Ebony Empressgetter

First reblog post that actually saves a life.

This is a life-saving post.

the more you know

yeah don’t think that this can’t happen to you or someone you know if they’re young. my cousin’s wife is 33 and she had a stroke last year

F- Face: is their face fallen on one side?

A- Arms: can they raise both their arms up and hold them there?

S- Speech: is their speech slurred? Can they speak a full sentence?

T- Time: if all the signs show a stroke, call 999.

The Internet

The internet is highly underrated!!!! Like, their music is pure silk.

Songs:

• Come over

• Girl

• Get away

• Special Affair/Curse

• La Di Da

Sonder/Brent Faiyaz

This. Shit. Is. Straight. Up. Gold. I can’t!!!!!!!

You have to listen to their stuff!!!!!

Songs:

• literally the whole A.M. Paradox Album (I have it on repeat since days now)

• The whole Sonder Son Album - especially Make Luv and Stay down

• Too fast

• Talk 2 U

• Feel

• Poison

• Lovely

• Insecure

Classic - Erykah Badu

Do I even have to say anything?

Songs:

• On & On

• Hello ft. Andre 3000

• Window seat

• Back in the day

Everything. She is the epitome of chill music.

Willow Smith

Even tho everyone knows bout willow by now I feel like her music isn’t really appreciated the way it should be. Just want to put that in here!

Songs:

• female energy (just listen man✨)

• flower

• 9 ft. Sza

• Wait a minute

Dvsn

If you want vocals that’ll cause chills - something new but high in quality… I recommend you to go listen to DVSN right now.

Songs:

• The Line (for 90’s/00’s feels)

• Mood

• Too deep

• With me

• Do it well

• Think about me

• Hallucinations

• Nuh time/Tek time

Daniel Caesar

Everyone knows bout him, but nobody can deny, that his music is actually good.

• Japanese jeans

• Blessed (to really get into your feels)

• Get you ft. Kali uchis (listen to her music too…she’ll probably be on part 2)

• Best part ft. H.E.R - she’ll be on a playlist too

• We find love

• Take Me Away ft. Syd (she’s the lead voice of The Internet)

Miguel

Miguel has been here for ages and he’s not getting the credit he deserves 😑

• Come through and chill - vevo version

• How many drinks? ft. Kendrick Lamar

• Sky walker

• Adorn (Gold…pure gold)

• Banana clip

• Pineapple skies

• Sure thing

• Told you so

Basically listen to everything he puts out!

Steve lacy

Honestly how handsome can you be? He’s mad talented (if you listen to come over by the internet you’ll know! He’s only 20 y/o… way to go.

• Some

• Dark Red

• Looks

• C u girl

• Out of my head

Lauryn Hill

She is and will always be a queen.

• To Zion

• Ex-Factor (obviously)

• Everything is everything

• Can’t take my eyes of you

• Nothing even matters (chills)

I’ll post part two in a few hours

- Dr Amos N. Wilson

whatever point you want to make about marriage in the black community and black men, if it requires that you LIE THEN YOUR POINT IS NOT VALID!!

and just because a fucking black male celebrity marries a white women, doesn’t mean all black men are out here looking for white women!! stop fucking letting celebrity shit fuck with your head and the facts!

now if you can’t accept the facts…

there are many flaws to be found in the black male. many indeed however this lie that black men are running from black women to marry and / or cohabitate with non-black women isn’t one of them. the facts, the data contradicts that nonsense and it has for a very very long time. i am not however going to post any links to anything because if one is too lazy to just google “us marriage statistics 2014 by race,” look at the census data, look up the pew research and the like then you’re too lazy to be a part of this conversation. the data has been right there all this time and yet we still act like the opposite is true. we talk as if black men are marrying non black women by the millions and black women by the few thousands. stop the lies! if whatever point you seek to make require lies, then you have no point to make.

see it’s important to seek out what is happening on a national level when it comes to things like this because what we see in our neighborhoods isn’t always representative of what’s happening on the macro level. we have to be very careful about deciding that a small sample size or what we see in our small corner of the world is the truth about an entire group of people across a nation. i mean i grew up around some truly trifling black women. cheaters, liars, brawlers, bad mothers and the like. i am sure all black women on here would raise a stink if i decided that those women represented all black women and thus black women everywhere are cheaters, can’t be trusted, gold-diggers, liars and the like. yet we have no problems doing that very thing to black men all the live long day! for instance someone brought up long distance relationships into this conversation and how so many black men were in ldr with white women. to that I say “where the data? where is the national database tracking race statics of long distance relationships in america?” well there is none. so that would mean that we would have to rely on your limited information on the subject that comes strictly from your very local observations. that is very dangerous because maybe it is true that around you black males are often in ldr with white women however that might not be true nationally. also your view could be affected by confirmation bias (wherein one only recognizes and accepts information that supports their point of view and rejects everything else) and therefore completely skewed. these are all the traps we fall into when we take our limited view of a group and decide that is indeed what an entire group is like. sometimes we are right but more often we are wrong therefore we should, if we care to be intellectually honest in this conversations, seek out unbiased national data. maybe it’ll prove us right; maybe it’ll prove us wrong but at least that data will be a much more accurate representation of what is true everywhere than just what we see in our small corner of the world.

and here tumblr had me thinking it was only black men on social media fetishizing mix race babies and black women being the voice of reason. /sarcasm

people who are complaining about how this attacks black women are completely missing the point AND in so doing prove my point that when the shoe is on the other foot, everything changes. if these were black men, these replies would be filled with all manner of nastiness. there are plenty of posts that stand as examples. is the self hatred shown here a problem? yes. it is a problem for both black men AND women? yes. however let’s be brutality honest here, most only hear and see that it’s a problem in black men. only and that’s my frustration. it is also why i am slowly learning not to pay attention to complaints from most black women on tumblr because it’s hypocritical. they do the very thing they demand not done to them. not a single person would raise a stink if these posts were all black men. no one but switch it up and now everyone suddenly has a problem. smfh. and those who think i’m going extreme by using those black women (not the ones in the tweets mind you cause clearly people can’t read) as a reason not to listen to most black women on here have to be fucking honest with themselves and admit they do the same shit to black men. they take a few, decide we all “ain’t shit” and no one can talk them out if so why can’t they take it now? why can’t we do the same? you would think this would be a moment where we would admit the hyprocrisy and possibly decided to cut that shit out but nope. they’re going to ignore their part in this, play like they’ve done nothing wrong and turn this into a “niggas ain’t shit” post smh. bottom line, we’re supposed to walk around like black women are above reproach and never ever do shit. not over here.  

so again, this isn’t a “black women are trash” post. i’ve called out black men on shit like this going way back and still do today. the point here is that black women do it too and so why don’t we speak on that in the very (VERY) same way we speak on it when black men do this bullshit? that’s the conversation i’m trying to have. no red herrings, no appeals to ridicule, no ad hominems, no relative privations and etc. nope. this. the topic and question i’ve presented. let’s discuss that. because again i can’t take y'all seriously when it’s “black man does x” and the response is “niggas ain’t shit, coon motherfuckers, bitchass nigga, fuck them, they hate us so much, we need to stop showing up for black men and etc” but when black women do the very same x, the response is “we need to have a constructive dialogue on this issue, what’s their backstory, they’re just hurting, we need to heal ourselves of all this internalized racism” and etc. if that’s the game y'all going to play, i not going to listen to none of y'all on here anymore. and that’s exactly the right thing to do. there will be many things that keep us black people from truly unifying and this incongruity will be one of them. we should all cut the shit out. black men AND black women but we can’t have this “don’t do x to me while i do x to you” bullshit going around.

and to quote the many black women on here “if it doesn’t apply to you then you have nothing to worry about.”  “of course we don’t mean all black women”  “why y’all getting all in your feelings?”

@kingzcrooks 

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Show me yours. If your logic is I’ll should ONLY speak on Black male fuckery and, I guess, you’ll speak on Black female fuckery, show us where you have called out Black women on their shit. 

and somehow “not wanting to be made fun of” didn’t make it into your “hate themselves” category? so the premise of your other argument is that ONLY black men want mix race children for the “bad reason” while black women want it for the quasi “good/understandable reason” which conveniently casts them as victims to be feel bad for while black men are villains. even in your argument you show your bias in pretending as if black women can’t be just coonish, just as ignorant as any black man with the same reasons and motivations of coonish black men. laughable. i know my dark skin ass was made fun of by black girls and women all the time growing up. so black men clearly can posses this desire to not be made fun of, to escape the pain of ridicule as well in their decision making process for dating a white woman and wanting mix race babies but recognizing this requires three things: recognizing the emotions of black boys/men, valuing those emotions (in spite of how differently we may express or deal with those emotions as well as accepting that we will express and deal with those emotions differently than women and that’s ok) and fully accepting that black women can be just as coonish and villianish (not a word but whatever) as any black man for the same reasons. 

and as for fetishizing, if a black man posted a photo of a mix race girl baby and call that baby cute and the reason they want mix race baby, y’all would call that fetishizing. i see that often from black women tho. funny how that slipped your radar. 

but hey you can save your argument by showing at least 10x posts in the past two months… three months (let’s make it easy) where you took black female coonery, black female fuckery to task with the same veracity and ferocity as black men get it. because if you can’t then again you’re being a hyprocrite. i call out black men and black male fuckery all the time. do you do the same for black women and black female fuckery? if not you’re proving my point. 

if there is one thing you can count on black women for is never wanting to own up to their shit. they will call black men out on shut all the live long fucking day but when it comes down time to own up to their shit? crickets. and you can count on them calling you their enemy as a black men if you want let them skate on their bullshit. it will be cries of misogyny and misogynior just for not letting get buy on shit they would happily call black men on. do that and you’ll be fucking enemy of the state but me? nah ain’t never scared.

you ain’t going to hold me to shit you will not hold yourself to. ain’t happening here. my rule on this blog and in my life is simple: recognize and expose all bullshit. everybody and every group has some bullshit. call all the bullshit out. your, their’s, his, hers, liberals, conservatives, red state, blue state, black, white, hispanic, asian, native… whatever. that’s what equality and fairness actually is. hard to find tho. mighty hard to find. especially amongst women and yes black women. 

and for you brothas who think that by ignoring the fuckery that black women do you are acting in solidarity with black women, YOU’RE WRONG! in the words of the buddhist proverb 

if you befriend another person but lack the mercy to correct him, you are in fact his enemy. the consequences of this offense are extremely difficult to erase. the most important thing is to continually strengthen your compassion to save others from their own slanderous nature.