply gynocentric notion for an androcentric concept), it’s the internal process of man’s self-overcoming and rebirth: breaking a lifelong spell of fear, guilt and sexual paralysis through embodied action.

A more meaningful understanding of ascension is to grow in confidence, self-esteem and happiness through sex: to feel like a potent man rather than an emasculated boy. What exactly is going through the woman’s mind is both unknowable and beside the point.

If after having intimate, life-affirming and psychologically liberating sex with a prostitute, a man has dreams of flying to heaven or the stars, climbing a mountain’s peak, or defeating a demon, has he not ascended? His unconscious says “Yes”, regardless of any ideological abstractions.

Even if for some arbitrary reason sex with a prostitute cannot possibly count as ascension, having sex breaks critical psychological barriers and makes “genuine ascension” much more likely. Unless “true ascension” requires mutual virginity as a prerequisite, in which case relatively few experience it.

At the end of the day, it’s a man and a woman having sex. Your unconscious isn’t overly concerned with what her occupation is or what her “true thoughts/feelings” are. Even in terms of validation it registers as “She wanted me, or wanted me enough.”

Why is enjoying an attractive woman’s body going to “deepen my emptiness”? Especially relative to being an onanistic porn addict. I’ve never felt less empty in my life.

What stopped me from doing this before was my own weakness: internalised guilt, porn addiction, sexual anxiety, longing for "pure female approval", learned helplessness. Psychologically and perhaps physically I was incapable of sex, thus the “involuntarily celibate” tag made sense, even though it was in my power to change it over time.

The term “ascension” is religious in essence, echoing the conquest of a mountain, entering the Kingdom of Valhalla and the Ascension of Christ. It equates passionate sex to a divine event, marking elevation from the terrestrial to the celestial. It implies that virginity and aromanticism are fallen states, equivalent to purgatory or hell, with sexual initiation transforming the male from a lower to a higher being: subhuman to human, boy to man, man to God.

The much-maligned woman is the gatekeeper, judge and jailer in this Passion Play: both the source of man's damnation and, potentially, his redemption after years or decades of suffering, a priestess whose flesh absolves sin.

Within this nominally nihilistic and materialistic philosophical framework, mutually desired sex is heaven. Ascension is felt to be the embodied refutation of fatalistic biological nihilism; the omnipresent whisper in the core of our being that it's over, that it never even began, that life is ultimately just a sick, meaningless joke.

Insofar as it's metaphysical, it is a Pagan inversion of traditional Christian morality: sex and desire are divine, celibacy and repression, evil. It is a deeply romantic concept: paid sex isn't considered ascension, only being freely desired counts. It’s proof that you are real: not just in the eyes of the world, but in the arms of one who could have chosen anyone else.

It is a variant of The Hero's Journey, although again an inversion of the classical concept. Sex is not temptation to be avoided or the reward after the journey: it is the journey's destination. The woman's willing embrace is not a test or a trap but The Promised Land, The Holy Grail, Destiny. In this erotic apotheosis the incel joins the Pantheon of Heroes, re-connecting him to the primordial chain of being.

Ascension isn't primarily about external validation: it's an ontological transformation, the fulfilment of a long-denied birthright, a spiritual resurrection. A leap of faith to overcome the spectres of the past; the pervading fear that one is irredeemable, numb, broken. A rebirth not just in the eyes of others but in the mirror of one's soul; crossing the veil from unloved to loved, the silencing of doubt, a cataclysmic event which obliterates the line between reality and ultimate fantasy.

You have to stop owning and using unsupervised/private internet devices.

It sounds obvious but I doubt you'll get this advice from online content creators because they are financially dependent on people watching their videos and following them on social media, which requires internet access. It's also unlikely to be a popular message due to the frequency of internet addiction and the practical necessity of unrestricted internet access in a modern consumer economy. But logically it's the most effective method short of joining the Amish or living in the woods.

ChatGPT on the advantages of this method:​

Immediate Elimination: Completely removes access to online porn, providing an immediate solution to the problem.

Eliminates Temptation: By removing access to the internet, you eliminate the primary source of porn, which can be effective if the internet is your main source.

Reduces Triggers: Without the constant exposure to online content, you may encounter fewer triggers that lead to viewing porn.

Forces Alternative Activities: You might find other activities to fill your time, promoting healthier habits and hobbies.

Resets Habits: A significant lifestyle change can disrupt habitual behaviors, providing a fresh start.

Physical Barrier: The lack of internet creates a physical barrier that makes it significantly more challenging to relapse.​

Practical Implementation:​

Only use the internet in public spaces like libraries.

Have someone you trust with you whenever you're using a private internet device.

With this strategy I went about twice as long without porn (7 months, also celibate during this time) as I ever did since I started at age 11, and that was with dozens of "serious" attempts to quit. Private internet access is the vector.

I have always been drawn to the prostitute as a symbol. Compared to the regular woman she is:

- Honest (no illusions, games or strings, x money for y minutes)

- Merciful (treats sex as the need that it is, reliable sexual access and emotional support, regardless of the man's looks)

- Countercultural (rebellious, morally non-judgemental, supporting men otherwise sexually excluded by status)

- Libidinous (at least in my mind she's uninhibited, driven in part by an intense primal lust for men)

- Competent (professional, immediate financial and reputational incentives to satisfy the man's desire)

Dialectically this casts the regular woman as dishonest, unmerciful, conformist, frigid and incompetent. "Worse than a whore" as Feynman would say.

This is why regular women often dislike prostitutes: they feel that the latter are "too competitive", demystifying, sexual strikebreakers. Many feel that ugly/low status men should be largely or entirely sexually excluded/criminalised, especially with women who are "above their station".

"Prostitution and robbery are two living protests, respectively female and male, made by the natural state against the social state." - Honore de Balzac

The prostitute still does what she did traditionally, whether 50, 100 or 1000 years ago, the regular woman does not. The prostitute gives you a lot for relatively little, the regular woman gives you little (or nothing, or less than nothing) for a huge amount, or everything. The regular woman today has all of the vices of the prostitute but none of her virtues.

If she’s a wagie, I just can’t see how it would work:

1. She has a wagie income, meaning no relative or absolute need for a NEET’s (likely more limited) income

2. She may well feel resentment (even disgust) for a man who doesn’t just get less money, he doesn't even “go on the hunt” while she does

3. Her friends and family will work to undermine you: “Why are you with that loser?”, “You can do better.” etc.

4. I'd have no interest in sharing her with a job, co-workers, customers and a boss/bosses

50-60 extra free hours per week pre-death/retirement, no set wake up or bed time, no psychological preoccupation with work

No local geographic work-related restriction: you can travel, live where you want or with friends/family more easily

Far more energy for your own pursuits and goals (which given your lack of a job, you have a greater need to succeed in to get what you want), no workplace compulsion, indoctrination and stress/damage (which often leads to compulsive engagement in vice to cope)

Every weekday is a de facto Saturday (without the crowding and congestion from 9:30am-3:30/5:30pm on non-holidays), one can enjoy good weather, avoid bad and visit gyms, beaches or cafe's at one’s leisure

Potential for disability benefit payments every month (which are harder to lose than most jobs), as well as housing subsidies, gym perks and a free bus pass (collectively greater financial value than the net income of many or most low wage jobs), with the resources extracted by the government from the surplus produced by wageslave labour, weakening the system

You don't stress so much about spending money that you didn't labour to earn, or feel as much time pressure when you have an abundance of it

You may receive freebies or discounts (whether due to policy, sympathy, affordability, opportunity or convenience) if you're on welfare (including a lower rate of child maintenance, and far lower enforceable and payable costs if you’re sued) and your expenditure is perceived as more generous relative to your limited means, especially in voluntary contexts

Limited costs/consumption (no mortgage, no/limited car costs etc.) and consumption-related time/energy expenditure

Can get away with not owning private internet devices far more easily

Can speak, associate and act much more freely without a job: no boss/bosses, co-workers or customers, can't get fired, less to lose, more psychological independence from social norms

More mutual affinity and schedule similarity with other NEETs

Reduces the burden of frustration, resentment and humiliation concomitant with consistent monotonous labour while celibate and lacking meaningful bonds of friendship, plus NEETs know that if they have romantic partners or friends, they are not with them for financial reasons

Aren’t validating the wageslave status trap (which includes stressful resentment of "benefit scroungers"), which is good for one's self-esteem and ironic though it is, your status as a NEET is higher than it would be if you were in a bottom-tier, dead-end wageslave job, plus being a NEET can easily be framed as a defiant choice and a job can be faked if necessary (pro gambler, crypto trader, drug dealer, freelance writer etc.), or you can claim to have "independent means"

Rise every morning knowing that you are not an easily replaceable tax-farmed slave-cog

Being a life-affirming NEET undermines the faith of depressed wagies in their slave system and it holds a mirror up to them, showing them how they wasted or are wasting their lives

Reduced material benefit and psychological proximity to the slave system increases one's potential for authenticity, as someone who derives substantial material benefit from a system is usually captured by it, and should be under greater suspicion as a potential sell out

"Great men have always preferred women of the prostitute type." - Otto Weininger

“At least 20 percent of American men born between 1933 and 1942 had their first sexual intercourse with a prostitute.” - SuperFreakonomics

Men born in 1933-1942 were more masculine than subsequent generations, with those born pre-1933 more masculine still. I believe that the widespread frequenting of prostitutes was a factor in this.

Given the aforementioned statistic, it stands to reason that many of the greatest men in history were sexually initiated by prostitutes.

Prostitution is a trade much older than humans, observable among chimpanzees, monkeys, penguins and hummingbirds.

Sex is in the most basic tier (Physiological) of Maslow’s “Hierarchy of Needs”.

Prostitution:

Compels a man to get in and stay in physical and mental condition to perform with a relative stranger (at least initially) and be comfortable with a level of risk (financial, sexual, physical, social)

Reduces a man's perceived need to style himself excessively in the hope of meeting a woman socially, saving time, energy, money and reducing stress

Corporialises and demystifies intimacy and sex; takes it from the abstract and passive to the physical and active, which increases experience, confidence, competence, sociability, motivation, self-esteem, self-care, optimism and virility

Great potential variety of women and acts, selection according to one's preferences and means

Prostitutes can be sexual specialists in some areas and are often comfortable with a level of dominance that many women are not

Significantly separates sex from female validation and approval (though there is a feeling of validation as she is having sex with you, perhaps for a relatively trivial amount of money and she may well convincingly simulate enjoyment, or perhaps genuinely enjoy it) and gaining immediate access to sex via a transparent exchange eliminates rejection, reduces frustration, fear, anxiety, rumination, loneliness, powerlessness, fatalism and depression while increasing energy, belief and happiness, which in turn can reduce masturbation frequency and the appeal of masochistic fetishism/paraphilias

Reduces sexual and psychological dependence on an individual mate or potential mate, which can help one overcome excessive attachment ("oneitis") and a scarcity mindset (reducing desperation while boosting confidence and mood; one feels less necessity and pressure in interactions with women) and greatly mitigates the possibility of emotional damage (though "Johns" and prostitutes have formed relationships in rare cases and in many more there have been unrequited romantic feelings from the John), removes the pressure and inhibition of “what sex means” for one’s friendship or relationship (as would be the case with a regular woman), reduces “simping” tendencies, self-censorship around women and toxic resentment towards women (though it can promote a sense of guarded indifference towards them)

Lightens the weight of social norms, can help exorcise internalised guilt and greatly reduces the importance of looks and status to access sex: sex workers don't care if you may be an incel, a NEET, a Nazi, a vagrant, a violent criminal or a paedophile, as long as you're polite, discreet, hygienic, non-coercive and provide the money

Reduces resentment, suspicion and conflict between men, while increasing respect (relative to a man being involuntarily celibate), as it's proof of a man's confidence, potency and heterosexual drive (some male friends even use seeing prostitutes as a bonding excercise)

If it's known that you're sexually active with attractive women but not known that they're prostitutes, your attractiveness to regular women will increase

Reduces constraints on time, money (relative to many relationships), energy and freedom

Minimal risk of child support liability, false SA or assault accusations

Private: likely removed from friends, family and potential non-sex worker partners, which reduces anxiety, potential social blowback and concerns about one’s reputation (it can also be easier to confide in prostitutes than it is with friends, family or a therapist)

An article that's well worth reading:

https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2022/jul/30/a-sex-worker-gave-my-autistic-son-the-gift-of-confidence-and-i-organised-the-encounter

“When he later admitted, “This has been the best day of my life,” I knew I’d done the right thing. My son is keen on a second visit, but I told him that he’ll have to save up for it himself. Hopefully he will find a girlfriend one day and learn to enjoy sex in a loving relationship. Whatever happens, I will remain forever grateful to Anna for the gift of confidence she has given my son.” - mother of an autistic 21 year old

I would have been much better off mentally and physically if instead of viewing internet porn for the first time at age 11, I’d had sex with a prostitute.

Rid yourself of the feelings of humiliation associated with explicitly paying for sex and of lingering romantic obsessions. The blinkered quest for some kind of “pure” female validation is an obstacle to personal growth. Don't wait to be chosen, choose yourself.

“Jesus, buddy, what the hell were ya doin’ in there?”

“Fuckin’,” I told the gentleman and walked down the hall and down the steps and stood outside in the road and lit one of those sweet Mexican cigarettes in the moonlight.

Liberated and human again for a mere $3, I loved the night, Mexico and myself. - Charles Bukowski

An incel's account:

"3+ months ago I was considering roping more than ever before. The pressure from that and being a KHHV really messed up my mental, so I decided to pay out the ass for an hour with a high class escort in case I died. In a sense, I didn't want to do it. I had always planned to have my first time with my wife. Of course, at this age I'm never going to find a virgin foid to share in that experience and I'm unsure whether I'll even be married. I can't describe how gut wrenching the build-up was to meeting her. The anxiety was the worst in my life, consisting of hours worth of a pounding head, nausea, total obliviousness, some tearing up, and diarrhea. Strangely, the feeling dissipated about 30 minutes before meeting her. It was a feeling of tranquil resignation; I had accepted that my life amounted to this: my first sexual experience would be in my mid 20s with a prostitute. For good and bad, this would be with me the rest of my life. I enjoyed the sex despite everything, but as someone without friends or family, talking with her about anything and everything was just as enjoyable. I was so comfortable that I told her I'm autistic (something I never do) and she replied "What's that?" JFL.

Whilst ultimately being saddened by the whole situation, I appreciate the good that came from it. For a couple weeks, my mental state was better than ever before. My depressed libido spiked and made me cum buckets. My suicidal thoughts and sadness subsided for a time and were permanently reduced. I woke up energized instead of groggy. My mind is at ease knowing what sex is like. I know escorting is a remedy for me in the future. The experience also changed my opinion on prostitution: Some people, mostly mentally or physically disabled men, really do have sexual needs that should be fulfilled by professionals. These trucels deserve legal, state subsidised and mandated sex. I still maintain its degenerate for all others. I LIGHTLY recommend escortmaxxing at least once if you've genuinely tried and failed at attracting foids. Everyone's different, but I knew this would help me. I thank that foid, nay, dare I say woman, for all she did to help me."

Another commented:

"Yeah, there's a lot of catharsis you feel after fucking a woman. I don't understand how dudes can work for years without sex. That would be miserable. I first started seeing escorts at 23, and I still see them often. When you're really stressed seeing an escort will provide major relief and give you energy. When I'm exhausted from work I go to the massage parlor, and it's so effective that if I had another job I'd easily be able to do it because of the physical relief you get from fucking escorts."

Another escortmaxer on the forums:

Why Prostitutes are better than other foids.

"For one thing, prostitutes have up front pricing.

Even if you ever got married……there is no telling how much money it would cost you per each fuck. Gifts, dinners, dates…..these things add up quick.

A hooker will just come out with a set price.

For another, you get to choose the hooker you want.

Anyone, who is an incel, will never be able to just pick their girlfriend out of a crowd.

If we ever get wives/girlfriends…..it will just be whatever foid is willing to date us.

We will just have to date that one foid, because no other foid is interested in us.

And that is a big “IF” we find a girlfriend at all.

Thirdly, hookers are less judgmental.

They have seen hundreds of small cocks, they will still fuck you.

They have fucked many manlets, even shorter than you.

Autism doesn’t mean shit to a hooker. As long as you don’t hurt her, she doesn’t care how crazy you are.

Just pay the money and you are in.

Fourthly, hookers can’t file for child support or alimony.

If she gets pregnant, she has no idea who the father is. She fucked a hundred guys that week.

Fifthly, hookers are more open to different types of sex.

You will never hear a hooker complain that she really doesn’t like giving blowjobs.

Sixthly, you can fuck as often as you have the money for.

So many men only get their girlfriends to fuck them once a week.