remember us as we fade into the night

all i need is a sweet treat. and six thousand dollars

Was explaining some gender things to a straight cis friend today vis a vis gender presentation VS gender identity when it suddenly dawned on me with much the same horror as getting to work and realizing you left the stove on, that unless you've been immersed in a queer culture for some time you'd have no way of knowing that appearing androgynous/indeterminate/wildly gender-nonconforming is HOT

(Running around knocking things over in a panic) NOBODY TOLD THE NONQUEERS THAT BLURRING THE GENDER BINARY IS THE GOAL SOMETIMES SHIT SHIT SHIT

Friend of mine at work was expressing frustration at not knowing someone's gender on sight and I had to find a way to gently tell them that thirty of my closest friends regularly leave the house thinking "boy I hope someone has to fucking take a guess today" without sounding like it was all a huge prank