The Sugar Life Newbie

- “I don’t want the relationship to feel too transactional”

- “No hookers, whores, or professionals”

- “I need to see bikini pics/nudes/lingerie pics first”

- “We’ll need to test our chemistry before discussing an allowance”

- “I feel like you’re only talking to me for money”

- “I can only send your allowance through your bank, so I’ll need your login information”

-“I don’t want to feel like an ATM”

- “I can pay for an Uber/hotel room, but it’ll have to come out of your allowance”

- “I don’t need to pay a woman for her company”

- “I can’t afford your allowance AND a hotel”

- “I’m going to need some sample nudes to make sure you’re worth it”

-“Can you host?”

Tired of Saying Mutually Beneficial?

Say you’re a traditionalist. Say you want a man to be the man in the relationship - the breadwinner, the provider.

In return you’re the loving, caring, beautiful, and all-around perfect woman. You’ll care for him, love him, and always be there. But for to you always be there, to always look beautiful, and be all-around perfect your man needs to provide for you - financially, emotionally, and of course physically (🙄🙄🙄).

- “I don’t want the relationship to feel too transactional”

- “No hookers, whores, or professionals”

- “I need to see bikini pics/nudes/lingerie pics first”

- “We’ll need to test our chemistry before discussing an allowance”

- “I feel like you’re only talking to me for money”

- “I can only send your allowance through your bank, so I’ll need your login information”

-“I don’t want to feel like an ATM”

- “I can pay for an Uber/hotel room, but it’ll have to come out of your allowance”

- “I don’t need to pay a woman for her company”

- “I can’t afford your allowance AND a hotel”

- “I’m going to need some sample nudes to make sure you’re worth it”

-“Can you host?”

My dear, darling, beautiful SBs. If you’re unable to get cash payment, and you think PayPal is your only option, please stop and read below, my dears.

Make a fake Gmail, or if your sugar email is a gmail, you’re a step ahead. Use your real phone number for security, it’s okay. Really.

Now, once you get that account set up with your sugar name, normal phone, and sugar email, add on Google Wallet to your sugar email account. Connect it to your debit card. When you want your SD to send you money, give him the email, that’s all he needs. Nothing personal shows at all. On the bank statement, once you “claim” the payment to be put into your account, it just refers to the payment on your bank statement as “Google*Wallet” or something like that. And on your SD’s bank statement, it shows something similar.

No personal info. Just give him that email and get your money.

Sometimes all you have to do is outlast the old you! Usually when humans start a new venture, they complain at how hard it is. The truth is that the potential you have is fighting the woman you used to be. When doubt enters your mind, ignore it! That’s the old you calling. Understand that the feeling of doubt will subside. But if you quit, that feeling will last forever!

Before you quit ANYTHING (esp. the bowl) I want you to think about this:

Every year girls enter the bowl. After 6 months, 50% of the girls drop out. They either weren’t cut out for the game or swerved into the fast lane.

8 months after that, another 10% drop out. Who cares why…they’re gone. 5 years after that, girls tend to sway into other forms of sex work or fall on hard times and boom 💥 another 25% drop out or get a regular job.

That means that 15% of the girls you see ‘trying to sugar, actually make it to the real bowl! This Instagram and Tumblr shit is nothing compared to the big leagues. You ever notice that the top notch SB’s and trophy wives are OG’s? That’s because the first test of the bowl is TIME. Get your feet wet, build your wardrobe, go to school, save some money up. This game isn’t for the weak or uncommitted. It’s mental and I think you have what it takes!

1. You want me to look beautiful, don’t you? 
(Translation: Buy me that outfit/hair/nails/lingerie)

2. You said you want the best for me.
(Translation: Give me the extra money)

3. I just want to feel safe and secure.
(Translation: Get me my own hotel suite)

4. You’ve inspired me to be better
(Translation: pay for this elite yoga retreat)

5. I feel like you don’t trust me and I’m giving you my body. 
(Translation: Give me the money first) 

6. Take me to XYZ and I’ll look so beautiful you’ll make all the men in the room jealous 
(Translation: Take me to this broadway play)

7. I bought a new bikini for you! When are you gonna let me show it off for you (Translation: take me to Hawaii)

If you missed Part 1 to this Series, you can read it here.

*** Again, this list is based SOLELY on MY experience in the bowl. I’m not saying to do these exact things, however this is just a guide to get you going. ***

Now that you’ve made a Sugar Alter Ego, it’s time to go to work. Not every man you come across on these sites are Sugar Daddy material. A LOT of these men are creeps looking for some naive girl to give them free sex, and that’s not what we’re here for!

These next couple of steps are trial and error. Not one man is the same, therefore not every technique will work.

Step 4: Screening POTs

In the Sugar World, a POT is a potential Sugar Daddy. For this step, let’s assume all men are POTs.

Before you can meet with a POT, you need to screen him. Screening is a tedious process within itself, however, the more information you collect, the better AND SAFER you’ll be in the long run.

These are some things you can ask to collect information: 

- How is your commute from work to home & vice versa?

- What does your job actually entail?

- Did you go to college to major in your field? Or did you have another major/job fielding mind?

- Do you like your car? Why did you decide to settle on that one? Do you plan to purchase another?

Now usually, you would NOT ask these questions straight out first meeting or talking to a POT. You can use these questions as a disguise of ‘breaking the ice’ and getting know more about your POT. Also, pay attention to the minor details. Often, we drop subtle hints of our life when just talking randomly or even when we feel comfortable with the person we’re talking to. Those small details can fill in the gaps of what you couldn’t find out straight away.

Now that you have some information on your POT, go searching. You can use some websites that find out people’s backgrounds such as:

- LinkedIn

- FreeBackgroundCheck.org

- Google Image Search

-Facebook Search phone numbers or emails

These will just get the ball rolling. Once you find a LInkedIn or Facebook page, you can access the POT’s job, high school/college, friends/co-workers/family, Hometown/Current City, hobbies, etc.

Now that you’ve talked to and screened the POTs, next is preparing for a date. Before you decide to meet up with your POT, boundaries must be set. Agree to meet in a public place (i.e: restaurant, mall, Starbucks) so if you should run into trouble, the POT knows not to make a scene and cause attention to himself. Please use this to your advantage, SAFETY IS ALWAYS IMPORTANT!