But there were NO SIGNS!!

Fat "Redistribution" is an inglorious misnomer. Once saturated the fat your body produces will go where the HRT tells it. Sometimes ya have to work old fat off or take in more calories for your body to fill out properly.

Shaming others for their kink or sex work backgrounds is antithetical to the existence of trans identity. Most of us had this as our only path or had no choice but to take on SW. Same with hypno, sissies etc. No shaming.

There's nothing wrong with continuing to enjoy things even if you were shoe-horned into them by society while in your egg state. Electricians, technicians, plumbers, construction workers and mechanics can transition too.

Whether it be social pressures or brain chemistry being corrected your tastes are going to change. Sometimes dramatically. Things I once hated I now love and can't do without. Like myself; I actually like who I am now <3

You don't have to figure yourself out all at once. You can go from identifying as a femboy to GF to Pan Gender. You can exhaust every pronoun and neo-pronoun only to land on something else later. It is fine. It is valid.

If your main fear of transition is you think you would turn out unattractive then you've fallen into the trap meant to keep cis folk comfortable. A happier you is magnitudes of order more attractive than a miserable you.

There's no shame in coming from a fetish background into your transition. A load of us had no idea what we were until we saw it in porn and we only had that context to explore that identity for a long time. Still valid.

Catty behavior among queer folk is like sexual harassment in the work place. It might be "part of the culture" but it is unwanted and needs to go. It was a reason I avoided transition. I didn't need more bullies.

You can get testing done on your blood if you are DIY. GPs can also provide access to HRT. A lot of services claim to provide a lot of transition care but get expensive compared to paying a Family Doctor out of pocket.

Those jokes about swapping body parts you keep making with trans mascs are not actually funny or cute at all. All you need is someone trans masc to demand you surrender your balls or Adam's apple to realize it's cringe.

It's never too late to transition. Ever.

You don't need to have experienced dysphoria before choosing to transition and you may never experience it ever. Those who say otherwise are gatekeeping and wrong.

Loads of your heroes are going to become hostile. Forever. This is especially true of any celebrities you may be a fan of. It hurts most when it's someone you know personally. Weed toxic people out of your life.

It's best to think of the facial hair removal ritual LESS as "shaving" and MORE like "really brutal skin care". You are washing your face but using an ice scrapper to do it. It's something you gotta do or you can't see.

HRT users on E: Emotions are gonna hit different and at odd times. Especially early on. Doubly if you are going from androgenic to estrogenic. It's gonna be WHACKY. It evens out and you'll deep dive feelings easier.

As a child I was fascinated by ancient cultures. Greek, Chinese and later Japanese were my favorites. Their takes on gender were always my focus tho. Being trans and knowing as much from a young age I looked everywhere for a cultural tie to how I felt. Greek myths of men being turned into women and the Chinese pirate captains who were female all grabbed me. Then I learned about the Japanese geisha. How princesses were taught to use bow and spear. The influence of the women of the court. I wanted terribly to learn how to perform a tea ceremony. From dressing and makeup to the ritual behind it all. I expressed this to my parents. They didn't listen well. So I got shifted over to karate and Bushido and so on. The stuff "for boys" that didn't challenge them to think about gender and their child. The piss warm feeling of knowing they didn't have to think for themselves and what was best for their child. Nope. They could just do w/e minmal effort BS the religious morons they followed told them to do.

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But with just a little help I can continue to fight and make things better.

Of what has been raised so far about 200 has gone to supplies and communication. We've not made enough to get a vehicle or hire a truck just yet but we are very close!

No. They're not being COY or PLAYFUL or mocking ambivalence. being bashful nor "playing hard-to-get". They are scared. Scared that you are going to enforce your will on them. On their body. It might be an irrational fear. You might be an amazing person who is just a little bit misguided. Problem is they have either experienced or know of other's experience with this scenario. You walk up, start plying them with words or actions in hopes of provoking a positive response and they practically freeze up. They are here to grab a drink/do their workout/have a meal/on their way to work or home. They are here with a purpose unrelated to you and your desires. Leave them be. Push back. Maybe apologize if they seem uncomfortable. But LEAVE. Because you being in the same space makes that space feel unsafe. The fear escalates. It poisons them and ruins ANY chance of even amiable co-existence with that person later. LEAVE.