There was absolutely no consent here. I don’t care if you think you’re some radical feminist, this should clearly be wrong to you!
*by that I mean both parties should really want it, it shouldn’t be a “well she/he really wants it so I guess I should too.”
** You should be asking for consent whenever you change the level of intimacy. Even if it’s just from hand holding to kissing. Always ask if your partner is okay with going further. Don’t just assume.
*** Consent must be clear, meaning you’re partner needs to say a definite yes.
**** This one is kind of obvious but both partners need to be on the same page. And they both should want it.
Taking advantage of someone while their drunk or intoxicated is 70% of the rapes that happen. When someone’s drunk or high, they are not clear in their consent as they aren’t fully aware of what their doing. Niether can it be mutual, as again, they don’t know what they’re doing.