also while iām ranting about gender i always see debate about whether girls are rewarded for being tomboys or not and itās like. actually girls are rewarded for mirroring whatever the situation demands of them. girls canāt be too prissy and refuse to play in the creek, but girls also canāt show up to girly events covered in mud. girls canāt have makeup art as a hobby or else theyāre superficial, but if they never wear makeup theyāre a slob and dumpy, etc. itās not that girls are universally rewarded or punished for being tomboys, theyāre rewarded for bending over backwards to always be exactly right for any given situation and punished for breaking those boundaries. so yes a classically pretty girl who cleans up nice is rewarded when she can ALSO be a tomboy. but a girl who is a tomboy all the time is definitely punished for never being able to achieve that prerequisite feminine side. this debate is over now thanks
















