Moonlitsummit

I don’t mean being in a relationship with someone who’s stringing you along or never getting over someone hoping they’ll eventually like you back, obviously, but like... the idea that if someone doesn’t return feelings for you then they were never worth your attention in the first place or that they should “look at what’s right beside them” or whatever is so bad but I also see it everywhere. Sometimes someone can be worthy of your love and also not like you back that way.

On top of that is the expectations of perfect love or that being in unrequited love is pathetic or sad, or that you can only be happy if someone you like a certain way likes you back the same way, and I fully blame societal amatonormativity for this. In movies and books unrequited love is always framed as either “they were never good enough for you (and usually there’s an undercurrent of about implication they were ‘using’ you)” or “by the end they realized what they were looking for was right beside them the entire time, they fall in love the end” and like

Yeah, it sucks when someone doesn’t like you back, but I’ve been in unrequited love a few times now and my general experience is that I don’t love them less because they love me differently. All my loves were close friends first, and they all remain close friends to this day, aware of my current or former feelings, and it’s... okay.

It’s okay to not be in storybook love. It’s okay to love someone differently than they love you. It’s okay to love someone who’s aroace or gay or straight and can’t be into you that way. It’s okay to be in love with someone and not want to start a relationship with them because you’re not ready or you’re happy single or you’re relationship types aren’t compatible, and it’s okay to fall in love with someone who loves someone else who isn’t the bad guy either.

Love is supposed to feel good. Loving being in love without it being requited is okay. Nobody has to be the villain or the bad guy or the one that’s missing out—sometimes, they just don’t fall in love with you, and that’s okay! If you fell in love with them for the right reasons, you should still love having them in your life, and love having them in your life while your feelings settle and you can both move forward.

Feelings are valid. Jealousy and pain and yearning are par for the course, but what you do with those feelings matters more than whether or not your feelings were returned. It’s okay to be in love with someone and happy to be their friend, because friendship isn’t a backburner to romantic or queerplatonic feelings or anything else. They can love you as a friend.

Stories can end without romantic or qp or other requited resolution—in my experience, sometimes it makes your relationship stronger, to be able to talk about those feelings and move forward without having them be requited. You can move forward, or move on, or stay in love or fall in love with someone else, and it’s okay. Sometimes it works out and sometimes it doesn’t and maybe we want different things from the people we love, but it’s not a waste of time or a waste of feeling or a waste of a friendship for something to not work out how you’d hoped.

Stop with the “oh well I’m white and i agree” or the “I’m white and I’m sorry for us” on posts about racism

Stop with the lengthy apologizes when you do something small like write the above on posts and someone calls you out on it

Stop asking me for my opinon on what this famous black person did

Stop asking me for my opinion on if a thing is racist or not

Stop asking me to explain basic racist shit to you

Stop telling black people about the time you called your racist uncle out on his racism or the protests you went to

Stop asking for my opinion on things you did that you’re scared is racist/has racist undertones

Stop with the white guilt… It ain’t helpin nobody

Stop asking one black person for their opinion on something about race… You gotta ask more black people if you want an accurate representation of something because not all of us are the same/think the same thing

Stop treating black people like we’re “professors” on racism

“Am I falling in love with the one who could break my heart?”

Here are the bois!Stardew Valley Hubbys Lemmi know who ur favs are! mine are (Elliot,Shane,Harvey)

Wow they look all so much better when i put them together lol hope people dont mind me blogging all the gals together, probably should of done that before hand and waited till i finished the whole set buuuut here they are!